I decided to post this here, to get a fellow man's perspective on this subject, but I'm very open to anyone's opinion. This is something I've been mulling over since my divorce. But I decided to take time off from relationships and dive into some of nerdier hobbies.
The main reason for this consideration is I completey skipped that phase of my life while I was in college. There were lots of girls I liked, but I either found out they had a BF or decided they were out of league and gave up. Essentially, I had NO long or short term relationships with women, and hardly any dates either, untiL I met my now XW. Sex was also one of the issues, and I wouldn't mind getting better at that.
So any tips from guys who have down that road. I don't know if it will even happen in the short period of time I have left (out of town), and obviously, I don't think hiring a prostitute is a good idea.
Regardless, I've been out of state for 2 weeks now, 1 week left to go. I was considering trying this hook-up thing since I have a nice room to myself, clean bed, etc. At home, I'm not in an ideal dwelling to do this, and I can explain more if needed.
I'm in Union City, CA, not too far from San Francisco...I'm just not too sure where and how to meet women and how to lead the situation to a potential ONS. I know bars and clubs are the typical places to go, i could do that if nessecary, I guess, but they're not my favorite place to go. Also, there doesnt' seem to be a lot of bars in the immediate area.
I'm 39, average looking I would say, probably look a little nerdy because I wear glasses. Average build, not too overweight or anything.
I also DL'ed Tinder, and swiped quite a bit, and uploaded a decent pic of me smiling on Fisherman's Wharf. I'm guessing I could/should polish my profile and maybe any other tips on how to use Tinder (i.e. can you message people at random or do they have to be a "match"?)
Any thoughts would be appreciated!!
P.s. If this is in the wrong forum, please move it to the appropriate one. Also, I got some great advice from @Ynot
and others in the other thread I created, but that thread seems to have died, so I'm trying this out.