I was buying groceries the other morning. I just came from the gym wearing my work-out shorts and a t-shirt. I have some muscles and not at all a body builder. I was getting deli me whe this young beauty smiled at me and said good morning. no big deal. A couple minutes I saw her on the bread isle... Hello again... When I was checking out... there she was again smiling. Then asking me how I get my calves so muscular and what I do to stay in shape. She was probable in her 20"s and I am 44. Was she flirting? Don't know but my ego was sure feeling it.
I usually don't recognize flirting (when its with me) unless it comes with a 2 X 4, so I wouldn't know. Lordy, I've sure walked into it, though. About 10 years ago (I was about 37), I stopped at a store and the young woman beside me was having a real dilemma with her screaming toddler. I made goofy faces and the toddler started smiling. At first, I thought the mom said, "you want to take her home?" I said, "No, my wife might have a problem with that." She said, "No, I said, 'Do you want to take me home?' My home..." Now, I can speak stupid-talk in twenty languages, so after muttering something about needing to get home to replace the hot water element I had just bought, I ran.
I guess you've never worn a dress and high heels. Can be quite uncomfortalbe, and believe me when I say they come off as soon as I walk in the door from work. Hubby doesn't like it? Tough. He can come work with me if he wants to see. Either that, or he can take me out for dinner, where I'd be more than happy to dress the part, AND get ogled by all the guys while we're out ;-)
I'm 41, and no slouch in the looks dept...bonus? I know exactly who I am, I love myslef, and I don't face the insecurities that many women my age appear to suffer from.
That's a funny perspective. I mean being willing to put in the effort for everyone except your husband. Can't imagine why a spry young thing putting in effort to get his attention might succeed.
I agree with those who say this phenomenon isn't gender-specific. I've had issues with my wife going through a stretch a few years back where all she wanted was the attention of younger men since she'd hit 30. It was rough on our marriage for sure, and I absolutely felt somewhat betrayed given that I'd spent years being careful not to do that kind of thing to her in regard to younger women. We're in a better place in our marriage now after a lot of discussion and soul-searching by both of us, but it certainly was difficult watching her going through the motions of trying to get male attention, especially younger male attention. Ego is a big part of it for men and women, and as people age and marriages get boring (which they all can at some point), plenty of people try to get that old feeling back by appealing to the younger crowd.
I usually don't recognize flirting (when its with me) unless it comes with a 2 X 4, so I wouldn't know. Lordy, I've sure walked into it, though. About 10 years ago (I was about 37), I stopped at a store and the young woman beside me was having a real dilemma with her screaming toddler. I made goofy faces and the toddler started smiling. At first, I thought the mom said, "you want to take her home?" I said, "No, my wife might have a problem with that." She said, "No, I said, 'Do you want to take me home?' My home..." Now, I can speak stupid-talk in twenty languages, so after muttering something about needing to get home to replace the hot water element I had just bought, I ran.
That could be flirting... If it were me I would think that I was so good with the child to get them to stop whinning and screaming to help out at home. I have to hit with a 2X4 also. Years and years ago friends would have to tell me when a lady was flirting with me. I would never know.
When I was 27, i dated a 41 year old man. We dated for 3 years and he was a good guy. Emotionally immature though. Yea.
Then I dated people my age. They were alright. Not very stable.
When I met Hubs, I thought he was in his late 20s. I was 31 so I thought it was no biggie. He thought I was in my late 20s, lolll We never cared about age. i have good genetics though. Thank you, Mom's side of the family!
I am sorry of the pain you are going through. It is unbelievable how so many men can be so superficial, cruel, and selfish. I know someone who dumped the wife who put on weight after bearing 2 beautiful babies for a women 10 years younger. It is a terrible thing.
As for your situation, I am wondering if there is more than his erection problems or lack of attraction to your body as you point out. It is inevitable for everyone’s body to become less attractive as the years go by. Even if my wife’s boobs hit her knees when she walked/and or weighed 300 lbs I would find a way to make love to her. I don’t relish the thought of my wife looking like this as it is not good for either of us. That said, him telling you he is not attracted to you is hurtful. I can only conclude that he is either an insensitive person and/or is harboring resentment. His “lack of attraction” may be more than superficial. When I am upset with my wife, I typically don’t want to have sex with her.
“Attraction” can mean more than just appearance. Mental illness is no excuse for bad behavior and you should not tolerate it. I think appearance may have less to do with things than may think.
That's a funny perspective. I mean being willing to put in the effort for everyone except your husband. Can't imagine why a spry young thing putting in effort to get his attention might succeed.
Re-read the post. Then you can comment and I might actually take you seriously.
BTW, how many of you ladies (men, your wives) do their housecleaning/cooking/gardening in dresses and heels?
I think everyone here has basically covered the range of possibilities.
Guys in great relationships with their wives (the burden on both to make it great), don't seem to care in the slightest bit on whether or not their wives have aged. Some of the crazy people here even seem to love their wife more as they age together. He does have the responsibility to take care of himself and make you feel secure in your relationship so that you don't think twice about your age. Unfortunately, if your relationship is anything like mine, you have two people who want the other to change before he/she will change.
