zaliblue

Hi, I was just reading some post on here, and realized that so many guys on here use the lame excuse "we're men, it's how we're made....blah blah blah". Well, my husband isn't any of that, and it seems as if other guys resent him for it, especially his own friends. For example....For is bachelor party, his best man took him to Bourbon Street in Louisiana. I mean, this is tit capital. lol....I told him that I was fine with him going into a strip club, and his friends heard so they were super excited. Well, after the bachelor party, it seemed like all of the guys were really ill at one another, but I just thought they were all hungover. It turns out all of hubby's friends were trying to get him to go into a strip club and he refused...so they were all pissed at him. Another time is just when we were all sitting around the fire, talking about why guys check out other chicks even when they're married. My friend was like "yeh, "Bob" does it all the time, in front of me". So, I jokingly asked my hubby if he checks out girls in front of me (even though i have never saw him) and he said no, quite seriously....All of his friends jumped his case about how he is a guy, and it is programmed into him to look blah blah blah, and he honestly got offended....It's like, my husband is an exception to men, he only has eyes for me....yet his friends can't stand it. Why?

donewithit

his friends can't stand it because it makes them look bad. My husband is very much like yours. Right down to the bachelor party. The guys he works with (including my father at the time before his retirement) rented a limo and took him out. After the second strip bar he requested to go to a pool hall for a couple games and wings. Even my own father (who I had never known to go to a stripclub) Called him WHIPPED and told him he was going to make a GOOD WIFE. lol.

I am sure my husband DOES look at a pretty woman walking by..it is human nature. But he respects me enough to know where to draw the line.

Kobo

Can I share something with you? They are more than likely just giving him s&%t. Doesn't mean they can't stand him/it. He goes contrary to the group and they break his balls. The same thing would happen if he said he enjoyed ball room dancing over football. That's what we do. I doubt many if any of those guys go home thinking "that damn Jake sucks because he doesn't look at other women". The fact that your husband gets offended means he will get it even worse.

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Browncoat

His friends are probably baffled, or think he's just p-whipped (sorry for the crass term).

Bottom line most men are visual, and a lot of men have no problem going to strip clubs and what not. Some men just take no pleasure in that sort of thing, even though they have a healthy sex drive.

There could be a lot of reasons why he doesn't want to go, but in the end guys who like those types of places just don't get men who don't. Simple as that.

For what it's worth I can honestly say I'm like your husband in that I really don't want to go to a strip club, and it's not for a lack of a healthy drive... it's just not my sort of place at all.

Anubis

It's not that unusual to find men who eschew going to a strip club or the like for their bachelor party, or even at any time they have a serious relationship. And for not checking out other women gratuitously, especially in your presence.

As for not noticing other women throughout the day, that's going to be impossible. Especially considering that so many women dress up (or down) for the purpose of getting noticed. As men, we can and do choose to not make a show of it out of respect, but it would be nice if our women had an ounce of self confidence and didn't worry about it. There's a line there that's hard to pin down exactly, but does make it clear that a man is choosing his woman over all other.

Unfortunately there seem to be enough women out there who will make their men suffer for just randomly noticing another women (who is putting work into getting noticed). (Heck, just try surfing over to the daily mail from fark and not notice the sidebar). When they do that, punishing their men for not being able to photoshop out any other female in realtime from their retinas, they are creating a "black hole" in their relationship and communication where their man is never going to tell them anything but "the party line" in order to avoid conflict and getting crap thrown on them every time their woman feels insecure. And like stellar black holes, they are able to grow over time. I consider that whole behavior to be a "**** test" by the woman.

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My hubby is same.

He will notice other women but not stare or comment, same as I might take casual note of an attractive guy.

He thinks strips clubs are skeevy and gross and not sexy. He is HD, and tried more casual sex when he was single to "sow his wild oats" but said it wasn't as fulfilling as he thought it would be.

I think some guys are "one women men" and are not afraid to admit it, and actually LOVE their wives. Other guys obviously are not....I count my self EXTREMELY lucky to have him.

I agree that the others give him a hard time just because it seems like the studly thing to do.

Havesomethingtosay

You are a contradiction.... You start threads "Spoiled to Sex" and "Threesomes", which says your husband is not all that different from other men and then claim he only has eyes for you, when he wants a threesome!!!!!! That's funny .

couple

People are just different. He's not necessarily better for it. Not all women value this quality...in fact many women prefer more of a 'bad boy' that likes to have fun with the guys as long as it doesn't really embarrass them or seriously disrespect them. Many women also like guys who are players and will flirt and be flirted with. If your man works for you then that is GREAT.

I don't think that not wanting to go to a strip club is abnormal. Nor do i think it's abnormal to not check out other girls while you are together. However, to truly have no interest in the physical appearance of other women is not normal, i would say. I agree that other guys just give him a hard time for it. Also, as always, people tend to take on the persona that they are good naturedly teased about. The more his friends have a good time with it, the more he plays it up.

couple

oh...thanks for pointing that out, havesomething. something's amiss here!

SoWhat

Strip clubs are mostly gross.

I try very hard not to look at other women in front of my GF. Glad your husband is respectful too.

When she's/you're not there? There's no reason not to look.

mrsamazing

doesnt look at other women......doesnt want to have enough sex with her.....yeah, story is fishy
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Love Song

My husband is like that. He wont go to a strip club. He doesn't watch porn. He doesn't check out other women. I actually didn't realize how often I check out women until I noticed myself pointing them out to him. I wouldn't mind if he looked. I know he wouldn't take it too far like falling out of his seat or something.

Pandakiss

My husband doesn't watch porn, doesn't like strip clubs, and doesn't even notice other chicks. He works in the food/retail industry, and some chicks do come on to him for "free" or "discounts" and they display their boobs and bounce around (I have seen it) he just looks them in the face with a blank look until they stop actin that way.

I notice other chicks and point them out to him. He says he never noticed. He has always been that way. I watch him when he doesn't know I'm in the store behind him, he still doesn't look.

We were recently in some store in the mall, and a woman was close to him and was going to brush against him (he was busy playing on his iPod) he jumped away from he with his arms raised. I was across the store and wasn't really looking, his eyes never left the screen.

He has always been this way. I have never told him "you better not look".

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zaliblue

lol....gees u guys really are sharks, aren't you? Oh well, I'm flattered that my post get read anyway. I never said that my husband doesn't look....I am sure that he does, just not in front of me. And, yeh, we've been to a strip club (together), he just doesn't feel right going without me I guess. The who threesome thing, it's honestly me....I think that I pushed that issue more than him. He has never mentioned wanting to have one....but the times that I messed with the other girls, it was pretty much sprung on him....drunk nights with my girlfriends=kissing and other things....and yeh, I just figure that's every guys fantasy. And the "Spoiled to Sex" post turned out to be nothing but him stressed at work....I'm guessing if you had been keeping up with the post you may have read that No hard feelings though....I have been waiting for when the claws would come out....someone actually warned me about the bitter men on this site that disect post just to find something wrong with them because of their lack of sex life....Oh well....good day to you guys and I really hope that you're problems work out

Blue Moon

He's either a půssy or lying. I'd lean toward lying. The whole "getting offended" bit was likely for your benefit lol.
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