Re: Just realized: I don't trust my wife
So I will explain myself better this time, hoping that I will be more understood:
I am married over five years, and we def. had our ups and downs. Not long ago (few months ago) I started reading here about the "nice guy" syndrome and realized how I am indeed a very nice guy and how, most likely, my wife suffered from my lack of leadership and me being a wimp and not a real men.
I can tell that my marriage had improved greatly since. We are on a much better course but still have more to do, like every couple. My wife feels much more secure, expressed her love to me in ways she never did, and all of us makes me feel great, of course.
I am not looking to get divorced or anything like that. In fact I plan to live with her the rest of my life - if only g0d will help me.
However, I feel that my wife is a weak person who doesn't know how to deal with challenges, or lacking endurance. I feel like if she'd be under little pressure she'd just not be able to stand the pressure.
We both grew up in homes with financial problems, but while I feel it's just made me a better person - she views her childhood as a time when she suffered etc.
So I have no real complain her, and this is just in theory - but I feel like, if she in theory would not stay loyal to me if the times would be real though, that's mean that already now she is not really committed 100%.
Now you say - who cares, enjoy as long as you have no tough times and pray you should never have - you might be right, but in order for me to feel like I can just "surrender" to this marriage and be there 100%, I feel like a cloud above me.