My hubby is an exception....but other guys can't stand it....

zaliblue · 03-29-2012, 01:16 AM

Blue Moon,

How is your relationship? Sometimes people can be bitter towards others because they are not happy in their own lives. I honestly believe mu husband is a great guy,and an exception. The boyfriend that I had before my hubby was a complete ass. He checked out other girls in front of me and even made comments....ummm not cool. My hubby and I have a great relationship, I mean sure we have our ups and our downs, but I don't think that he has any reason to be dishonest with me....He knows I'm not the type to hound him or persecute him about things....And if the whole "getting offended" was for my benefit, then I am pretty flattered that he would go through all that for me lol....

Entropy3000 · 03-29-2012, 01:31 AM

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Originally Posted by zaliblue

lol....gees u guys really are sharks, aren't you? Oh well, I'm flattered that my post get read anyway

. I never said that my husband doesn't look....I am sure that he does, just not in front of me. And, yeh, we've been to a strip club (together), he just doesn't feel right going without me I guess. The who threesome thing, it's honestly me....I think that I pushed that issue more than him. He has never mentioned wanting to have one....but the times that I messed with the other girls, it was pretty much sprung on him....drunk nights with my girlfriends=kissing and other things....and yeh, I just figure that's every guys fantasy. And the "Spoiled to Sex" post turned out to be nothing but him stressed at work....I'm guessing if you had been keeping up with the post you may have read that

No hard feelings though....I have been waiting for when the claws would come out....someone actually warned me about the bitter men on this site that disect post just to find something wrong with them because of their lack of sex life....Oh well....good day to you guys and I really hope that you're problems work out

Chillax. Some folks just come here to F with peoples heads. They have their own problems to work out.

Drunk nights with your girlfriends equals kissing. Yeah I am seeing that this is very trendy now a days. Mostly to grab some attention because they think all guys are into two women having sex. You may enjoy this. Good for you.

I really never got into that. When I was single I enjoyed being the center to their attention and was not interested in watching them FWIW.

The whole claws thing is a self fulfilling prophecy for some. Others are just bored and try to jerk people around with their comments.

AllThePrettyHorses · 03-29-2012, 02:23 AM

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Hi, I was just reading some post on here, and realized that so many guys on here use the lame excuse "we're men, it's how we're made....blah blah blah". Well, my husband isn't any of that, and it seems as if other guys resent him for it, especially his own friends. For example....For is bachelor party, his best man took him to Bourbon Street in Louisiana. I mean, this is tit capital. lol....I told him that I was fine with him going into a strip club, and his friends heard so they were super excited. Well, after the bachelor party, it seemed like all of the guys were really ill at one another, but I just thought they were all hungover. It turns out all of hubby's friends were trying to get him to go into a strip club and he refused...so they were all pissed at him. Another time is just when we were all sitting around the fire, talking about why guys check out other chicks even when they're married. My friend was like "yeh, "Bob" does it all the time, in front of me". So, I jokingly asked my hubby if he checks out girls in front of me (even though i have never saw him) and he said no, quite seriously....All of his friends jumped his case about how he is a guy, and it is programmed into him to look blah blah blah, and he honestly got offended....It's like, my husband is an exception to men, he only has eyes for me....yet his friends can't stand it. Why?

Don't get mad if I confused you for someone else on TAM, but I thought you guys had a threesome before?

DocHoliday · 03-29-2012, 07:56 AM

My husband (I consider an over all pretty good guy), looks at women, but usually not when he knows I am looking. It is just a rude thing to do in front of your spouse.

He has looked at porn, but again, was discrete about this.

My point is, all the wives who seem to be SO SURE that their husbands "Don't do that sort of thing"... don't be so sure.

I found out that my husband trolled dating sites (about 1 - 2 x a year)-- I would have NEVER thougth that he would do such a thing.
He tried to tell me that "I would be surprized if I knew how many married men did this", like it was a "guy thing"...

-- but I still called B.S.

Jellybeans · 03-29-2012, 08:00 AM

Your husband isn't the exception. No offense. Men look at other women. Just as women look at other men.

Acting on it's one thing. Noticing the opposite sex is human nature.

My source: Rocket Science.

I know. Someone give me an award.

Kobo · 03-29-2012, 08:10 AM

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My point is, all the wives who seem to be SO SURE that their husbands "Don't do that sort of thing"... don't be so sure.

sshhhh. Don't mess up the program.

nice777guy · 03-29-2012, 08:28 AM

I do find it just a little odd that he wouldn't even go inside the Strip Club when "out with the guys" for that kind of evening. Especially when you had already said that you had no problem with it.

Its easy enough to hang out in the corner and have a coke and tell the girls you aren't interested in a "dance" tonight.

And just to touch on the "threesome" thing - I haven't read your other post so maybe I'm missing out on some important info. While its a typical male FANTASY - most of us are smart enough to realize the damage it would do to a relationship.

