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Old 02-10-2012, 01:45 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Traditionally, amongst my people, a man:
- Takes responsibility for everything he has or hasn't done
- Protects his family, wife, and children from harm
- Respects nature and the environment
- To be the leader of his household
- To love and understand women and appreciate their wisdom
- One of the more ancient rules also specify that men should not cry
- To never complain, to never whinge, to suck it up and be proud of overcoming anything

Do you agree with these?
I don't exactly follow all, but the last one I know I have to work on.
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Old 02-10-2012, 02:14 AM   #2 (permalink)
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"To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentation of their women. "
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Traditionally, amongst my people, a man:
- Takes responsibility for everything he has or hasn't done
- Protects his family, wife, and children from harm
- Respects nature and the environment
- To be the leader of his household
- To love and understand women and appreciate their wisdom
- One of the more ancient rules also specify that men should not cry
- To never complain, to never whinge, to suck it up and be proud of overcoming anything

Do you agree with these?
I don't exactly follow all, but the last one I know I have to work on.
Yup. I have trouble with the last one too sometimes.

I complain and whine sometimes. But I pretty much do that as I suck it up. In general folks come to me to overcome things that others are not willing to even attempt. No fear.
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Old 02-10-2012, 05:27 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Aye... and it's even worse when I make jokes USING my frustrations to take the piss outta the situation - it helps =/

But darn it!
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Old 02-10-2012, 09:27 AM   #5 (permalink)
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My husband is the Head of the House, the Alpha Male. He does all the things you mentioned. Althougth he does not whine. But if he has a complaint ofcourse I am going to hear about it. My husband does not yell or get upset. He has no reason to. He is respected and in control. He is the leader. And he also treats me like a queen and spoils me. But I know what is expected of me, my roles, my responsibilties, my chores, etc. He is a police officer. We are always running into people he knows. He is always talking, get phone calls, etc. I am expected to be patient, wait quietly and understanding of this. I know what behavior is expected of a police officers wife. I learned this when we were dating. I was very impatient and disrespectful one time when this happend in public. Uh and never was again. My husband and I are very traditional. But I love it. He makes me feel safe, protected and loved.
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"To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentation of their women. "
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when we question our manliness, we must ask ourselves:
"What would Conan do?"
The Barbarian, or the red-headed talk show host?
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Old 02-10-2012, 11:30 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Being manly means not needlessly wringing your hands over what 'being manly' is.

Thats it... you have already sealed your fate. Lists of things to do are for girls.

(pardon me... I need to go make dinner, vanquish a tribe of Huns, ravish my wife, tune up the engine on the tractor, make the kids giggle until they fart, help a neighbor take down a tree, speak at a local government meeting, help a little old lady with her groceries, and do enviable things at work...)
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I still say so much of it comes down to personal responsibility. Keeping your side of the street clean, so to speak. Although I'm still not convinced that's a gender issue.

If I'm a strong person, I will be a strong man.

Now - if the question is related to what women find attractive in men, then its much more complicated.
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This is a good one, it all has to do with character. Loyalty, respect, honor, humor , dependability, leadership and tenderness.......how bout that, I just described my hubby...
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I still say so much of it comes down to personal responsibility. Keeping your side of the street clean, so to speak. Although I'm still not convinced that's a gender issue.

If I'm a strong person, I will be a strong man.

Now - if the question is related to what women find attractive in men, then its much more complicated.
Mr Vanilla? For sure.
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Scare insurgents off the property.
The English Man’s home really is the English Man’s Castle. So it always has been and so it always shall be. QED. I Veto! You can do what the heck you like. And good luck with that.
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Mr Vanilla? For sure.
I missed you too Bob!!!



So you don't believe in personal accountability, regardless of gender?

Had a "manly" friend on Facebook the other night post about wanting a "bailout" for having made his mortgage payments on time.

I told him to hold his head high and have pride at meeting his obligations and responsibilities.

I don't want a handout - and pray that I never need one.

But - back to my point - I would have given the exact same advice to a woman making the same complaint.

Be accountable. Do what you need to do. Take care of the people you love. Pretty basic stuff - regardless of whether you do or don't have a penis.

Bob - would you like to get together sometime and practice Judo with me?
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