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post #31 of 35 (permalink) Old 02-28-2012, 08:26 AM
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Re: Do I need to worry about this possible EA?

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TShe actually complains that the guy is such a jerk, control freak, anoying and she feels bad for his wife and she could never be with a guy like that. Seemed odd to me, that comment.
Uh-oh! I was about to give different advice, but that seals it for me. She likes him. Probably even LIKE-likes him.
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post #32 of 35 (permalink) Old 02-28-2012, 08:53 AM
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Re: Do I need to worry about this possible EA?

Men need to stop being afraid to appear jeaolous. Almost every women likes to know that there man is a little jealous of time/emotion given away to other men. Show her how important she and your marriage is to you. Get a little mad. Seems like she likes a little "jerk" in her men. Now is not the time to be passive. WWCD (What would Clint DO?)

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Re: Do I need to worry about this possible EA?

If things get bad go and inform the police chief or lieutenant of what is going on. Most police departments take a dim view of any employees or contractors fraternizing with married spouses.
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post #34 of 35 (permalink) Old 02-28-2012, 09:55 AM Thread Starter
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Re: Do I need to worry about this possible EA?

Thanks for the responses, appreciated.

First, the guy is not LE. There are several LE guys, private contractors, and a few indivuduals. I was just discribing the people in the club, the other guy is just some indivudual there. I was simply trying to let everyone know that this group is pretty intest training and not simple homeowner dog training, thus the interst levels of those training there is somewhat higher than a once a week sit/stay one hour lesson.

Some of the comments hit home and some simply scare me. I spent a good deal of time yesterday reading here, and determined that the more time you read her, the more crazy ideas pop into your head and you almost become paranoid.

I will be brining up my concerns to my wife this weekend when the time is right. More so from the angle of I miss/want to be her best friend an concerned that this guy is taking my place. I dont wnat to storm in and start setting up rules or act crazy. That is just not in my blood. I am not Beta, more so if she pisses me off enough I would simple serve her papers and help her pack. I would be sad, but will get over it. No questions or discussions.

Thanks again for all your responses
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Re: Do I need to worry about this possible EA?

hi minn--

my advice would be..

1. make the wife the bad guy and play into the "your a girl" with your wife and tell her its not right if because of a friendship a marriage breaks up.

this is your good friend, and right now his best friend dosent like this. lets not call more than a couple of days a week, so thy can work out their problems.

2. its time to learn all about dog[s]/training. just wikki the fvck out if it. get involved in her hobbie. an outside man dosent like it when the inside guy starts getting involved in the life of their spouse.

start showing up to sessions and just ask all the questions about food, and mediciene, and grooming. if you dont know the lingo, they could be talking code right in front of you, and you dont know.

2b. start talking to the guy when he calls, just a hey 'sup...keep it on a guy to guy convo, weather, sports, cars...whatever. this goes back to being involved. when you take an interest in your wifes hobbies, it will help her see that this guy is a doush.

3. start texting your wife during the day. keep it sexting, yet....just start with dinner plans, or a incident at the office, we all know the guy who is so stupid, you wonder how he remembers to breathe.

or that office twit. i think once you open up communication with your wife about your day, and show a real interest in her hobbie, she will follow suit with openness back.

do not make it a big deal to your wife. that would do the oppsite of what you want.

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