I think you're largely correct.
According to people who've studied these things, there are three primary reasons women file more often:
1. Divorce laws in most states favor women in child custody matters. In states where shared custody is the presumption, the rate of women initiating divorce is lower.
2. There more financial incentive to divorce for a woman.
3. Men are more likely to engage in behaviors that cause their partner to divorce them, i.e. substance abuse, infidelity, domestic violence, gambling, etc.
I'd suggest a fourth reason is that men are more willing to settle for an OK marriage (and get their needs met outside the marriage if necessary) whereas women tend to romanticize marriage and want out if/when things are less than ideal. Posted via Mobile Device
None of those point to a large amount of men desiring a relationship with younger women as the cause. Pretty sure that's what this thread is about.
I don't doubt that's true, but I'm curious to know what you think that means. Posted via Mobile Device
You can do a search on AARP studies on divorce for the information, but it is mostly results oriented, so papers on motivations often cite this study. My take is that men and women adapt differently to what is really just a dysfunctional marriage. Men might accept the status quo, and women see the passage of their children into adulthood as the time to end a broken marriage, at least with the walk away wife scenario as one contributor. Just my opinion. There is probably still a tendency for women to do more in the home, so why should she stay? But I don't think it is fair to pin the blame of men seeking younger wives entirely on men. When my brother divorced, the site he used for dating factored in income, and he was inundated with younger women interested in him. His ex was 10 years older, and he is only interested in a similar age.
As for the original question, men are biologically hardwired to be attracted to the appearance of fertility. And, like it or not,a woman in her mid-40s is not going to appear as fertile as your average 24 year old.
Cold. Hard. Truth.
This, of course, doesn't mean that every man will, or even want to, dump his wife of 20 years for the first young thing that pays him attention. A lot (most?) Of men will be flattered by it and move on with their lives. But you better believe the natural attraction is there. Posted via Mobile Device
If the question is, why would someone choose to be with a person with whom they have nothing to talk about, the answer, quite clearly, is that the first person is not interested in conversation.
Perhaps some of you men can get me to understand this ever growing fascination. Some men, when they and their wives begin to age and their wives are not so perky and gravity has taken its toll divorce their spouses for young hot girls.
You`re assuming these men left their wives ONLY because they got older.
Trust me, there`s always more to it than that.
Quote:
I understand the wanting of the young hot girls. But being of a certain age, one must question why. I imagine there is nothing to talk about. He mentions the Beatles and she says she hates bugs. You get my drift?
This would depend on the person.
Most young people today are into the music and culture of my generation.
It`s actually become a marketing concept.
Quote:
I know so many women, myself included, who exercise and do everything they can to stop the hands of time so our husbands won't leave us for a younger woman. How pathetic.
Maybe y`all are concentrating too much on your age and not enough on the emotional bond of marriage
Quote:
What makes men beleive that a hot young thing is sexually attracted to their pot bellies, balding head, flat ass, droopy balls, and hair growing out of their ears.
Hmm..I`m 45, in the best shape of my life.
There are a few young women interested in me and I`m quite sure it`s not due to my non-existent money.
Quote:
Our society is turning so vapid that I cannot watch regular TV anymore (I download Horror Movies and Heavy Metal). My husband of 20 years said that I put on a few pounds and is not attracted to me anymore. He says this as he is sitting there in his boxers, no tshirt, belly sticking out, greasy hair, uncut toenails, not bothering to shave so he looks like big foot. He says that he cannot get it up anymore due to his depression. Funny, I caught him two nights ago jerking off to lezzie porn. I told him that the cure of male impotency is NEW PU**Y. Of this I have no doubt.
You obviously married an ass, or he turned into one later.
Maybe you should explore where,when and why your disconnect with your husband happened.
If your husband isn`t attracted to you chances are it isn`t due to the physical aspect of your relationship.
It`s emotional probably resentment of some type.
Quote:
What do you guys think? Men, are women who (god forbid) age, turn men off? And if so, is it the media? We are being bombarded with youth this and tight buns that.
Age doesn`t turn me off.
I don`t think it does most men when concerning the woman they love.
