Kobo

Seriously, Quit trying to have a logical discussion. This has nothing to do with her daughters, her daughter's friends, or her BFFs that she chats to about their relationship issues. It's about her getting older and being insecure that her husband finds younger women attractive and maybe even more attractive than her.

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CandieGirl

LOL...I was just thinking of one of my friends who has a pool; his daughter (20) brought friends over to swim; he said I took one look at them all and went "Jesus Christ!!!!" and went back inside. I got the impression that he felt bad even having that normal male reaction to young good looking scantily clad women who happened to be friends of his daughter.

This being said, that same friend also frequents a well known area strip club as a regular client. We all know, that strip clubs aren't exactly known for employing older women!

This thread is cracking me up! And it's refreshing to have a new topic to yack about, too!

Kobo

Most women are daughters. Most women marry older men. Try again

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nice777guy

I understood it to simply mean "if he likes porn with young stars, what's stopping him from liking young girls who are my daughter's age."

To me, the best answer is the parenting instincts that kick in. As a father with girls, you are a protector first and foremost.

nice777guy

See - my first thought would me "Jesus Christ! There goes a quiet peaceful weekend day at home!"

But if my Ex were to bring over a 25 year old "friend" - that would be different...

CandieGirl

Ridicule!

hisfac

Same thing happened to me! I took a look at the crowd of young girls, mumbled an expletive and went back inside. Took me a long 5 minutes to find my bathing suit..

Mistys dad

LOL

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CandieGirl

How old are you? Depending on the answer, the 25 year old friend is probably not interested, Gramps!



This coming from a once 23 year old me who once had a 47 year old married boyfriend! Oh, my, was I a bad girl or what!

MardiGrasMambo

The OP makes a value judgment when she labels porn as "disrespectful." If her husband doesn't share the same value judgment, then there is no way he could transfer the emotion from that reaction to a situation that hits closer to home. Simply put, if he views the women as willing participants (whether they are is another question altogether), he won't be having those protective feelings about his offspring.

And, to be fair, a child in their 20's is entitled to make their own choices in our society.

If you two have a different value judgment on porn, this will likely creep up on other areas of your relationship and clear, effective communication will be the solution.

Therealbrighteyes

Um, ALL women are daughters. FYI, ALL men are sons!

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CandieGirl

Don't you mean "All men are pigs???"

JOKING!!!

Acorn

So the husband was viewing porn, and the OP (finally) communicated a boundary and the porn use stopped.

Now the husband is being berated for what he finds attractive and the whole neighborhood views him as a creep, courtesy of his wife.

I do not think the porn use is the only disrespectful thing happening here.

Kobo

Not if their parents are dead.

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Kobo

Na. Just can see through the BS. The OP has very little to do with porn or the women in porn being her daughter's age.

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