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Old 02-16-2012, 12:27 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Just a couple of questions about men who have teenage daughters or daughters in their 20's. These seem to be the ages of girls in porn.

When you view porn, do you think "I shouldn't be doing this as my daughters are the ages of the women I'm gawking at, and it's disrespectful?"

Also, do you ever think that could be your daughter on screen, and what you would think about them doing these activities and having men get off on it.

I'm sure it is different if you don't have daughters or they are little girls, but really, I can't understand this.

We spend a lot of time boating in the summer with the daughters in bikinis and I'm just wondering how my husband feels about this but he won't tell me. It gives me the creeps.

My girlfriends won't wear a bathing suit near him because they're creeped out about it since finding out about his porn habits, which I believe have stopped now, since I told him it is totally unacceptable.
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Old 02-16-2012, 12:29 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Your whole post is creepy and it isn`t because of your husband.

How do your girlfriends even know about your husbands porn habits?

As the father of a pre-teen daughter I can tell you I don`t associate her with porn.
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I'm not a guy but I do have an 18 yo daughter, a 20 yo son and a 22 yo son and I do view porn myself from time to time.

The thought of my kids never crosses my mind whatsoever when I'm watching a porn movie, ever. That's just freaked out. Why would it????

As for my husband, he is her stepdad, and he is a sober sex addict. I wouldn't be with him if I thought for even one millisecond he had or had ever had sexual thoughts about our daughter.

Why would you even think to ask him about what he thinks of his own DAUGHTERS? Has he done something twisted? Watching porn in moderation isn't twisted (assuming it isn't detracting from your sex life) and it sounds to me like you and your friends have some hang ups going on there.
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Old 02-16-2012, 12:41 PM   #4 (permalink)
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That's a darned good question! What you're really asking though, is for your husband to stop being attracted to young women. Sadly, it won't happen! I asked my H the same question, but I phrased it differently (neither of us have daughters). I asked him how it felt to be looking at women that he was old enough to have fathered; he got a stupid look on his face and couldn't answer. I'm chuckling just thinking of this...LOL...

It's the older man / younger woman thing. It seems to be more acceptable one way, but not the other (older woman/younger man).

This is one of those gender things that I'll never work out...when I look at porn, and the guys are my kids' ages, I get totally grossed out and turn it off.

I think that if I had daughters, this would make me crazy....

To answer Tacoma's question, at least one of my girlfriends knows about my husband's (former) porn habit because he was stupid enough to view in one room, while the two of us were in the other. We could see the screen reflecting in the window. Not one of his shining moments! Many women tell their girlfriends about this kind of stuff...it's not uncommon.
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Tacoma - If you have a wife, ask her what she would think if you would be viewing porn when your daughter is 20, and how this is disrespectful to women in general.

It's not creepy, the men who are fathers are the slimy creepers.
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For the record, I don't thing the OP meant thinking about her actual kids; the AGES, people, the AGES...

Imagine, Hope, your H running off with a girl younger than your daughter...? It happens! I think that's what the OP was getting at. The age.
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Just a couple of questions about men who have teenage daughters or daughters in their 20's. These seem to be the ages of girls in porn.

When you view porn, do you think "I shouldn't be doing this as my daughters are the ages of the women I'm gawking at, and it's disrespectful?"

Also, do you ever think that could be your daughter on screen, and what you would think about them doing these activities and having men get off on it.

I'm sure it is different if you don't have daughters or they are little girls, but really, I can't understand this.

We spend a lot of time boating in the summer with the daughters in bikinis and I'm just wondering how my husband feels about this but he won't tell me. It gives me the creeps.

My girlfriends won't wear a bathing suit near him because they're creeped out about it since finding out about his porn habits, which I believe have stopped now, since I told him it is totally unacceptable.
Tell your girlfriends they've got nothing to worry about. And I'm sure they don't, if your H's porn collection is of nubile young 20 somethings. Of course, if your friends are all in their 20's, then pardon the post!
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My girlfriends won't wear a bathing suit near him because they're creeped out about it since finding out about his porn habits, which I believe have stopped now, since I told him it is totally unacceptable.
The VAST majority of men regularly use porn so your girlfriends should simply never wear bathing suits.

If my wife tried to imply that I was incestuous because I watched porn I would leave her.

What about women with sons who use porn? This post is sexist and insulting to MOST men.
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A straight man is NEVER going to stop finding young women attractive. It's the way we're wired. You're more likely to get a dog to stop licking itself than to change this in a man.
Fortunately, I think the vast majority of us also are hardwired not to have sexual attraction toward our offspring (for genetic reasons, not to mention social/cultural norms). So chances are your husband isn't getting all hot and bothered when seeing his daughters in bikinis.

As for daughters and porn .... I never want my son working in a slaughterhouse, but that doesn't stop me from enjoying a good ribeye.
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Old 02-16-2012, 01:06 PM   #10 (permalink)
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candiegirl - you get what I'm talking about.

It has nothing to do with our daughters directly, just the AGES, exactly.

It's about the attitude to young women when you have 2 of your own.

I'm not worried about him leaving for a younger woman either.

I just feel that when you have daughters or sons, looking at people in porn who are their ages, is just disgusting.

hope - It's kind of like when you are watching porn, do you ever think, they're the age of my son!!!!
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That's like if I check out a young 20 year old in a bar who is less than half my age, and one of my friends says "That's messed up man you have daughters that age".

I say "she isn't my daughter so I don't give a rat's ass and I'd do her in a heartbeat without any second thoughts".
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Where did anyone get the idea, from the OP, that there was ANY talk of anything incestuous???

THAT'S what's really insulting; and proves the point that the OP was attempting to make. Well, guess what? Someone out there, maybe even one of your BUDDIES, is imagining what it would be like to screw your daughter! Not a damn thing to be done about it, either, considering that (most) men are 'wired' that way.
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That's like if I check out a young 20 year old in a bar who is less than half my age, and one of my friends says "That's messed up man you have daughters that age".

I say "she isn't my daughter so I don't give a rat's ass and I'd do her in a heartbeat without any second thoughts".
Glad you feel that way! Guess it wouldn't bother you if your daughter brought home a guy older than you, then!
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What does a porn have to do with people in real life? No I'm not a guy but I always thought it's not the same thing.

But I see your point and one of my friends argues this same point (to no avail mind you) because she has a daughter.

Oh and I'd still wear a bathing suit in front of this guy even though I know he likes porn. I'm NOT a porn star and he is a happily married guy. He just likes porn.
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My wife is somebody's daughter.

Should I stop doing those things with her?
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