dcrim-I am sorry to read what you wrote, for your sake, not mine. Let me share a couple of verses from the King James Bible.
Revelation 21:8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and *****mongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
Luke 13:3 I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.
Luke 13:5 I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.
Yes, these last 2 verses say exactly the same thing, but that's how important it is, The Bible warns us if we don't turn from our way of thinking about sin we will perish. Perish here means eternal separation from God.
John 14:6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: NO MAN cometh unto the Father, but by me.
I don't need to do things wickedly perverted to be completely and fully satisfied sexually. I hope you will see the truth, before it is eternally too late.
I guess I'm the only Christian who believes that when the Bible is talkinga bout "sodomy" its talking about homosexual sodomy, since the city of Sodom (what it was named after) was known for its homosexual "tendencies".
I have yet to find a Bible verse that says that anal sex with your wife is wrong. I see plenty of verses that talk about completely enjoying your spouse in the bedroom.
Do you have to be smart about it cleanliness wise/hygiene etc? Of course.
---Please understand I am all for total pleasure, different things to spice it up, but not into the unnatural, or what some pervert came up with in his brain to shock the porn world.---
You can draw that line for yourself, but not for others. There are plenty of people out there who have no problem with things you hate, and aren't going to have any patience for a lecture.
To tell G that he sounds like a wonderful husband "except for..." is like someone telling you that you sound like a great wife, except for being a bible freak.
---I have to agree I am my worst critic.---
This really is the root of the problem, and its related to what I said above. Just because YOU feel a certain way about something, does not mean that should be absolute. You being your own worst critic is fine IF you use that energy to improve something.
If, however, you are the type to always criticize yourself but never DO anything about it, then you are really just hurting those around you, as WELL as yourself. My gf, for a while would pout and moan about being unattractive, but never DO anything. She did not realize (or did not care) that it was hurting ME, and US.
wow alot has gone on since I last was on here...I was off for the weekend and spent the time with the family.
Am I the perfect dad and husband? not if you ask my children.. LOL you making them pick up after themselves and do chores, demotes me. LOL You see I grew up without a father, he died when I was 1 year old, I never got to know my father, that emptiness I still feel today. I learned not to be selfish, I am giving to a fault. If you were my neighbor and you had a problem, any problem, I would be the first one to help you, even if you hated my guts. I can only offer myself, you take what I can give, or you can just let it go, it doesn't bother me at all.
OK where to go with this... BTIA you can feel for me as you wish it will not change anything. I can assure you my wife has done nothing she is not comfortable with.
As for porn, sure there are some really disgusting things out there, and why people like it? I have no idea, that is there issue. I imagine the thing you are thinking about was the video my wife made for me, it was nothing major int he world of "wow" but for my wife it was...it was out of her comfort zone.
As for your religious beleifs, that is fine, if you wish to discuss them there is a religious section on here. Feel free to discuss it with others and have a healthy debate.
You came on here becuase you had low self esteem about your body and your stretch marks, we have tried to help you and give you advice to help you see that you are a beautiful woman to your husband.
I really think you need to really self examine yourself and your thought process of you and your family, particualry your relationship with your husband.
but again, I really you are looking for something to blame, and you chose to blame porn, becuase you have been lead to believe porn is the problem. I ask you, if your husband stopped looking at porn today and never viewed it again, do you think you both would be happy and go skipping down the trail in enternal bliss? think about it, there is more to it, and your answer is not in a book, it is the guy you live with.
Trust, communication, openess....Drac can list more, read some of his advice. Read some of the articles posted in the article section.
I wish you luck, porn may be a sympton, but not the disease.
