Re: Male Incentive for Marriage?
On the subject of SAHM's and the RISK involved.... I have no doubt this is true for many women but not every situation is the same.
I am very thankful I have a husband who desires to be the primary Bread Winner & does not look down on me for not being educated & working every day.... I do have a few side jobs where I can work around the bad weather & our driveway from hell though .....it can turn into a sheet of ice with a little snow, it is 750 ft long, cement, hilly & bendy & it has claimed many victims over the years, husband gets tired of being a Tow truck for our friends. He wrecked his plow in it last year, the farmer next door thankfully saw what a PIckle he was in & pulled him out. I almost wrecked yesterday getting our 4x4 Suburban down it , sometimes he takes the field instead. He doesn't want me on the country roads when they are bad -he worries about me too much...
This is the price you pay when you want to live in the boonies on a secluded piece of country property, it was our dream. And
I LOVE staying home, I never get bored..I do spend too much time on this darn forum though!! Some addictions are hard to break.
...... Some may feel we are stupid in this day & age....but we are not careless people .... we have much $$ saved...if not, I would be worried, I worry about every damn thing under the sun, just my nature. Even when I married, I had backups for the people in our wedding, I always think "...."What if" ...and need a plan....
We've been completely debt free for over 5 yrs , if he lost his job today -we could live off of what we have saved for a good 3 yrs with no income coming it at all -not counting our net worth-which is pretty high given how many acres we own.
If he died, we have good life insurance, same as if I kicked the bucket. The only problem would be health care. That could break anyone in a matter of days if you don't have it.
I hope we never have to face any of that, but for us, we are quite content taking the RISK of only one of us working...it would be different if we were living paycheck to paycheck.... but that has never been our experience...well it was once when we bought this house, we socked every dime into it -we were lucky we didn't have to sell his coin collection -it was close. We are master savers.
If we wanted too right now, I could make a phone call & get a check for over $160,000 in my hands within a month, but I am in no rush, those Gas well Landmen have been trying to get us to sign a lease with them for over 3 yrs now -big thing in my area (Marchellus Utica shale)- all my neighbores signed already , that is how little we care about $$, I care more about my land. When they started visiting us, they were giving $750 an acre to sign, last I heard it is up to $3250 an acre, I could care less. I wish they would go away accually.