I think this is why so many were so freaked out by that news story with the teacher moving in with his 18 year old student and abandoning his family. It underscores a reality that no amount of social engineering can do anything to change.
And yet, were the teacher a female and the student a male people call her a 'cougar' and are pretty mean about her. I have seldom if ever read or heard anything nice said about older women who date younger men.
To me the issue of the 18 year old moving in with the teacher is two fold.. 1) it broke up a family 2) he was her teacher and hence in a position of authority over her. Other than that he was her teacher it's no more dispicable than any other affair.
We aren't all freaked out by this...personally, I already had my run at being a young chick. Now, I plan on enjoying being middle aged, then, hopefully someday an old woman!
Some of the things the OP said made me laugh, that's all, like her descriptions...that's what led me to comment in the first place. Not because I am outraged about older men/younger women. It would be a more than a little hypocritical given my history.
And yet, were the teacher a female and the student a male people call her a 'cougar' and are pretty mean about her. I have seldom if ever read or heard anything nice said about older women who date younger men.
To me the issue of the 18 year old moving in with the teacher is two fold.. 1) it broke up a family 2) he was her teacher and hence in a position of authority over her. Other than that he was her teacher it's no more dispicable than any other affair.
They may be "mean" about the cougar, but she would likely walk away scott-free or with a slap on the wrist in most jurisdictions. This guy waited until she was 18 and they're still trying to jail him, while national news shows have been running features on the whole situation for the past week. This has women freaked out.
Understand though that I'm not praising the guy. He's ruined his life, her life and his family's life. He's basically done at the age of 41. But the fact that he'd do that just to be with an 18 year old underscores something inherent in men and younger women that most people don't want to face.
We aren't all freaked out by this...personally, I already had my run at being a young chick. Now, I plan on enjoying being middle aged, then, hopefully someday an old woman!
No offense, and maybe you're different and I'm speaking generally of course, but women are deeply, deeply freaked out by the fact that men will always have at least some attachment to the idea of a younger female. It isn't that different from men being deeply freaked out by the fact that if they ever lose the ability to provide, their wives would at least consider stepping out on him or, if she's kind, divorcing him. That doesn't mean we actually do those things to each other, but the tendency is there buried somewhere. It's just one of those uncomfortable truths that most people don't want to acknowledge.
No offense, and maybe you're different and I'm speaking generally of course, but women are deeply, deeply freaked out by the fact that men will always have at least some attachment to the idea of a younger female. It isn't that different from men being deeply freaked out by the fact that if they ever lose the ability to provide, their wives would at least consider stepping out on him or, if she's kind, divorcing him. That doesn't mean we actually do those things to each other, but the tendency is there buried somewhere. It's just one of those uncomfortable truths that most people don't want to acknowledge.
I am different. And I've already experienced being a young woman. Now there are women younger than me. It's life. Besides, I'm only 41. There are still loads of old bags who wish they were MY age!!!
They may be "mean" about the cougar, but she would likely walk away scott-free or with a slap on the wrist in most jurisdictions. This guy waited until she was 18 and they're still trying to jail him, while national news shows have been running features on the whole situation for the past week. This has women freaked out.
Understand though that I'm not praising the guy. He's ruined his life, her life and his family's life. He's basically done at the age of 41. But the fact that he'd do that just to be with an 18 year old underscores something inherent in men and younger women that most people don't want to face.
I am different. And I've already experienced being a young woman. Now there are women younger than me. It's life. Besides, I'm only 41. There are still loads of old bags who wish they were MY age!!!
I think this is the right attitude, for all of us I mean. We're all aging and it doesn't matter ultimately, does it? But I can say honestly, truly, that the most attractive woman in the room is the confident woman who knows what she's about and has gained a lot through experience. I've known even average looking women who have that "something" that puts them head and shoulders above much younger, prettier women. Accepting yourself is hugely important. I wish I could get my wife to accept herself more, because she's one of those women who has gotten more attractive with each passing year, but still worries that she no longer measures up.
Understand though that I'm not praising the guy. He's ruined his life, her life and his family's life. He's basically done at the age of 41. But the fact that he'd do that just to be with an 18 year old underscores something inherent in men and younger women that most people don't want to face.
Don't forget she was his OW before he divorced... men leave wives for OW all the time, it's not entirely an age thing. Probably the one thing all OW by definition have in common is sexual eagerness.
Don't forget she was his OW before he divorced... men leave wives for OW all the time, it's not entirely an age thing. Probably the one thing all OW by definition have in common is sexual eagerness.
This is a big factor, especially for the sort of weaker men who leave their wives for other, maybe younger, women. I'm sure people get bored with each other and then this other person comes along and seems like she's into him. It's probably not real and won't last, but he's too dumb to get that at the time. That movie "Election" popped into my head when I first read about this situation.
I have actually never been with a woman younger than me. On average, the women I have been intimate with in the past have been about 10 years older than myself. My oldest was old enough to be my mom (in her 60s). My wife was the spring chicken, a year older than me.
Do you think the same thing applies when women pursue much younger men? I'm serious, because from my own personal experience, it seems like it is more of a "seize the moment" type of affair when an older, married woman initiates a sexual relationship with a younger guy. Its happened to me twice from 17 to 19, my BIL, and more recently my son. My son got the h3ll out of dodge when she woman initiated, but he is still dealing with guilt over their divorce. He really looked up to the woman's husband.
I think it is a very sad thing when this happens ... personally I would find it so demeaning to go there..... even if I was single. My guess is any older wife who does this is very unhappy at home and obviously not getting her needs met within the marraige, due to the husband being emotionally distant, or sexully rejecting... they have probably given up on love and..... Excitement is the next best thing, plus it boosts their ego if a young man wants them, the whole "milf" thing. (no different from an older man wanting a younger woman...boosts the ego).
...it says that older women (late 30's into 40's) and younger men are both in thier PRIME and well, would make the hottest lovers really, but that can only last a season (I think of Demi Moore & Ashton Kutcher).... How sad of an ending, though how could it not be predicted. I just heard Madonna (52 ?) has as 25 yr old boyfriend, I don't care how famous they are, I think it is SAD.
Even older men & younger woman are a better match sexually as younger women's drives have (generally) not been awakened the way they will be later in life by a Test dowsing......which I should know all about......and yeah, what I wanted more than anything else in this life.....during that WILD unrelenting spell.....if my husband could have been 25 again, so he could have handled my drive, that would have been pure heaven to me. But I worked with what I had.
Just goes to show...no matter who we are with, at what age, if this is who we married....we need to take care of our spouse -even if we don't feel the same, that is our answer, our lesson in these things.... young wives be there for your young explosively horny husbands--even if you don't feel the same, cause someday you just MIGHT feel EXACTLY what he is feeling - and will be kicking yourself the way I did.... and older men be there for your older wives when her time comes (at least my husband had compassion -cause he knows what that feels like).
These things can only cause that vasopressin monogomy bond - to rise within our marraiges.
Personally there is nothing sexier than a elegant mature woman who knows what she wants and how she wants it
Younger girls might be fun for a bit but a mature woman will give you good loving AND a great "pillow talk" conversation based on life experience and interesting topics.
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