RH-I agree sodomy is talking about homosexuals. But why? It's because of how they have sex with each other. Also, when I have had a large bowel movement it feels anything, but pleasurable. My husband is a lot bigger than a bowel movement also, so I can't imagine it would feel good at all. Not to mention the damage it can do-look it up. and please don't tell me if you stick a very large cucumber up yourself anally it would feel pleasurable. Did your wife actually say she is pleased with anal sex?
chop-I can see what you are saying. What I said is my views though. If someone was a drug addict talking about his marriage I would say he misses the mark, or a drunk or whatever. ya know what though? I miss the mark! If you see what I was trying to say is that GA is a great guy, has good qualities, but yet there is that thing in which In my opinion find him not perfect! NO ONE is perfect, I am first in line. I guess though I would rather be known as a Bible freak when I stand before God, than a porn freak. It's not that it is only my views, it is wrong and has caused more damage to all of America. Do research, look at the damage, just like when alcohol was illegal, there was reason for it and since the legalization of it there has been more crime, more divorce rates, more violence, etc. because of the damage it can cause. you can't tell me pornography(it being a sin aside) that it hasn't caused an increase in divorce, crime, molestation, etc. Do research on that too, please! As far as the other I will take a look at your criticism towards me, you are probably right.
GA-you are right in some ways, about my low self esteem etc. and I didn't realize I HAD to go to a seperate forum to express the way I feel. I should be able to express how I feel anywhere, especially where I first asked a question. I am not blaming porn. I don't think my husband looks anymore. I am blaming the people who feed into the industry. It is very profitable and for who? The greedy and most perverted. Like I said above, it causes a lot of damage, ruins families and marriages, causes more crime etc. yes, it is sin and I am strongly against it, but that aside, look at what it does to the brain, the family, America, etc. The consequences are grave and if I can speak my heart about to convince anyone to see the damage in it, then maybe lives can be changed. It's not about just a religious debate! As for your advice also, I will take a look at your criticism and I'm sure there is room for improvement, there always is!
Thanks everyone! The truth sometimes hurts, but I would rather hear the truth then be told what I wanted to hear all the time and have it be lies!
BTIA...I have a question for you, you seem deeply religious. Have you ever done any extensive traveling? not even of the world but of our country? Have you ever taken the time to study other religions or Cultures?
I know there are many religious people on this board and I applaud them for their values and beliefs. Some of our best posters are deeply religious and I really respect their opinions.
They are willing to accept people and ask questions to have a better understanding.
You see the world was not colored with one paint with one brush.
the thing that makes america exciting and the world exciting is the different "flavors" of societies and cultures.
We have had some great debates and some really solid discussions. Void, Mommy, lj, Drac, jt, MT, all great debaters and discussion people with alot of solid advice for many people in many different circumstances.
Someday I hope you can travel the world somewhat, not on a missionary mission, but just to experience the wonderful cultures the world has to offer.
I hope someday you can accept your husband for who he is, and you can accept yourself for who you really are. I hope you can be happy, and not worry about what anyone else thinks.
RH-I agree sodomy is talking about homosexuals. But why? It's because of how they have sex with each other. Also, when I have had a large bowel movement it feels anything, but pleasurable. My husband is a lot bigger than a bowel movement also, so I can't imagine it would feel good at all. Not to mention the damage it can do-look it up. and please don't tell me if you stick a very large cucumber up yourself anally it would feel pleasurable. Did your wife actually say she is pleased with anal sex?
1. You should do some research on how to do anal sex "properly", its not just sticking a raw/dry "cucumber" up your clinched anus. There are steps to relax the anus and the proper lubrication is needed.
2. I've said above, I could care less about anal sex, I like vaginal sex MUCH better, but my WIFE is the one who likes it and there have been times when I have gone to start in the vagina and SHE is the one that moves it to the other spot, not me. The ONLY time I'm "into" anal sex is during "aunt flow" and she's horny, then its a way to still make love and avoid the flow.
You act like anal sex is just some violent way of raming something up there. If that is done SURE there can be some major damage, but good Lord you would have to be a moron to do that.
I wouldnt think that would feel good AT ALL ugh really I dont know bout that!
Not being a woman I have no way of saying "yeah its good, you should try it, but make sure you do this..."
All I know is what she likes/does. She likes it that way sometimes and you have to let the woman control the motion/depth/etc during anal and go SLOW. That's all I know from what she wants/says/does.
No woman would like anal if the guy is pushing for it and almost immediately gets "rough", that, in my opinion, HAS to hurt.
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