Had my ex started a drunken make-out session with a friend, there would have been way too many alarms going off in my head for me to have been able to enjoy the "show."

And hey - looks like people are REALLY reading your posts!!!

Jellybeans · 03-29-2012, 08:30 AM

Yeah as for the 3somes things--he def isn't the exception.

Blue Moon · 03-29-2012, 08:55 AM

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Originally Posted by zaliblue

Blue Moon,

How is your relationship? Sometimes people can be bitter towards others because they are not happy in their own lives. I honestly believe mu husband is a great guy,and an exception. The boyfriend that I had before my hubby was a complete ass. He checked out other girls in front of me and even made comments....ummm not cool. My hubby and I have a great relationship, I mean sure we have our ups and our downs, but I don't think that he has any reason to be dishonest with me....He knows I'm not the type to hound him or persecute him about things....And if the whole "getting offended" was for my benefit, then I am pretty flattered that he would go through all that for me lol....

What part of what I said was bitter? I didn't even mention your relationship, I just said he was laying it on thick by being "offended." Any dude knows that the one in the group who takes it to heart gets the most jokes toward them, lol. But it's always in fun.

But instead of seeing what I said and agreeing or disagreeing, you just assumed I'm angry and lashing out. That's cool too.
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CrazyGuy · 03-29-2012, 09:20 AM

I guess I must be a "bitter man." My marriage was sexless for a very long time but I stuck it out. It is better now. I never did like strip clubs but would go to one if a bunch of friends wanted me to go. Porn really does nothing for me either. It was always about the real deal for me. Nothing meaningless like a one night stand or something.

I will say though I love the female figure. Short, tall, skinny, a little chunky.... Does not matter.

When my marriage was sexless I found myself thinking....."(blank) I would love to nail that." To just about everything that breathed. I also hated myself for thinking like that at the same time.

Now that my marriage has changed my thoughts also changed. Now when I see an absolutely gorgeous woman I notice her but now I think more like "she looks nice" and nothing much more. Kind of like seeing a nice view on a trail or something. I appreciate the view of a nice looking lady but I do not dwell on it much. Like some other people said I now find my wife pointing out other women more then I notice them.

But to call men bitter because they do not get enough sex is not the best thing to say. It happens to both men and women. It is not a subject to be taken lightly. If you really want to find out what kind of man you got, do not have any sex or physical contact with him for a year. When he starts to get concerned about the lack of sex start a argument with him. See how long he will put up with you. This is what many people on this board has been through.

zaliblue · 03-29-2012, 11:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Blue Moon

What part of what I said was bitter? I didn't even mention your relationship, I just said he was laying it on thick by being "offended." Any dude knows that the one in the group who takes it to heart gets the most jokes toward them, lol. But it's always in fun.

But instead of seeing what I said and agreeing or disagreeing, you just assumed I'm angry and lashing out. That's cool too.
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ummmm, yeh, only because you said that he is either lying, or a *****...lol....not very nice either way

zaliblue · 03-29-2012, 11:40 AM

Oh, and ALLTHEPRETTYHORSES,

Never had a threesome....I have done things with other chicks in front of my husband, but he never took part....and he may check out other chicks...but i dont think that it is to the extreme as other guys do....some guys will literally look at chicks and undress them with their eyes....my husband may look, but i think that the only thing that would register to him would be ok looking, or just terrible...lol....if you guys knew my hubby, you would see what i mean....he's just different, and i love him for it

Blue Moon · 03-29-2012, 11:42 AM

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ummmm, yeh, only because you said that he is either lying, or a *****...lol....not very nice either way

Lol that doesn't mean I hate the guy. Men don't mince words when making observations about each other. I'm sure his friends would say close to the same whenever giving him shìt.
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Kobo · 03-29-2012, 11:54 AM

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Oh, and ALLTHEPRETTYHORSES,

Never had a threesome....I have done things with other chicks in front of my husband, but he never took part....and he may check out other chicks...but i dont think that it is to the extreme as other guys do....some guys will literally look at chicks and undress them with their eyes....my husband may look, but i think that the only thing that would register to him would be ok looking, or just terrible...lol....if you guys knew my hubby, you would see what i mean....he's just different, and i love him for it

Yes some guys look at women and "undress them with their eyes"

and some people refer to women as "chicks". Neither behavior is done by the majority of mature people in this world. I don't think your husband is a martyr for not going to strip clubs without you. As seen by previous posts in this thread it appears that there are a good number of men that don't attend strip clubs or need to stare at women until they feel uncomfortable.

canttrustu · 03-29-2012, 11:57 AM

This is what I USED to think my H was like before I found out about the past 5 yrs. Not saying No men are like this but I am saying they really can lay it on thick sometimes with the wife.