Btw, Donald Trump is not only rich, he is also a very charming guy and he is a legend. I don't doubt for one second that the women he marries are attracted to him. While he has his flaws like everyone else, he is strong, successful, intelligent, charming, kind (in certain situations), and has a legacy that will last for a long time.
I can't speak from experience because I'm still 26, so I suppose younger would be like 16-17...I'm not down with that. I find a lot of 22-23 year old girls way less exciting than my 31 yo wife (we have other issues though).
Before I got married, I couldn't imagine marrying 5 years younger. Intelligence is one thing, but life stage and experience are a whole different game. I think perspectives change a lot as you age and gain more experience.
Basically, yes of course we'd love to take that young thing home and show her a good time, pot belly and sasquatch hair and all, but a ton of other factors go into our decision making (societal pressures, our own insecurities, etc.)
...most of us here will probably enjoy the flirting for a few seconds and then run home to replace the water element
About 8 years ago I worked with a man in his mid 40's who was trying
to turn back the clock. Not a bad looking man, turned grey early
but had a bit of a large rear end. He worked out every day, but still
couldn't get a smaller rear end. Diet didn't help either.
Over a long xmas break from work, he got Lipo done on his bottom and
belly.
Took a while for the swelling to go down but afterwards, he was looking
good and dropped lots of inches in the waist.
Then started dating some very good looking women and brought a sports car.
His biggest problem now.......he stopped exercising, started drinking a lot of beer
and eating unhealthy things. His bottom started getting big again!
I'm guessing that you were a big challenge in your younger days.
I also detect some attitude too........my wife has an attitude.
It drives me crazy sometimes and gets me all hot and bothered.
I'm all far taking my wife out to dinner or out on the town.
She looks great all dressed up. I'm also ok with dress down days too.
Oh you betcha...! I love looking good, Dean, and I've got major attitude in a good way. Am loving all these blokes who are trying to scare me by saying my husband looks at younger women. Ooooh, really? Guess I'd better get used to it, ay? I don't plan on keeling over anytime soon, so there'll be more and more younger women everyday!!!
I already had my turn to be a young 20 something...had a blast, too.
I'm in fairly good shape. Like liquid metal terminator. Same vaguely bemused dead glare too. Usually have a phone in my ear...so talking to myself and people steer wide of me. Little chickniks smiling at me? Couldn't tell you. It's not that I have bad manners, I have no manners.
Re-read the post. Then you can comment and I might actually take you seriously.
BTW, how many of you ladies (men, your wives) do their housecleaning/cooking/gardening in dresses and heels?
Connard...
Your post sounded like your effort ALWAYS ended at the front door when you walked in.. and no way in hell you were wearing a dress and high heels once you were off work. It read that way because that is what you said.
But I agree, I dress like a slob when I'm doing dirty chores etc - but I try to look good at other times - and sometimes go all out even if were just going for a quick dinner together. Generally my wife does the same. And we enjoy lounging in sweatshirts together from time to time. But as a rule, If I'll put the effort in for someone else I would also for her, and do.
It does not sound like in YOUR case your husband in wanting... or being tempted by younger models.... but if others read your one post and leave there effort at the front door as you suggest - it may not read quite as well in there situations.
BTW - I'm embarressed to admit I have had to grab a robe quickly to answer the door and only able to find my wifes much smaller, femine, frilly, robe - have created a whole NEW sexy look that probably didn't need to be discovered.
Your post sounded like your effort ALWAYS ended at the front door when you walked in.. and no way in hell you were wearing a dress and high heels once you were off work. It read that way because that is what you said.
But I agree, I dress like a slob when I'm doing dirty chores etc - but I try to look good at other times - and sometimes go all out even if were just going for a quick dinner together. Generally my wife does the same. And we enjoy lounging in sweatshirts together from time to time. But as a rule, If I'll put the effort in for someone else I would also for her, and do.
It does not sound like in YOUR case your husband in wanting... or being tempted by younger models.... but if others read your one post and leave there effort at the front door as you suggest - it may not read quite as well in there situations.
BTW - I'm embarressed to admit I have had to grab a robe quickly to answer the door and only able to find my wifes much smaller, femine, frilly, robe - have created a whole NEW sexy look that probably didn't need to be discovered.
No, my case brings about a whole other set of problems.
If he's tempted by younger models, these days, I'm tempted to let them have him. He can't even keep up with me, and I'm only a few years younger. Good luck to him with a 25 year old version of me.
To be frank from my childhood days to till this day, I have had older women in a large number as friends and pals..along with my age ones , slightly younger and much younger ones..
and I tend to say that Older Women have a mature , loving and even a better persona than some of the young bragging women..
My divorce attorney says he has observed this phenomena for more than 40 years and can easily sum it all up. The money is what attracts these younger women. When the money is gone so is the attraction. This is definitely the case with my estranged husband and his young harem. Without the money, he's not nearly as attractive.
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We never cared about age. i have good genetics though. Thank you, Mom's side of the family!
