Even before engaging in any sexual activity, you just have this strong sense of oneness as a couple and feel an extremely strong connection with that person, like it just doesn't feel natural that you should have to separate from each other; and when apart, you feel a part of the other persons spirit there with you. From my years of experience, this is what knowing that you are in love is all about!
With my STBXW, roughly a month after we started dating.
Was during an argument in the past years ago when we were "dating" when my wife proved her intense individualism, cultural independence, and ability to stand up to me, and to anyone else with a backbone.
Just one line, and I fell in love. Years passed and I've realised how rare she actually is.
Never said we never fought or had our disagreements. It's that strength of hers that she's shown me over the years despite the sh-t we went through together that made her only love her more in the end.
For me, the word "love" means I want to give to, nurture, and protect someone else. That happened to me the first time I met Carol... long before she was any sort of dating option. I just thought she was a wonderful person and I wanted to help her out with some issues... namely... being single.
Joke's on me. I guess if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself, right? LOL
My wife actually fell for me before I did for her. We knew each other for 7 years online before she came to visit me once out of the blue for the weekend. I always felt she was out of my league, apparently she felt the same way about me. I still love her just as much if not more than ever, despite having had a very difficult last 12 months.
I saw her for the first time across a busy conference room floor, and was immediately attracted to her smile and laugh (though I couldn't hear the laugh... it was just the way she laughed). It was so warm and inviting... I knew in an instant that anyone who could radiate that kind of warmth was someone I wanted in my life.
It obviously took longer for us to truly be in love, and I don't have a specific moment that I can point out. That smile though... there's not a day that goes by when I don't see her smile and remember that moment like it was yesterday.