I've been trying to move on from my wife, been branching out trying to see our options and so has she, then we end up back together talking about it. Then we start talking about us... then either I'm too stubborn or she's too proud, and we go again.
But now I'm starting to understand the effect of the dramas I play on her, and what she has put up with, with strength and commitment... and I guess I needed this experience to appreciate her as well, now I'm committed to make it work.
I don't want to start fights with her anymore, or to be a drama king and attempt to damage our relationship. Guess I've changed, and learnt. She doesn't want to be a doormat either I know so I'm making the first move and giving up my pride...
Wow rd, you sound like you have grown up. Keep it up, games are for children, and always remember that you and your wife are what your daughteer will look at as an example of marriage. I'm pulling for you.
It's nice to hear from you.
Consider forgiving yourself, too. What's done is done and tomorrow is a new chance. Working on yourself is one the hardest things in life to do, IMO. Wow, good for you and your family!
Good for you RD. You learned the same thing I had to a couple of months ago. Pride really has no place in the marriage. I had to give up my pride to stop the cycle. I now own my part of the problems and I'm trying to make it right. I feel a sense of relieve after giving up my pride for our marriage and things have gotten a lot better. I hope you have the same results.
Remember it takes two to work on the marriage. So, I hope she's willing to own and work on her part of the problem as well.
Good Luck to both of you. Look forward to hearing about your progress.
glad to hear. When we start being concerned for the other person more than ourselves, then we can truly say we are loving them. I am really happy you are doing better, I always think of your dear daughter, and this is the best thing for you all!