Is a woman being overweight a total turn-off to you?
What do you think of women who are overweight?
Do *most* men feel the same about this issue?
TIA.
Depends on what woman you're talking about. Someone on TV makes a difference but not my wife. She worries about her weight but all I see is a woman that means everything to me. I don't see the weight she is so worried about. I only see the one thing in the world that I would ever desire.
My STXW's weight gain was never a turn-off. As long as she treated me right (in and outside the bedroom) AND was enthusiastic inside the bedroom - weight was never an issue.
The giant Trucker tattoo she got when we were near the end - THAT was a turn-off!
Is a woman being overweight a total turn-off to you?
What do you think of women who are overweight?
Do *most* men feel the same about this issue?
TIA.
From a purely sexual stand-point fat people are not much fun to look at. My wife has gained a considereable amount of weight, and recently I have noticed its challenging to orgasm, and thats not fun either.
Other than that, I dont judge people based upon their weight, unless they demand to make excuses as to why they are fat.
I watch my diet and work out regularly; I would not want to be with someone who won't exercise at least some self-discipline. My mother set a rather high bar, even in her 70's she still weighs about 125. I've accepted much heavier than that in the women I've dated, the key is, is she taking care of herself? Does she still have a figure I can look at? Can she keep what she has under control? Yes there is definitely a point beyond which I don't find it attractive.
Is a woman being overweight a total turn-off to you?
What do you think of women who are overweight?
Do *most* men feel the same about this issue?
TIA.
It matters to my husband, I ask him these questions, he has outright told me if I gained 30 lbs (a guess) he knows the desire would be slipping -even added -he probably wouldn't be able to get it up - it does not offend me that he says this , I WANT THE TRUTH, and I also do not think any less of him to feel this way, he did say he would always LOVE me but this was about "desire - being turned on".
He is a lower test guy already, so I better be careful not to go that route or I am screwing my own sex life . And that means a heck of alot to me.
But not all men are the same... we have a guy friend, he is thin and he PREFERS his women heavier...he married my good friend, she is over 200lbs, loves her like the day he married her, they have 4 kids together, he has always wanted more sex than her..... he has told us he does NOT like them thin.
Is a woman being overweight a total turn-off to you?
Not at all. I'm not convinced that the Jillian Michaels type of body is even healthy for the average woman.
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Originally Posted by MichelleBee
What do you think of women who are overweight?
Well that's a matter of degree Round in all the right places is great, but too much of anything can be excessive.
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Originally Posted by MichelleBee
Do *most* men feel the same about this issue?
Not sure. I think the attitude changes with age, but even among young men, there are plenty who think the ideal promoted in women's magazines is unhealthy and unattractive.
There is nothing sexy about a woman looks like a teenage boy with a wig.
I have asked my husband this too...since being on these boards lol...and there would be a sexual attraction issue for him if I became overweight. He'd obviously want to know the 'why' and I write this excluding medical reasons and such. Despite how I might look physically, to him it's more about the MINDSET and ACTIONS that would lessen attraction.
He likes when I go for a jog, that I look after myself, that I eat healthily and with balance. I don't count calories, love food and just try to keep things in balance. It's my actions that he finds alluring. And this is how I view him too. I know I wouldn't find it cute or attractive if he sat and ate the whole tub of ice-cream. I do like that he has discipline and can enjoy what he enjoys without overindulging. He's not a big gym guy, but I find it attractive when he wakes up earlier and does push ups. And again, it's not so much about the physical for me either than seeing him take pride in himself.
Above all though, my husband is attracted to confidence.
How wonderfully deceptive it must be to grow up thinking somebody will love you for who you are on the inside.
Yeah somebody will but the reality is you probably won't be attracted to them back.
Even fat girls are shallow, they just rationalize it as "preferences."
I guess boys learn early that the girl they want wants more than just who they are on the inside.
This is why males often overcompensate with cars and displays, because they know how much a man's status and his ability to provide affects a woman's attraction.
Of course they try too hard they look like douche bag, and will fare no better. And then there is the competition from other males. It's not so easy to be a boy after all.
With heavier girls, their only competition is themselves. But they are so emotionally hurt, their only medication is food. They hate being fat and then eat to make themselves feel better. It's a downward spiral.
Is a woman being overweight a total turn-off to you?
What do you think of women who are overweight?
Do *most* men feel the same about this issue?
TIA.
A woman being obese is a total turn off to me.
Overweight means different things to different people. Overweight is not obese, but people certainly confuse the two. I know women who are overweight, that work their ass off at the gym. I like them, I admire their commitment, and some of them are in better shape than I am ... but ... I'm simply not attracted to apples, pears, or curves.
I often state that 'attraction' isn't really a choice. You either are, or you aren't. I don't fault anyone for what or whom they are attracted to.
And according to Octillo, I'm attracted to teenage boys wearing wigs
I have always, always, been HIGHLY attracted to female athletes.
*Most* men have a strong correlation between body-shape and attraction. To which body shape any given man is attracted to, is subjective.
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A woman's weight... 
Round in all the right places is great, but too much of anything can be excessive.
