I followed the answers for some time, I felt this was the most honest answer .... given by Unbelievable .....
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I have already said that fixating on a woman (ie, imaging an actual sex act with her or fantasizing about her stripping) is a bit creepy and, of course, that is a choice. My point is that there is an immediate "yes", "no", "Maybe if I was drunk" sort of selection going on for the briefest of nanoseconds in every male brain (at least the straight ones).
Having been male for nearly 50 years, I have been "listening" to "yep", "nope", "no way in hell", etc every day for at least 40 years. Of the thousands of guys I have worked and lived closely with, they all seem to have the same thing going on. Naturally, only a creton would attempt to act on those thoughts and one would be sort of a perv to dwell on the subject and create disgusting mental scenarios. I'm a Christian and I'm married. Neither experience rendered me blind or oblivious to my surroundings. The OP asked how men thought and I've given the most honest answer I can.
I remember talking to my husband and my oldest son about this ...and they felt the same as the words spoken above...
Here is how my husband explained it ....
1st he looks at the face, if that is not appealing, he doesn't look any further....then he automatically puts them into baskets >>> "Doable" ..."Maybe".... or "ewwww NEVER". He said IF there is a CHOICE in these matters, it would be to LOOK AWAY immediately, but he admitted he doesn't want to do that... "it is no fun".
Then here is his next mental thoughts within seconds.... "I love my wife, STD's, I love my kids , STD's" and that is the end of the fleeting fantasy.
I think that is all pretty normal. If they Gawk, and the fantasy goes on for minutes, this would just be wrong ...but even when we are married, we still notice & look upon the opposite sex.
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Originally Posted by sweet n sour
I need mens opinions. My husband cannot look at a good looking woman without mentally undressing her and wanting to have sex with her.
What I want to know is when you see a pretty woman do you undress her and want to have sex with her or do you acknowledge her beauty and move on?
I have no issues with him looking but seems to me that there is more to it when he wants to have sex wih them all the time. Posted via Mobile Device
We are men. We mentally undress every woman. Hot or not we are imagining what they look like naked. You can pretend to be outraged, but were it not for this drive, you and your mate would likely not be together.
We are wired biologically this way. I wish it were not so. I waste a lot of time making chit chat w/ the women. If these same women were men, I wouldn't waste my breath. And hold your flame throwers, I flirt with my wife too. She knows she's number 1.
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Originally Posted by Runs like Dog
Maybe I just have unrealistic standards. In my random path through the day, all I see is a steady stream of fatties, mom jeans, mutants and weirdos. I can't remember the last time someone turned my head.
Well your location shows as "Redneckistan", so really what do you expect?
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Originally Posted by Therealbrighteyes
Men need to stop wearing ties since they are nothing more than fabric arrows pointing to their private parts. It's terribly rude for men to do this to me and I cannot help myself but openly gawk.
LMAO..............
Don't feel bad. I just had to have a talk with my 15 year old son....about how he needs to stop wearing boxers. Turns out he was coming down the stairs, wearing a pair of basketball shorts and my wife freaked out. She told me later "You need to talk to him. He's like you, he needs to wear some boxer briefs. I don't want his "package" out for every one to see"
I told her "I'll talk to him. But he is 15 and single. I don't remember you minding the pants I wore when we dated. Seems I didn't have to change the pants I wore until after we were married." (I was smiling the whole time)
She stuttered a bit and said "That's different! I don't want girls ogling my son's "stuff"..........LOL
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I agree with the mental "selection" process. I can see that.
Me personally, I always wonder about the conservatively dressed women, who seem attractive, but almost like they are TRYING To hide their looks and their body.
It always makes me think of one of my ex- girlfriends. She was in the financial industry. She dressed so boring I always called her "the Librarian". The first time I saw her naked I almost swallowed my tongue.
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Originally Posted by Therealbrighteyes
My guess is your wife didn't believe your words since you were checking out others and you stopped complimenting her because of her dismissive eye rolls.
It sure hurt when my husband was checking out other womens butts and when I noticed he said "Oh but I like yours".
Being an afterthought didn't feel good. I no longer view myself that way though. He behaves the way he does because he chooses to and I choose to define my worth devoid of what he thinks.
nah, i only had eyes for her for 20 years. but now, our issues have kinda made me not really care anymore. i dont think she dismissed my attention towards her because she thought i oogled other women, cause i didnt. she has major problems taking compliments, she has major problems seeing my loyalty and committment to her. i really am a one woman man.
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Originally Posted by SimplyAmorous
Here is how my husband explained it ....
1st he looks at the face, if that is not appealing, he doesn't look any further....then he automatically puts them into baskets >>> "Doable" ..."Maybe".... or "ewwww NEVER".
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Originally Posted by Jellybeans
at "ewwww NEVER."
Actually he was being polite. The correct scale is:
- WOW!!! All day and twice on Sunday
- I wouldn't kick her out of bed for eating crackers.
- Depends on how horny I am
- 6 beers / 4 shots
- 12 beers / 8 shots
- Don't remember where the hell I was last night, but I'm going to CHEW my arm off so I don't have to wake up the thing laying next to me naked (AKA "The Coyote Ugly")
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No I don't undress them. I look at the face first and hair second (I love beautiful semi long hair) eye makeup is next. Good eyeliner and smokey eye shadow is my preference. If she is smartly dressed next thing i look for is heels (taller the better). If all that is good I go about my business and think "shes a pretty woman"
Do I notice her body yes but I don't slobber over it or really key in on it.
I once told my wife that if I didn't notice a good looking woman then I was of no use to her!
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Originally Posted by Stonewall
I once told my wife that if I didn't notice a good looking woman then I was of no use to her!
I feel the same way about my husband, that just means he has a pulse and a healthy sex drive.... if he quits noticing other beautiful women in his view, I know our sex life is likely heading towads the grave. I would likely start obsessing over his Test levels again. I Joke with him I want him to be a "dirty old man" till he hits dirt. Keeps 'em frisky anyway!
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Originally Posted by SimplyAmorous
I feel the same way about my husband, that just means he has a pulse and a healthy sex drive.... if he quits noticing other beautiful women in his view, I know our sex life is likely heading towads the grave. I would likely start obsessing over his Test levels again. I Joke with him I want him to be a "dirty old man" till he hits dirt. Keeps 'em frisky anyway!
So do I have this right SA, Notice the other women, just don't be embarrassingly obvious?
You have it totally right, once the man stops noticing women, say goodbye to his sex drive.
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