Personally, if I were ever looking again, age would not be a deterrent nor would financial status. I'm 37 so not considered young tail anymore anyway--haha.
BUT I do think older men offer more maturity and knowledge and hopefully know themselves and know what they want better than they did when they were in their 20-30's. Of course, if they're set in their ways, unwilling to explore and basically a curmudgeon I wouldn't want anything to do with them, but a sustained passion for life is very attractive.
Well, you'd be "Young tail " to me ;~) I guess in my case you might be right. It could be a matter that both women know from our social interactions I do have quite a passion for life. They also know what I've been through with my MLC wife and have said they find my "Onward and Upward" approach to life very admirable.
I don't know where this will go, I promised myself I'd give it a year on my own before I did anything. I'm approaching 9 months since my W gave me the speech and walked away with basically the clothes on her back, and it does not appear she's coming back...So it looks like "Young Boar" is on the menu for her and "Young Tail" for me.
OK, got ya. I misinterpreted your post to mean that more often than not biology dictates our choices.
I like the car analogy, we just got traded in for what appeared to be a better model....Hopefully they find out "mileage will vary" and you have to read the fine print about warranties ;~)
My exH is 4 yrs my senior and I've always dated around my age and someday I'd like to date someone 7-10 years older than me at some point just to try it.
older men well i'm thinking going younger men, wonders if men over 40 really still have a sex drive or energy, so seeing as i keep getting offered twenty year olds i might just have to go there for sex. I am seriously considering it.
Age isn't a big deal. My husband is 7 years younger but our chemistry and ability to get along is better than with the men i dated who were my age or older.
When you're both adults, in the same place in life (career, etc) then who cares. It's maturity, not age, that helps a relationship be good.
I dated a man who was 14 years older than me and I swear, I felt like his mother!
With Hubs, he may be younger, but I feel protected and taken care of. He is smart, innovative and a good provider. I never think about his age because he's so mature.
The 'MILF' thread made me notice this thread too...
Frankly, beyond the superficial attractiveness of youth, I am not seriously attracted to women younger than...say... I dont know.. 35 or 40?
Actually forget that line of reasoning - focusing on age is abroken concept in some respects. What I am more attracted to is confidence, intelligence, disposition, wit, kindness, empathy, humor, perspective, experience, health, self awareness, adventurousness, exhuberance, curiosity... personality traits and the like.
Yeah a nice a$$, flawless skin, tight body and the like are nice...which may or may not be more likely in youth. When you get right down to it for me, those I realize now... are not worth much in the grand scheme of things. You can have a killer body that makes me lust after you... but I assure you... that lust will last for about 30 seconds if I dont fully respect you as a person or an equal.
who the hell wants a relationship, i don't, just sex will do me fine and the only moaning i ever want to hear is sexual.
"who the hell wants a relationship"...That pretty much says it all doesnt it?
Thats all fine - you and I are simply looking for different 'things'. For me, sex is just about pointless wthout a relationship... it certainly isnt nearly as good nor as satisfying.
Sex by itself, on the other hand - with any warm body... is better than nothing I suppose.
I used to think like that when I was growing up, before I fully matured.
After a while it got old, there had to be more to life than just "Getting My Rocks Off".
Also it's hard living that life style without hurting anyone.
I know yours is the right attitude to have, but honestly I'm almost at the opposite point myself these days. I spent every day from the ages of 18 to 35 being a good husband, working hard, being "the grown up." My wife responded these last few years by saying I'm boring and that she wants to sleep around (she hasn't done so thankfully). I turned down so many come on's by women over the years, but my wife gets hit on these days in a bar or something and she thinks the other man is a god of some kind. But just knowing that I missed out on the early freedom that so many take for granted and it meant nothing to her really makes being single seem appealing these days.
My exH is 4 yrs my senior and I've always dated around my age and someday I'd like to date someone 7-10 years older than me at some point just to try it.
I wonder why that is? If it’s about maturity (or lack of it) from my experience a person’s biological age doesn’t give any indication at all about how mature they are. There’s many an elder person who is exceptionally immature and with some it seems the more they age the more child like they become.
I think the same goes with emotional intelligence. Biological age doesn’t give any indication about how emotionally intelligent a person is. It’s one of the delights I find in my son’s twenty-five year old partner, her emotional intelligence and maturity. She’s far more inclined that way than some people I know who are two or three times her age.
Older is better because who wants a woman who hasn't cracked her own owners' manual yet. If I wanted something with some assembly required I'd go to IKEA.
Slowly swirling bourbon around in her mouth is tons sexier than organic milk.
Older is better because who wants a woman who hasn't cracked her own owners' manual yet. If I wanted something with some assembly required I'd go to IKEA.
Slowly swirling bourbon around in her mouth is tons sexier than organic milk.
You really think because a person is older they’ve cracked their owners manual? Some in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s and 80s are still operating with the owners manual they had as five year olds and in their teens! A vast number of people simply haven’t updated their owners manual as time has gone by and they remain totally unaware and unadjusted to the often massive changes both inside and outside of them.
Biological age gives absolutely no indication of what lays inside a person. Not even from a health and fitness perspective let alone emotional and spiritual maturity.
Biological age gives absolutely no indication of what lays inside a person. Not even from a health and fitness perspective let alone emotional and spiritual maturity.
My life experience evidences this idea as false.
Age is indeed a general indicator of maturity and experience of intellect.