01-04-2012, 09:12 PM
Join Date: May 2011
| | Re: a weigh scale for Xmas? wtf?
I see the men have stayed clear of this one lol.
Did you tell him (calmly) how you felt about the scale? I can't even imagine something like this happening to me, to be honest. If it did, I can tell you that scale would get returned to the store pronto!
Losing weight and supporting each others goals is one thing. Being inconsiderate and imo, disrespectful, is another thing entirely. I do believe it's important to keep our spouses attracted to us (physically and mentally) but reading your other threads, it doesn't sound like you're being treated well at all. Put a stop to it. Demonstrate how you expect to be treated.
It sounds you have lost your confidence. I don't know how you build that up again, but I'd imagine it's just one step at a time with remembering your own self-worth and implementing positive behaviors that show this. Don't let yourself be a victim. If something isn't cool with you, then express that to him. And I don't mean scream and throw a tantrum. It's about being in control of yourself, answering to yourself, and knowing you deserve more than this. If you want to lose weight, then do it. Don't fall into the trap of playing victim to resentment either - try not to emotionally eat "I'll show him" and gain even more weight. Treat yourself with respect and love, in all aspects of your life. Sure, easier said than done but still doable.
"Victims; aren't we all" - The Crow