Quote:
But these girls are in for a rude awakening when they hit 40. All those tatoos they get around their belly buttons are going to distort after having children or just aging. Their fake boobs are going to look ridiculous when they are 50, chasing around their children in curlers and a bath robe. Who is worse, the money grubbing young girl or the sleazy sex obsessed older man who just wants to enter the fountain of youth?
I don`t think you`re going to understand it because you believe you already know the answer.
The irony is that your answer is wrong and therefore you`ll never understand it.
If the question is, why would someone choose to be with a person with whom they have nothing to talk about, the answer, quite clearly, is that the first person is not interested in conversation.
I've heard many people say this...and I'm sorry, but how can you have nothing to talk about? Is everyone in your life the same age as you?
I've enjoyed people from all age groups all my life; there's never been a shortage of conversation, no matter if the other person is 70 or 17.
If the question is, why would someone choose to be with a person with whom they have nothing to talk about, the answer, quite clearly, is that the first person is not interested in conversation.
Why are we assuming a woman in her 20s is intellectually and conversationally inferior to an older man? Posted via Mobile Device
Woman have this competition thing going against each other when it
comes to how they dress, look, etc.
Sometimes I think that just them thinking about their husbands looking
at younger woman, encourages them to be and look their best.
If a man doesn't always kiss his wife's axx, sometimes keeping her guessing, she stays on her toes............playing more the role of the good wife.
Yes, they're all on display for one another...sad, though, to see the ones who are trying to compete with women 20 years younger, as if the men won't notice....sad and funny, all rolled into one.
I think this goes both ways. My no returned wife started exercizing for the first time on our 20 year relationship, lost weight, looked into a boob job, got braces on teeth that were just fine, and then dropped the Divorce word.
Shocked the hell out of me. It is not gender specific that someone will desire their youth again.
I was buying groceries the other morning. I just came from the gym wearing my work-out shorts and a t-shirt. I have some muscles and not at all a body builder. I was getting deli me whe this young beauty smiled at me and said good morning. no big deal. A couple minutes I saw her on the bread isle... Hello again... When I was checking out... there she was again smiling. Then asking me how I get my calves so muscular and what I do to stay in shape. She was probable in her 20"s and I am 44. Was she flirting? Don't know but my ego was sure feeling it.
I guess you've never worn a dress and high heels. Can be quite uncomfortalbe, and believe me when I say they come off as soon as I walk in the door from work. Hubby doesn't like it? Tough. He can come work with me if he wants to see. Either that, or he can take me out for dinner, where I'd be more than happy to dress the part, AND get ogled by all the guys while we're out ;-)
I'm 41, and no slouch in the looks dept...bonus? I know exactly who I am, I love myslef, and I don't face the insecurities that many women my age appear to suffer from.
I guess I should use emoticons when being sarcastic. I think women in their 20's y/o can be thrilling conversationalists, and can have lots in common with 40+ y/o men. I think depending on interests, it can be a fun, fulfilling relationship. But, generally, they would be at different stations in life, on beginning the family building stage and one through a significant part of it, and onto the personal fulfillment stage (grown kids means more time for hobbies and interests). Part of the relationship seems like it would be going through a class that one of the two has already taken. Part of the enjoyment of relationships is discovering things together. So a single, never married 45 y/o who had been carrier oriented, should have no issues with a 25y/o. But a divorced dad of 2, has been through so much.
Why would the divorced dad do it? Young women look a certain way that old women do not - like new cars look different than classic cars. Some prefer that young look, enjoy the ego boost of being attractive to women they could not have gotten when they were in their 20's, want to rub their ex's nose in it, like the status of having a trophy. Also, continuing the car analogy, some prefer breaking in a new car rather than dealing with the issues a classic might have. Also, it seems that younger women are likely to be more doting than older, more established women.
70Likes
Re: Old Men and Young Tail 
I think women in their 20's y/o can be thrilling conversationalists, and can have lots in common with 40+ y/o men. I think depending on interests, it can be a fun, fulfilling relationship. But, generally, they would be at different stations in life, on beginning the family building stage and one through a significant part of it, and onto the personal fulfillment stage (grown kids means more time for hobbies and interests). Part of the relationship seems like it would be going through a class that one of the two has already taken. Part of the enjoyment of relationships is discovering things together. So a single, never married 45 y/o who had been carrier oriented, should have no issues with a 25y/o. But a divorced dad of 2, has been through so much.
