AllThePrettyHorses

I said just that: You know him, we don't.
How do I know he's no different? He agreed to watch his fiancee having sex with another woman. That takes a real devotion to a certain fantasy; many guys have that fantasy, some realize fantasies are just that.
I also said, if they both enjoy it and are able to do it with no jealousy, more power to them.
And I know guys who do not go to strip clubs, as well. But it's not a big deal, because they have other preferences. It's not because they're different. In fact, whenever women date a few guys, and then find the one who is "different", they usually later on find out that he is just human as well.
And then the sh!T hits the fan. "I caught him...touching himself!!! BAAAAAWL..."

And it's all good. It's the ones who never notice other women who you should worry about.

I hope with all my heart those two will be as happy forever as they are now.
And take my post with a bit of humor. I hate emoticons.

Blue Moon

But if he was into those things, why would it make him a jerk? She went to the strip club and messed around with a girl and that's fine. It's his prerogative for not being into that stuff, but if he was, why would he be a jerk for it?

FormerNiceGuy

Because this is a bitter men bashing thread.

Fortunately, all the women posting are married to men that are "different".

zaliblue

ughhh whatever guys....i know what i know and u dont...so yeh....this thread is just more proof that some guys just hate to see a guy different than them....anyway...all of u guys comments are basically the same and im pretty bored with it actually.....thanks for the input though And for the person requesting the prom pics...I actually have them since he was my date to my senior prom....we've been together for 8 years now, married, have two great sons....he's 27 and im 23 Fun fact lol

Kurosity

wow um angry much. Crazy I wish I had not missed this one.

AllThePrettyHorses

Another random fun fact: You know how I recognized you? By your ellipses. Do you get carpal tunnel syndrome from typing like that?

Okay, I am done. Come on, Zaliblue, take it all with some humor. As long as you're happy, who's to say anything about you and your relationship with your fiance? Nobody.
Oh, and as for the pictures, I actually would love to see a wedding picture of you guys. I am a sucker for lovely wedding shots.

Congratulations and all the best to you.

FormerNiceGuy

Zaliblue - you should take solace in the fact that we won't be mean and bitter when (not if) you come back with your tail between your legs.

Just sayin

CrazyGuy

So you were 15 and he was 19. Is that legal in your area? I know your age difference is no big deal now but I could not have thought of dating a 15 year old after I got out of HS. So senior prom he was able to buy liquor?

Blue Moon

Again with the adjectives lol. I was just curious and had a question that hasn't been answered.
Posted via Mobile Device

Havesomethingtosay

Zaliblue, actually I am happy that you are so happy. It is just your posts and what you ask and how you come across that I and others find curious. Really the question is why you are starting such vacuous threads.

Now that I know you re only 23 and have been with your husband for 8 years with 2 children already, I know you have a lot of time ahead of you to earn about the real world.

Best of luck nd I do hope you two remain happy.

Gratitude

My hubby doesn't go to strip clubs. He's been before we were married but he said they're not that great. Kind of a little awkward. Not really his thing.

I've never made out with anyone in front of him though. Guy or girl! We may joke about the male fantasy of three girls, but he's always said it's just a fantasy. We're not interested in anyone else in our sex life.

He's really considerate in not looking at pretty girls in public. Doesn't mean he doesn't notice He just quickly looks the other way to make a point and I find myself grinning. Does he think I'm blind? But he's super respectful like that so I appreciate it. If he's out with the boys, he says he notices good looking women, but he doesn't lust after them. He's with me, and has always called himself a one horse town. He's honest, and as we've grown up together and matured we have a lot of respect for each other.

That's why porn doesn't bother me. He looks every now and then, maybe I will too, it is not threat to me. He makes me feel very secure and loved so that's all I can ask for. As humans we're all going to notice attractive people, but when we're with our partner it's about showing a level of respect.

Now when he's out with the boys ... who knows what they talk about

__________________
Bears play fighting at the Romanian bear sanctuary
© WSPA

zaliblue

I'm not angry....maybe I sound that way...I don't know....I have actually been "lol"ing in bed and my hubby will roll over and be like "what are you laughing at?"...AND everyone stop picking on my grammar....lol....It's the way that I talk, and this isn't a professional environment, so I am typing how I want Bite me


PS- This is not an angry post....so please people, have a sense of humor....)

zaliblue

****AND****

Crazyguy....

Yes, I was 15 and he was 19 when we stared dating....it's only a 4 year difference....and it's not statutory rape unless we were sleeping together, which we were not...I used to could put this on lock down....not anymore...lol

Gratitude

If you're happy, who cares what other people think. Yes things can go wrong in 5, 10 or 20 years but why worry about that now. They might not. Enjoy your husband and your life now he sounds like a treasure. Happiness is a better state to live in than bitterness.

__________________
Bears play fighting at the Romanian bear sanctuary
© WSPA

SimplyAmorous

My husband goes on about the guys at work, how they talk, what they say, we just talk about it all, the funny, the dirty, the rumors, the crazy........ this one (who has an excellent marrage -never says a bad word about his wife like some of the others)....will say to the guys if he notices a good looking woman ...."Would you do her?" .... my husband tells me ...... he always replies "nope, I'm faithful". I'm pretty sure they have even called him p***y whipped before, or comments to that nature even.

I think after a while, they blew him off ...but yet maybe he is a little of a walking contradiction in this regard cause...he is the only husband there whose wife allows him to go to the strip club (we enjoyed togehter for a time).

He is very much a "One woman" type man. They say such men are driven by the hormones oxytocin & Vasopressin = Attachment (the sense of calm, peace, and stability one feels with a long-term partner) . Vasopressin is the Monogomy hormone, those who lack it struggle to stay committed, even bond with their children.... easy to google these facts.

I just know my husband is high in these...he actions show it.... he is not high in Testosterone -which sometimes takes away from these .....those are the more sexually aggressive males with a tremendous unrelenting fantasy life -- and likely more comes out of their mouths about it too.

Taken from this thread here .....Listen to the men themselves....Is this the way men really think...?

I felt Unbelievable worded it best to how the majority of MEN think in these regards.... his quote on this thread here >>> ---

I asked my husband specifically what goes through his mind when he looks at other women.....

He answered...

1st he looks at the face, this will not sound nice but he says "if she is dog faced, no sense in going any further", then he automatically puts them into baskets >>> "Doable" ..."Maybe".... or "ewwww NEVER". He said IF there is a CHOICE in these matters, it would be to LOOK AWAY immediately, but he admitted he doesn't want to do that, "it is no fun". Then here is his next mental thoughts within seconds "I love my wife, STD's, I love my kids , STD's" and that is the end of the fleeting fantasy.

__________________
"Love Good Blog"