Re: Male Incentive for Marriage?
I never planned on getting married. I wanted him though. I never had the dream of marriage and no religious view with it. We were living together, combined finances, property etc. If we'd broken up pre-marriage, where we live at least, we would be treated much the same a married couple with regards to division of assets.
Marriage became more important to him. I said yes without hesitation but the love and our relationship felt the same to me, before and after marriage. We had a conversation the other day, whereby I was realizing part of my personality had him essentially 'chasing' me, without me consciously doing this and we talked how there was a delicate balance of him wanting me yet I was always a tad elusive (for lack of better word). I never doubted him or our love. It's just the way I was.
He mentioned times where he expressed how much he WANTED me ....including for marriage. And what became clear to me was his needs had changed. While he likes when I'm somewhat 'independent' he also needs to KNOW that he has stability with me. I think my marrying him helped him see that I am there with him.
For my husband, it's a sign of our love, commitment and stability, and perhaps reassurance. Either way, there's something cool about being Mrs Batman.
Music belongs in a place with hearts beating and brains dreaming and people falling in love. - J.Buckley
Last edited by heartsbeating; 01-18-2012 at 10:17 PM.