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Old 01-22-2012, 09:14 PM   #46 (permalink)
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Have you always been an angry person?
No..... I am just pointing out a very anti-male bias in a post by a MALE, who in my opinion seems to think he is superior to many males.
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No..... I am just pointing out a very anti-male bias in a post by a MALE, who in my opinion seems to think he is superior to many males.
I think you assume quite a bit.
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I also get the whole "superiority" and feminine thing that HSTS mentions about RDJ, but it's no skin off my nose.

Most often with my GF, it's a good ol' fashioned f*cking. Occasionally slower and more tender, but not often. We've never referred to it as "making love"... Having sex or f*cking. Might have to look into that one day...

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Exactly what research have you done to tell you that men are selfish lovers?



Again where have you witnessed it?



Is this not a two way street, or are women the gatekeepers of sex and only on their terms?



Again a two way street is it not?



Ahhh..... My hearts aflutter....



How about just having sex and enjoying it instead of it being a big production????



Who (and it's only males in your book) exactly is having this selfish sex?



Sure..... My wife wouldn't stop laughing.....

I will ignore this tripe at my own peril.....
Seems like an angry man reply to me, another sign of inflated ego and insecurity?

Not to worry, the ladies love this!
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I think you assume quite a bit.
No, what I read is a person in a very good marriage (and I'm happy for him) sermonizing males with a holier then thou attitude.

What he wrote was bunk in my my view and condescending to many males here, especially those wiring and posting about "sexless" marriages (not me).

Btw PBear, thanks for "getting it"...... No skin off my nose, I just wanted to point it out.
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Seems like an angry man reply to me, another sign of inflated ego and insecurity?

Not to worry, the ladies love this!
Well now I get it..... It's all about getting the ladies.....
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I also get the whole "superiority" and feminine thing that HSTS mentions about RDJ, but it's no skin off my nose.

Most often with my GF, it's a good ol' fashioned f*cking. Occasionally slower and more tender, but not often. We've never referred to it as "making love"... Having sex or f*cking. Might have to look into that one day...

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Correct me if I'm wrong, but if we are not the kind of guy I mentioned. Then there is nothing to worry about is there?
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No, what I read is a person in a very good marriage (and I'm happy for him) sermonizing males with a holier then thou attitude.

What he wrote was bunk in my my view and condescending to many males here, especially those wiring and posting about "sexless" marriages (not me).

Btw PBear, thanks for "getting it"...... No skin off my nose, I just wanted to point it out.
What I see is someone who has "been there" "done that" with just about every kind of pathology imaginable.

Those of us married to broken people have much to learn about what will work - and what will not - when it comes to relationships.

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Well now I get it..... It's all about getting the ladies.....
No, it's about having a MUTUALY happy marriage.

Mine is just fine!

Again, if you don't like what I have to say, don't read my post.

I doubt I will lose any sleep over it.
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It isn't about whether you make love/have sex/or fvck like crazy folk.

It is about whether you are really focused on making sure that it is good for her. That might mean being really rough and dominant, or slow and gentle - which might vary based on HER cycle. If overall she really likes it - and knows you are more focused on her than you - you are there. Same thing in reverse. She should be making you feel like you are her only focus.


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No, it's about having a MUTUALY happy marriage.

Mine is just fine!

Again, if you don't like what I have to say, don't read my post.

I doubt I will lose any sleep over it.
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RDJ doesn't need my help.

His posts provide as much insight on this board as anyone's.

He's acutely aware of the fundamental differences between men and women and his posts speak to this in a manner that makes complete sense.

Ignore him and/or dismiss him at your peril.
I agree. I've picked holes in RDJ's delivery (I don't think he always helps himself to reach his audience as a result), and in some of his posts that he has missed / ignored other, equally fundamental, equally important issues.

But his insight is very, very clever, and his analysis is clever. Like the man says,

"...Ignore him and/or dismiss him at your peril..."
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It isn't about whether you make love/have sex/or fvck like crazy folk.

It is about whether you are really focused on making sure that it is good for her. That might mean being really rough and dominant, or slow and gentle - which might vary based on HER cycle. If overall she really likes it - and knows you are more focused on her than you - you are there. Same thing in reverse. She should be making you feel like you are her only focus.



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I love when people use vague terms like "making love". What does that mean? Is it different in every relationship? Find out what your wife enjoys and provide that. Some wives only want to be taken hard. Some don't enjoy it at all. If a man and women enjoy having rough sex more frequently than not then is that their form of "making love".
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You beat me to it. Should have read the entire last page before I posted.
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It’s very simple. The term “making love” embraces every type of sexual interaction with your wife. It’s “Sex with love”, that deep emotional connection no matter what type of sex it is.

“Sex” on the other hand is sex with a woman you have no emotional connection with. Like a one night stand, sex without love.

Of course if you want to role play a one night stand or anything else with your wife then great but to me it’s still making love because of the deep emotional connection.

For me at least sex and making love are exceedingly different.


I often wonder about this. I was with my wife from when she was sixteen for 40 odd years and always desired her. That love, that emotional connection was always there and she never turned me down. I just don't get the sex problems men get here on TAM.
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