Do you have sex with your wife, or do you make love to her?
For those of us who have been married many years, sex can begin to lose the novelty and excitement. Even with all the games, toys, and role playing that a couple can incorporate, the sexual experience can start to feel too much like “we’ve been there, done that”.
First sex can become routine, then it can become boring, and then it can stop altogether. You suddenly find yourself in a “sexless marriage”.
For some women sex can become just another one of the many chores that have to be completed in order to keep the household happy. In some cases, a woman may find it much simpler to just quickly take care of her and avoid the time and effort of sex completely, especially if she has a husband that is only concerned about pleasing himself.
It is my opinion that when it comes to sex, a lot of husbands are selfish. They focus too much on how their wife is going to please them, and not about the quality of the shared experience.
They become so focused on what they are, or are not receiving, that the whole experience starts to feel like an unpleasant obligation to their wife, and most likely, IT IS.
A big key to keeping your married sex life fresh and alive is to learn how to be a selfless lover.
Selfless is when you focus on sharing your love and passion with your wife, without regard of what YOU are getting out of it.
It’s when you make love to her in place of having sex with her. It’s when you look deep into her eyes and make love to her body, mind, and soul that she will feel loved in place of sexed.
When a husband shares himself in this way, sex is no longer “just sex”, it becomes an experience of “love making” that will be more enjoyable for his wife.
True loving sex is always fun, regardless of how many years you may have been together.
So the next time you find yourself having selfish sex with your wife, STOP. Stop thinking about what you want to get out of this,how she is going to repay you, and think instead about what you can give her.
Be selfless and give her your heart and soul. If you do this, don’t be surprised when you find your wife initiating a whole lot more “love making” in the future.
“Conflict is inevitable, combat is optional.”