Re: Do you have sex with your wife, or do you make love to her?
I also get the whole "superiority" and feminine thing that HSTS mentions about RDJ, but it's no skin off my nose.
Most often with my GF, it's a good ol' fashioned f*cking. Occasionally slower and more tender, but not often. We've never referred to it as "making love"... Having sex or f*cking. Might have to look into that one day...
Re: Do you have sex with your wife, or do you make love to her?
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I also get the whole "superiority" and feminine thing that HSTS mentions about RDJ, but it's no skin off my nose.
Most often with my GF, it's a good ol' fashioned f*cking. Occasionally slower and more tender, but not often. We've never referred to it as "making love"... Having sex or f*cking. Might have to look into that one day...
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but if we are not the kind of guy I mentioned. Then there is nothing to worry about is there?
It isn't about whether you make love/have sex/or fvck like crazy folk.
It is about whether you are really focused on making sure that it is good for her. That might mean being really rough and dominant, or slow and gentle - which might vary based on HER cycle. If overall she really likes it - and knows you are more focused on her than you - you are there. Same thing in reverse. She should be making you feel like you are her only focus.
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No, it's about having a MUTUALY happy marriage.
Mine is just fine!
Again, if you don't like what I have to say, don't read my post.
Re: Do you have sex with your wife, or do you make love to her?
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RDJ doesn't need my help.
His posts provide as much insight on this board as anyone's.
He's acutely aware of the fundamental differences between men and women and his posts speak to this in a manner that makes complete sense.
Ignore him and/or dismiss him at your peril.
I agree. I've picked holes in RDJ's delivery (I don't think he always helps himself to reach his audience as a result), and in some of his posts that he has missed / ignored other, equally fundamental, equally important issues.
But his insight is very, very clever, and his analysis is clever. Like the man says,
"...Ignore him and/or dismiss him at your peril..."
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Re: Do you have sex with your wife, or do you make love to her?
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It isn't about whether you make love/have sex/or fvck like crazy folk.
It is about whether you are really focused on making sure that it is good for her. That might mean being really rough and dominant, or slow and gentle - which might vary based on HER cycle. If overall she really likes it - and knows you are more focused on her than you - you are there. Same thing in reverse. She should be making you feel like you are her only focus.
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The definition of "having sex" and / or "making love" is subject to change without notice! It's up to all concerned to be able to react accordingly!
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Re: Do you have sex with your wife, or do you make love to her?
I love when people use vague terms like "making love". What does that mean? Is it different in every relationship? Find out what your wife enjoys and provide that. Some wives only want to be taken hard. Some don't enjoy it at all. If a man and women enjoy having rough sex more frequently than not then is that their form of "making love".
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It’s very simple. The term “making love” embraces every type of sexual interaction with your wife. It’s “Sex with love”, that deep emotional connection no matter what type of sex it is.
“Sex” on the other hand is sex with a woman you have no emotional connection with. Like a one night stand, sex without love.
Of course if you want to role play a one night stand or anything else with your wife then great but to me it’s still making love because of the deep emotional connection.
For me at least sex and making love are exceedingly different.
I often wonder about this. I was with my wife from when she was sixteen for 40 odd years and always desired her. That love, that emotional connection was always there and she never turned me down. I just don't get the sex problems men get here on TAM.
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