Originally Posted by Jeff/BC

Not this man so clearly an inaccurate statement.

Why would a man here have an issue with this post?
Let me try to explain. But first, let's be very clear that the amount it offended me was miniscule. It's not like I've got some huge bug up my butt about it.

So let's turn the tables. As a thought experiment, how do you think it would go if I went on over to the lady's forum and posted that my wife was different than most because she wasn't a vapid airhead useful only for cooking and making babies."

If we're going to drag out 50's stereotypes, then we should do it in both directions, right? That's where the offense is for me... the implied slur at the male gender in general.

I happen to like strip clubs. I like the visual stimulation and I also like the "doing something bad" aspect of it. But you know what? Every time I pass one and think "Man, I should stop in there." the problem I run into is that that would delay me getting home and, frankly, I've got better at home. I've been meaning to go to a strip club pretty much since Carol and I have been married and so far it just hasn't risen up the priority queue enough for me to make the time to do it. I actually feel kind of bad about that in a "lost to-do" sort of way ~laughs~

That's one ACTUAL male. Others on this thread have posted similar things. The stereotype is just that... a stereotype... and an offensive one.

other guys, of course, might have found offense for different reasons.

Originally Posted by MominMayberry

The response has been from men who are angry at her. Angry that she says her husband isnst like others.

Originally Posted by Mephisto

Sugar coat it all you like. Your answer is in your inbox so as not to derail this thread!

Originally Posted by MominMayberry

Shows my taste? I don't have fantasies with underage boys, do you? You also made a statement about animal rape, not me.
The fact that you work so hard to convince her that her husband is lying to her or hiding something makes me wonder about you.
She married a man. She loves this man. He loves her. Why are you working so hard to convince her that he is flawed? All beings are flawed but all you seem to do is mock and ridicule her for loving who he is. Is it possible that there is a man on this planet who is not like you? A man who actually appreciates who he has? Yes. I am also married to one and all I can say to you is that I hope someday you get your head on straight.

Originally Posted by Jeff/BC

I don't get why any man would take issue with this post but many did. She seems really nice and happy and her husband sounds like a great guy. To me, it sounds like a bunch of pissed off guys who want to tell this women that her guy is weird just because their own marriage stinks.
And I think it's probably not really productive to turn this thread into a thread about sexism and bigotry.

How about we both agree that it's GREAT that she thinks her man is exceptional? I can absolutely get behind that.

Originally Posted by Mephisto

You chose to focus on an obviously outlandish and over the top statement, meaningly that he could be guilty of ANYTHING, you ignored the dig at Justin Bieber as well, just saying.... and now you wanna talk kiddy porn??????

I have applauded her relationship, just putting a warning up about having him on too high a pedestal, if you can't see the danger in that then you obviously have your head somewhere that the sun doesn't shine.

There are many men on this planet who are not like me, in fact every one of them is different in some way. The one thing that makes us all exactly alike, is that we all have faults.... herein lies the danger of having a partner think you are perfect.... capiche?

My head is already on straight, I call it like I see it and I do what I can to be the best man I can be.... with all my imperfections.

Originally Posted by RandomDude

I'm always honest when checking out other women and hell wifey checks them out more than me!!! lol

But even if I noticed them doesn't mean I'm thinking about going for them. My wife knows full well especially recently that she has zero competition.

Originally Posted by MominMayberry

I don't think we understand each other. You said Justin Beiber and I said underage boys. They are both. I don't focus on them you brought it up so I responded.
As for pedestal, I don't think she is reaching for the stars thinking that her husband isnt watching porn, cheating or jaw dropping at other women. Many men dont and I know many.
She never said he didn't have faults. All she said is that he doesn't act like a typical man. Why get angry over that.

Originally Posted by zaliblue

Whatever guys! Really! lol....you can think what you want....but....Guess who got laid tonight? Yeh, my husband....and guess why? Because in my mind, he is the exception...and not to mention he's freaking awesome....but if criticizing my relationship and how i feel about my husband makes you happy, go ahead....if I am wrong....well, I guess that's okay too...

Originally Posted by AllThePrettyHorses

Because they had a quasi-threesome. Sorry to bring that one up again.
Considering that I can say: He's. No. Different.

Originally Posted by Entropy3000

Thank you for stating this. That is likely the reason many have been a little skeptical about this.

Personally I am glad she is happy with her hubby. Just don't use this as a platform to put others down.

Many of us guys try to be honest and up front about our feelings. Typically guys with significant testosterone notice good looking women. This is nothing to be ashamed of. It means we are men.
What is not right is to be disrespectful about it.

I have no desire to have a threesome. I guess whatever ever works for them. What was it? MMF or MFM? I don't remember. It hink either is a mistake but it says much about their kink and their opinions as to which one they went for.

Originally Posted by AllThePrettyHorses

MFF of course. "He is big into the lesbian thing." Her words, not mine.
And I agree with everything you said.
Looking and fantasizing without getting carried away - that's fine.
In fact, let me assume something here.
Let's assume a woman and man are monogamous and exclusive. They go to a gathering. The woman has a very beautiful female friend.
That night, the couple has sex. I would not bet that he might not use that friend as a mental stimulant that very night. Even if it's a close friend. Even if she's a sister of the woman.
Just a bold assumption.
It can't be controlled. What can be controlled is how much energy you continue to let flow towards that other woman/ the other women you see, and how you act on it.
(And how much you let yourself get coaxed into admitting to a fleeting desire. Don't go there, it's trouble.)

Originally Posted by Entropy3000

I can honestly say I have never thought of another woman when initimate with my wife. She has my full attention. I can only speak for myself.