Day 2...hubby is having difficulty sitting for long periods of time. Normal? Anyone?
Definitely NOT normal.
I did lots of research before having mine. Most resources give the usual info about feeling like you were kicked in the nads and having some bruising.
Some of the more candid sites go into some of the other problems that are not uncommon consequences of surgery - hematoma, extensive brusing, infection, the fact that a certain percentage of men are in pain for longer than the quoted weekend.
No where did I see that your nuts would hurt from letting them rest on a cushion (as opposed from too much physical activity). If it hurts to just rest them on something, it would hurt to simply touch them - that doesn't sound normal to me.
Now, I had this same problem (could not drive to work pain-free). That (and the fact that I always had to use the restroom) were likely the first signs something was wrong.
Today is Saturday. If he still cannot sit up normally by Monday (day 4) get thyselves to the urologist and get checked out (or get a urologist if one did you do the surgery). Until then, wear a jock, stay reclined, and use ice (frozen peas or corn kernels).
I remember when I went back a few days after the procedure to have my dressing changed. The doc told me that the anti-septic/anesthetic he was going to apply to my scrotum could knock me out and that I should grab on to the bench. WHOA! He wasn't sh!ting me . I've never experienced such a fast acting knock out in all my life - not counting one from a fist of course. I'm glad that I listened to him and brought my (late) wife with me to drive the car after we left his office.
Your husband's experience is much different from mine. In my case, no swelling, a lot less pain than I expected. I did not need the ice pack, and returned the jock strap unopened. I did take it easy all weekend and from what everyone says, that's very important.
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Day 2...hubby is having difficulty sitting for long periods of time. Normal? Anyone?
I did too, but only because I'm not used to sitting around all the time. Kind of went stir crazy just sitting around.
My husband was not sitting on a cushion. He also refuses to take painkillers; my husband complained about the difficulty sitting when he was driving.
He's doing much better today. Much less pain. Of course, he has been resting more as well.
I found sitting for long periods was a bit uncomfortable. Nothing unbearable, but I did find that getting up to move around after an hour or so, then sitting back down in different chair was helpful.
He has gone back to work today. Only a dull ache now.
I have been counting the HOURS until we can enjoy each other again. This kitty is in heat.
be gentle with his nuts! it is like landing on a crossbar of a bike if you grab him in just that way. You will not believe how fast a man can lose interest!
Just experiment gently. He may have a little pain during sex for a year or two, when his nuts are grabbed just the wrong way!
This is not my experience , its just a story of how it went with one of my friends :
So , he got to the doctors office , nurse asked him some routine questions + if he would preffer male or female nurse ? Of course he said male , as he is married and felt that it would be unfair to his wife if some strange woman was looking @his balls . Male nurse called him in , got changed ,put the gown on , sat in the chair . Doctor came in , grabbed his stones and said " cold this morning isnt it? , they are little tens , let me loosen them a little " and he started playing with his stones while the male nurse was standing right over my friend looking at the doctor juggling his balls . He was so embarassed that almost ran away from the chair . Just imagine , straight man , married , children , very high self esteem having his balls played with by a man while another guy is watching yikes
My wonderful husband is going under the knife this Friday. We were very happy to find a clinic that did not bother with all the intrusive are-you-sure nonsense. Nobody who wants to have children down the road would opt for a permanent procedure.
Now we will be able to honestly say that we cannot have children, when nosy people needle us about becoming parents.
Men of TAM, how did your vasectomies play out? Did it take very long for you to heal and return to your sex lives? My husband bruises very easily, so I am anticipating a longer recovery time. I asked him to take the Monday off just in case.
Aside from what the doctors have told us, is there anything else we should be aware of?
Best thing I have ever done. Not a single regret. No complications, sore a few days. I would have a bag of peas or corn in the freezer, it works well for an ice pack.
This is not my experience , its just a story of how it went with one of my friends :
So , he got to the doctors office , nurse asked him some routine questions + if he would preffer male or female nurse ? Of course he said male , as he is married and felt that it would be unfair to his wife if some strange woman was looking @his balls . Male nurse called him in , got changed ,put the gown on , sat in the chair . Doctor came in , grabbed his stones and said " cold this morning isnt it? , they are little tens , let me loosen them a little " and he started playing with his stones while the male nurse was standing right over my friend looking at the doctor juggling his balls . He was so embarassed that almost ran away from the chair . Just imagine , straight man , married , children , very high self esteem having his balls played with by a man while another guy is watching yikes
lol, I have an upcoming appointment for this, but in the consultation the doc had to feel around and make sure my tubes were in the right place. It was -30C that morning, with wind, and things were a little more than "tense" as is he had to roll them down from my abdomen, and of course having a man do that just makes them want to go higher. So he had to be pretty aggressive to get them and keep them down where he needed them to be, it was very uncomfortable, somewhat painful and he said that during the procedure he would have to be just as assertive, so I'm not really that anxious
Strange as it may seem on this forum, tell your hubby not to read anything on the Internet. Right before mine, I read some dude who said his stones swelled up bigger than footballs. My doctor told me to quit reading the internet. I think some people just post junk like that to scare guys.
A couple of days in bed with an ice pack. A couple of weeks of wearing an athletic supporter. Six months after the fact, I can't even tell I ever had any surgery.
Just do it! And stay off the "vasectomy" forums while recuperating.
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. I've never experienced such a fast acting knock out in all my life - not counting one from a fist of course. I'm glad that I listened to him and brought my (late) wife with me to drive the car after we left his office.
looking at the doctor juggling his balls . He was so embarassed that almost ran away from the chair . Just imagine , straight man , married , children , very high self esteem having his balls played with by a man while another guy is watching 
yikes
We were very happy to find a clinic that did not bother with all the intrusive are-you-sure nonsense. Nobody who wants to have children down the road would opt for a permanent procedure. 
