Do you think the same thing applies when women pursue much younger men? I'm serious, because from my own personal experience, it seems like it is more of a "seize the moment" type of affair when an older, married woman initiates a sexual relationship with a younger guy. Its happened to me twice from 17 to 19, my BIL, and more recently my son. My son got the h3ll out of dodge when she woman initiated, but he is still dealing with guilt over their divorce. He really looked up to the woman's husband.
I think it is a very sad thing when this happens ... personally I would find it so demeaning
to go there..... even if I was single. My guess is any older wife who does this is very unhappy at home and obviously not getting her needs met within the marraige, due to the husband being emotionally distant, or sexully rejecting... they have probably given up on love and..... Excitement is the next best thing, plus it boosts their ego if a young man wants them, the whole "milf" thing. (no different from an older man wanting a younger woman...boosts the ego).
Sexually speaking, from this hormone book The Alchemy of Love and Lust
...it says that older women (late 30's into 40's) and younger men are both in thier PRIME
and well, would make the hottest lovers really, but that can only last a season (I think of Demi Moore & Ashton Kutcher).... How sad of an ending, though how could it not be predicted. I just heard Madonna (52 ?) has as 25 yr old boyfriend, I don't care how famous they are, I think it is SAD.
Even older men & younger woman are a better match sexually as younger women's drives have (generally) not been awakened the way they will be later in life by a Test dowsing......which I should know all about......and yeah, what I wanted more than anything else in this life.....during that WILD unrelenting spell.....if my husband could have been 25 again, so he could have handled my drive, that would have been pure heaven to me. But I worked with what I had.
Just goes to show...no matter who we are with, at what age, if this is who we married....we need to take care of our spouse -even if we don't feel the same, that is our answer, our lesson in these things.... young wives be there for your young explosively horny husbands--even if you don't feel the same, cause someday you just MIGHT feel EXACTLY what he is feeling - and will be kicking yourself the way I did.... and older men be there for your older wives when her time comes (at least my husband had compassion -cause he knows what that feels like).
These things can only cause that vasopressin monogomy bond - to rise within our marraiges.