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post #31 of 126 (permalink) Old 02-16-2012, 01:48 PM
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So if my daughter is 21 I am not allowed to see women in their twenties in bikinis?

But maybe later when she is 31 it is ok, but not to view women in their 30s.

Surely it is ok with women to view their sons hunky friends at any age. Not really sure what this has to do with porn really. I guess you are saying that your hubby likes porn with 20 year old girls in them and you would be happier if he was viewing women at a more advanced age.

Now if he were into kiddie porn you should be way creeped out.


Seriously, Quit trying to have a logical discussion. This has nothing to do with her daughters, her daughter's friends, or her BFFs that she chats to about their relationship issues. It's about her getting older and being insecure that her husband finds younger women attractive and maybe even more attractive than her.

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Of course it would!

What's good for the goose isn't necessarily good for the grandfather.

Or something like that.
LOL...I was just thinking of one of my friends who has a pool; his daughter (20) brought friends over to swim; he said I took one look at them all and went "Jesus Christ!!!!" and went back inside. I got the impression that he felt bad even having that normal male reaction to young good looking scantily clad women who happened to be friends of his daughter.

This being said, that same friend also frequents a well known area strip club as a regular client. We all know, that strip clubs aren't exactly known for employing older women!

This thread is cracking me up! And it's refreshing to have a new topic to yack about, too!

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Of course it would!

What's good for the goose isn't necessarily good for the grandfather.

Or something like that.
Most women are daughters. Most women marry older men. Try again

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I took it to read her daughter and friends.
I understood it to simply mean "if he likes porn with young stars, what's stopping him from liking young girls who are my daughter's age."

To me, the best answer is the parenting instincts that kick in. As a father with girls, you are a protector first and foremost.
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LOL...I was just thinking of one of my friends who has a pool; his daughter (20) brought friends over to swim; he said I took one look at them all and went "Jesus Christ!!!!" and went back inside. I got the impression that he felt bad even having that normal male reaction to young good looking scantily clad women who happened to be friends of his daughter.
See - my first thought would me "Jesus Christ! There goes a quiet peaceful weekend day at home!"

But if my Ex were to bring over a 25 year old "friend" - that would be different...
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Seriously, Quit trying to have a logical discussion. This has nothing to do with her daughters, her daughter's friends, or her BFFs that she chats to about their relationship issues. It's about her getting older and being insecure that her husband finds younger women attractive and maybe even more attractive than her.
Ridicule!
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LOL...I was just thinking of one of my friends who has a pool; his daughter (20) brought friends over to swim; he said I took one look at them all and went "Jesus Christ!!!!" and went back inside
Same thing happened to me! I took a look at the crowd of young girls, mumbled an expletive and went back inside. Took me a long 5 minutes to find my bathing suit..
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Same thing happened to me! I took a look at the crowd of young girls, mumbled an expletive and went back inside. Took me a long 5 minutes to find my bathing suit..

LOL

The first question should always be, "If it's that bad, why are you still there?

OK, you screwed up, it happens. Now apologize. But apologize just once. Make it loud, clear, short, to the point, and directly to those you trespassed against. Then move on.
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See - my first thought would me "Jesus Christ! There goes a quiet peaceful weekend day at home!"

But if my Ex were to bring over a 25 year old "friend" - that would be different...
How old are you? Depending on the answer, the 25 year old friend is probably not interested, Gramps!



This coming from a once 23 year old me who once had a 47 year old married boyfriend! Oh, my, was I a bad girl or what!
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The OP makes a value judgment when she labels porn as "disrespectful." If her husband doesn't share the same value judgment, then there is no way he could transfer the emotion from that reaction to a situation that hits closer to home. Simply put, if he views the women as willing participants (whether they are is another question altogether), he won't be having those protective feelings about his offspring.

And, to be fair, a child in their 20's is entitled to make their own choices in our society.

If you two have a different value judgment on porn, this will likely creep up on other areas of your relationship and clear, effective communication will be the solution.

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When you view porn, do you think "I shouldn't be doing this as my daughters are the ages of the women I'm gawking at, and it's disrespectful?"
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Most women are daughters.
Um, ALL women are daughters. FYI, ALL men are sons!
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Um, ALL women are daughters. FYI, ALL men are sons!
Don't you mean "All men are pigs???"

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So the husband was viewing porn, and the OP (finally) communicated a boundary and the porn use stopped.

Now the husband is being berated for what he finds attractive and the whole neighborhood views him as a creep, courtesy of his wife.

I do not think the porn use is the only disrespectful thing happening here.
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Um, ALL women are daughters. FYI, ALL men are sons!
Not if their parents are dead.

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Ridicule!
Na. Just can see through the BS. The OP has very little to do with porn or the women in porn being her daughter's age.

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