eagleclaw

That's funny. At 41 I can keep up with my wife just fine - in fact I outpace her as I could easily do it every day. However, every now and then she wants to do it two or three times. In a day usually no problem. In an evening........ well the refractory period is definately not what it used to be. Third time will be tough if not a lot of time in between. And I may peform ok, but I'll never finish. Just part of getting older I guess.

I don't know that it's an age thing. I actually find older, bolder, confident, woman who know who they are and what they like far sexier than young, dumb, flakey girls. My wife is all the prior things. But I think if guys are tempted, I would guess the attractions as often as not is the willingness, the effort, the eager to please mentality a lot of younger women project.

If a guy is banging his head against the wall and the wife is just not showing interest, or that she is attracted to him and not projecting that his needs are a priority to her... then he is going to get VERY tempted with interest coming from outside of the marriage unrelated to age. It's just that generally younger women are much braver flirting and hitting on men.

CandieGirl

I'm not worried. My husband is practically deceased. Really? He's the one that should be worrying.

eagleclaw

Who said you should be worried? I don't get it. Why is he practically deceased? I'm confused.

Enchantment

Old men wanting young wives... young women marrying for money... none of it is anything new under the sun...been around since the beginning of time.

But, like anything - you get what you pay for. If all you are concerned about is the vapid and doing things for appearances sake or out of unfettered selfishness, then you are sure to receive your just desserts in shallowness and its attendant - misery - in time.

I'm not even going to worry about it - if you attend to your own side of things and try to be the best that you can - let that self-confidence radiate from you in every way - believe me - 'young tail' won't matter, and if it does - that's THEIR loss.

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eagleclaw

Well said.

L.M.COYL

I think there is something inherently appealing about a mature, successful and powerful man having a trophy wife. I mean it seems so commonplace: younger women are attracted to not only the above attributes but also the experience, charisma, etc, while older men love the suppleness, open-mindedness and flexibility (in oh-so- many ways). I mean, it's not like you actually have to talk to each other for protracted periods; that's what your mates are for!

Lionelhutz

In the interests of full disclosure, the reserve situations do exist.

Many years ago, I had a relationship with a woman in her late 40s when I was in my 20s. Does that make me a himbo?

Runs like Dog

Once you go Susan Sarandon you never go back.

LostWifeCrushed

I'd suggest a fourth reason is that men are more willing to settle for an OK marriage (and get their needs met outside the marriage if necessary) whereas women tend to romanticize marriage and want out if/when things are less than ideal.

Wow i agree with Frank on this one. 100% on the money

RClawson

Candie,

I do see your point but I listen to my daughters friend's (just out of college) talking in the other room and I want to shove a hot needle in my ear. It is a maturity issue. It is having lived a little and having some life experience and substance. If I was single I am not interested in being a mentor I want someone who has shared interests, hobbies, outlooks and passions.

Young girls are certainly nice to look at but to me women over 40 and into their 60's are the total package. I have thought that since my 20's.

Stryker

Older Women also take their liking for younger men..but most get their due as Ashton Kutcher did to Demi Moore recently , who had disowned and ditched Bruce Willis for the younger guy...

hookares

So what's this? Is the fact that I NEVER chased the bobby -sox tail while my ex was out screwing anything she thought would go further just one more of my many failures in taking twenty years to wise up? Well, at least I'm now making up for past failures, although as a guy gets older, what constitutes as a "young girl" gets older.

jnyu44

Candiegirl - it seems to me like you already want to give up on the relationship and you're not really looking for advice here (which is of course totally fine). If you actually sincerely do want to patch things up, you might want to take an alternative to the attitude route.

My wife has plenty of attitude and while it was great to be dating an opinionated woman with plenty of sass and fire, it can be really trying for me to be married to one.

I don't want to be quick to tell you that your approach is wrong since I know nothing of you and your husband. What I'm trying to say is that if you really want to fix this problem with your husband, maybe the attitude should take a back seat this time around (while of course protecting yourself if he turns out to be a complete jerk and not willing to work it out).

Trickster

Sometimes I will comment on a woman we see about her looks. I don't think that I am putting my wife down. She may see it different though. It's just my imagination running away with me... My wife said something along them lines... "If you think you can have her...go for it. I won't stop you". The truth is...is that I would not want a 25 year old. Hopefully your husband feels the same way... Let him dream a little.

CandieGirl

This is not my thread, I was just commenting along with everyone else.

My problem is quite different....my husband doesn't lust after young women. He doesnt lust after anything! Christ, if he did, maybe I'd know he was still alive in there somewhere.