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post #16 of 126 (permalink) Old 02-16-2012, 01:19 PM
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candiegirl - you get what I'm talking about.

It has nothing to do with our daughters directly, just the AGES, exactly.

It's about the attitude to young women when you have 2 of your own.

I'm not worried about him leaving for a younger woman either.

I just feel that when you have daughters or sons, looking at people in porn who are their ages, is just disgusting.

hope - It's kind of like when you are watching porn, do you ever think, they're the age of my son!!!!
Don't bother trying to rationalize it. It won't matter and will only screw with your head. Since she isn't his daughter, it doesn't matter to him.
Posts like this and the responses secure my belief that woman are the more evolved sex. I have a 19 year old son and sure as sh!t wouldn't find a naked 19 year old sexy. I guess I don't have biology as my excuse.
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Where did anyone get the idea, from the OP, that there was ANY talk of anything incestuous???

THAT'S what's really insulting; and proves the point that the OP was attempting to make. Well, guess what? Someone out there, maybe even one of your BUDDIES, is imagining what it would be like to screw your daughter! Not a damn thing to be done about it, either, considering that (most) men are 'wired' that way.
Sorry you have a problem with human biology.

The OP wrote "we spend a lot of time boating in the summer with the daughters in bikinis and I'm just wondering how my husband feels about this but he won't tell me."
Either it's an atrociously worded sentence, or she's wondering whether her husband checks out their daughters when they're in bikinis.
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Sorry you have a problem with human biology.

The OP wrote "we spend a lot of time boating in the summer with the daughters in bikinis and I'm just wondering how my husband feels about this but he won't tell me."
Either it's an atrociously worded sentence, or she's wondering whether her husband checks out their daughters when they're in bikinis.
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I took it to read her daughter and friends.
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Like I said, when I look at porn my kids are about as far from my mind as they can get.

As for the incestuous overtones, that's the way I read it when she said she asked her husband what he thinks when their daughters wear bikinis. Sorry if I misinterpreted.

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My wife is somebody's daughter.

Should I stop doing those things with her?
MD - Have you asked your FIL???

To OP:
I know in another thread I talked about how we quickly evaluated women in a sexual way.

I guess one exception to that is when I'm in FATHER mode. At that point, I'm sizing my daughter's friends up - just in a totally different way!

I'm trying to figure out if the are they polite and respectful? Wondering who will be the troublemaker? Who will be the leader / follower? Etc., etc...

When I was 18 and saw a hot, barely dressed 16 year old, the thoughts were sexual. Now I find myself thinking "Do your parents know you dress like that?"

Also - just to keep going - when I was 18, I probably DIDN'T notice a lot of the older women that I notice now.

And porn just isn't reality.

I'm guessing that a grown man my age (almost 40) is going to be checking out your friends regardless of my porn preferences!!!

But my kids' friends - its more like an FBI background check. And - kind of like the "sex" thing - its happening quickly and automatically. Its all about my kids' safety and knowing they are with the right people.
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So if my daughter is 21 I am not allowed to see women in their twenties in bikinis?

But maybe later when she is 31 it is ok, but not to view women in their 30s.

Surely it is ok with women to view their sons hunky friends at any age. Not really sure what this has to do with porn really. I guess you are saying that your hubby likes porn with 20 year old girls in them and you would be happier if he was viewing women at a more advanced age.

Now if he were into kiddie porn you should be way creeped out.

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Now if he were into kiddie porn you should be way creeped out.
Or Granny porn!!!



Would he not be allowed to visit relatives in nursing homes???
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Sorry you have a problem with human biology.

The OP wrote "we spend a lot of time boating in the summer with the daughters in bikinis and I'm just wondering how my husband feels about this but he won't tell me."
Either it's an atrociously worded sentence, or she's wondering whether her husband checks out their daughters when they're in bikinis.
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I'd go for poor wording, and I don't have a problem with human biology, thanks for asking.

What I got from that sentence, was that she wondered what her husband's take on young women in porn was; not that he checks out their daughters in bikinis...

Sometimes, you've gotta think outside the box a little.
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Your basic assumption is that men are unthinking, mindless automatons, that only respond to stimulus.

Believe it or not, most men actually have a brain that can distinguish between right and wrong. We know what is appropriate and inappropriate. We can see an image and process it in many different ways.

Now, also understand that there are men who do not have this ability. It sounds like your husband may fall into that category. To assume that all or even most men act in an identical way is short sighted.

The first question should always be, "If it's that bad, why are you still there?

OK, you screwed up, it happens. Now apologize. But apologize just once. Make it loud, clear, short, to the point, and directly to those you trespassed against. Then move on.
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Like I said, when I look at porn my kids are about as far from my mind as they can get.

As for the incestuous overtones, that's the way I read it when she said she asked her husband what he thinks when their daughters wear bikinis. Sorry if I misinterpreted.
I can see how it would be interpreted that way, but honestly, I never thought for one second that she meant she was worried about her H having inappropriated thoughts about his daughters. That is, until the responses all started flowing in!

My, my, so defensive, some of them!
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Don't bother trying to rationalize it. It won't matter and will only screw with your head. Since she isn't his daughter, it doesn't matter to him.
Posts like this and the responses secure my belief that woman are the more evolved sex. I have a 19 year old son and sure as sh!t wouldn't find a naked 19 year old sexy. I guess I don't have biology as my excuse.
Sounds like the title of a book:

WOMEN: The More Evolved Sex

I love it!
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Like I said, when I look at porn my kids are about as far from my mind as they can get.

As for the incestuous overtones, that's the way I read it when she said she asked her husband what he thinks when their daughters wear bikinis. Sorry if I misinterpreted.
Then you are not as evolved as others. At least according to some.

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Glad you feel that way! Guess it wouldn't bother you if your daughter brought home a guy older than you, then!
Of course it would!

What's good for the goose isn't necessarily good for the grandfather.

Or something like that.
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