Re: Turning the other cheek - useless philosophy
As I see it, forgiveness is about preferring peace to war. An eye for an eye, as they say, makes the whole world blind. If you are constantly determined to rip out the eyes of anyone who has done you wrong, then you will never know what it is to live at peace. Your revenge will incite another revenge which will make you want revenge ... and on and on it goes.
Personally, I don't want to spend my life hanging on to the wrongs that have been done to me, nor do I care to prolong the drama for the sake of appeasing my hurt feelings. People can be stupid, selfish, and downright mean, but nothing I do is ever going to stop that. Just move on.
That doesn't make me a doormat though. My husband cheats, he's out the door. I might forgive him in that I understand and not hold a grudge. But I won't trust him anymore. Or live with him. Or stay married.