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Old 01-25-2012, 11:17 AM   #16 (permalink)
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He is average girth I guess, I actually dont have much to compare. My high school boyfriend was small. We didnt actually have sex for 3 years (we dated on and off), and then when we finally did, I asked if he was inside yet. Another boyfriend prior to my husband was 10 inches and I guess thick. It would hurt at first pretty much everytime we had intercourse, but I guess that is on the big side. My husband is closer to that than the small one, but it definitely doesnt hurt ever as I am always turned on with him (even before we are intimate), its just right actually. All I have to do is think of him or look at him, but he insists on going down there anyway. He also likes my old lady breasts as they have grown since having children, so he plays there as well.
Your husband sounds far from homosexual.
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Old 01-25-2012, 11:20 AM   #17 (permalink)
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I had to go back and look at the comments that I made in your other thread - being more 'playful' and 'flirty' with your H (my original comments to you) and possibly feeling compelled to do something you find distasteful or painful are two different things entirely.

I think that like anything, but especially anal sex - it needs to be a completely consensual act. You should not feel coerced by your H to participate in this if you do not want to - especially in light of the fact that it caused you problems and pain before. His lack of concern about how you feel about it is troublesome.

I think anal has probably always had either some amount of fascination or repugnance for men since the dawn of time. However, it seems like it is even more of an acceptable practice, especially for hetero men, in more recent years - perhaps it's the preponderance of internet pornography in the last couple of decades with anal featured that has changed the outlook of some men to think about it in more of a mainstream way.

Believe me, if he doesn't feel you are 'tight' enough vaginally, there are some tricks and things that you can do there. that_girl started a thread a couple of weeks ago about that, that you can search for.

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Here you are Enchantment! Im a little slow at figuring out how to scroll around on here. A big thank you for your advice, however, I still cant muster up the courage to hand him my panties

Maybe Im not tight enough vaginally, as I was typing another response I realized how large my last bf before my husband was and it hurt but not alot, and he was above average (I read that average is 6 inches and he was 10 inches).

Its definitely not a situaiton where he is trying to get me to do something I dont want to. Im scared to again after tearing. I also dont want to do it too much since I have read about women losing poop out of there because muscles get stretched. If anyone wants to put those fears to rest and tell me that my tear from 4 years ago has healed, I may give it another chance.
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So - you're more of a girth guy, eh?!?

Its OK - everyone's different...
I'm relieved you approve.
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He is average girth I guess, I actually dont have much to compare. My high school boyfriend was small. We didnt actually have sex for 3 years (we dated on and off), and then when we finally did, I asked if he was inside yet. Another boyfriend prior to my husband was 10 inches and I guess thick. It would hurt at first pretty much everytime we had intercourse, but I guess that is on the big side. My husband is closer to that than the small one, but it definitely doesnt hurt ever as I am always turned on with him (even before we are intimate), its just right actually. All I have to do is think of him or look at him, but he insists on going down there anyway. He also likes my old lady breasts as they have grown since having children, so he plays there as well.
Those are the kinds of questions men hate to hear
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"Are you in yet" will actually cause "turtling." Makes a bad situation much, much worse.
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I don't see how anal sex with a woman could possibly be construed as "gay."

That being said, you have to *both* want it and you shouldn't just blindly submit unless you want to.

You'd have to participate in a lot of anal sex without lubrication and relaxing and so forth to cause any permanent damage.
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"Are you in yet" will actually cause "turtling." Makes a bad situation much, much worse.
like throwing a monkey wrench into an empty closet?

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You tore yet he still wants to do it? Thatís incredible, quite unbelievable. There is something not right about him. It is in his mind this stuff about anal sex, thatís all it is.

I think he, in fact both of you should get yourselves off and spend time with a sex therapist or maybe for your husband a psychologist (it appears he has no empathy or compassion for you, itís a very serious mental defect) so you can enjoy intercourse as it is designed by nature to be.
I think AFEH is on to something here. Your husband is, without a doubt, a serial killer.
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I think AFEH is on to something here. Your husband is, without a doubt, a serial killer.
Thatís just deluded. Another mental health defect.
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I don't think there too many men out there that don't get off on anal!!! OMG If willing my h would want it every night! Especially if you are clean shaven dear goodness!! So I say don't worry about him having closet tendencies...Thumbs up to Enchantment (yup pun intended!!)
Not always true.... my husband wouldn't touch ANAL with a ten foot pole, he has ZERO interest in my crack and I am not allowed to mess with his. I have come to the conclusion on this....so it seems to me, the higher testosterone a man is.... the more he "may" desire this act... Doggie is not even something my husband cares about. It was only with my suggesting we even tried that.
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my husband wouldn't touch ANAL with a ten foot pole
i will, with anything i got.

if you lick it, is it still considered anal sex?

and almost no doggie

is he nutz?
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and almost no doggie

is he nutz?
Some would think so, wouldn' they!? No, he is just very "tame" . I need to bring out the ROVER in him or I would rarely see it. It keeps me challenged in the bedroom anyway- he at least desires the big bang every day, so I am not going to complain.

Anal holds no fantasies for me at all as a woman, so It is fine he has no care - or I would likely be pestering him about it. So a blessing really.
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I asked him if we would have more sex if we did it that way again and he said "probably." So I asked why and he answered "because its tighter." Im not "loose" down there at all. I had c-sections so my 2 children didnt stretch things out, and I have always been tight and he has trouble getting in "there" sometimes... so why does he need the anal tightness? Is he a closet homosexual or is this normal? Thanks in advance
Your husband is telling the truth. Regardless of whether you've had children, or done exercises, your anus is tighter than your vagina. Your vagina was designed to allow a baby to pass through it. Your anus was designed for a smaller capacity.
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Thatís just deluded. Another mental health defect.

Do I have Sarcasm Personality Disorder? How about Can't Let Stupid Comments Pass On An Internet Thread Without Commenting Disorder? You can be straight with me, doctor. I know you don't have much to go on, but that's never stopped you before, right?
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I simply have to weigh in here

A couple's birth control practices may influence things too. For example, for those using the rythum method, anal can be incorporated to allow love making during a time of the month it would otherwise happen. Or, a couple who uses condoms for birth control might go bareback for anal. Or, based on my own experience anal with condoms gives the man way more feel than vaginal with condoms.

While anal is thought of as being painful, disgusting etc. by some, it is thought of as just a bit naughty and very nice alternative within marriage.

No doubt at a time before artificial birth control, some couples used anal to keep their family size under some control.

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