As long as she was still interested in me, physically, I wouldn't mind it. I wouldn't ask about it or do it with her, but I don't think it would bother me too much.
I had an ex who liked looking at shirtless pictures of the athletes she had crushes on. I guess it wasn't quite like guys with porn - I don't think she was masturbating to them - but I guess the drive behind it was the same. It never bothered me.
I used to react with faux jealousy: "Oh, you think Reggie Bush is hot? Too bad he sucks! Overpaid decoy!" etc.
She had a higher drive than any woman I've ever dated. Wouldn't give me a break in bed!
How would you feel if your wife/SO looked at random photos of naked men? Not having any emotional meaning behind it? Would you be bothered by it?
That would totally freak me out. Wait! She's looking at nude photos of men and it's causing NO reaction at all? Why is she doing that? Is she just bored? What's wrong with her sex drive that it causes nothing whatsoever? I'd be worried on any number of counts.
The actual looking at pictures part I applaud. But man, the "with no meaning" part is a mystery that I'd want to untangle.
That would totally freak me out. Wait! She's looking at nude photos of men and it's causing NO reaction at all? Why is she doing that? Is she just bored? What's wrong with her sex drive that it causes nothing whatsoever? I'd be worried on any number of counts.
The actual looking at pictures part I applaud. But man, the "with no meaning" part is a mystery that I'd want to untangle.
I don't see it any different then men looking at naked women that are not their wives.
My GF does look at porn without me, and I'm fine with that. Or are you asking something else?
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I'm asking in general out of curiosity. So many men look at naked women that are not their wives, but yet it's okay because they are a man and thats what men do.
What if the tables were turned and us women looked at naked men?
I don't see it any different then men looking at naked women that are not their wives.
I agree. If by "no emotional meaning" you meant "She didn't want to call up the men and go to bed with them" then I would be very positive about her looking at the pictures. I'd hope she would show me the ones she found particularly hot. Maybe I could sculpt my body a bit to resemble them more or get a wardrobe update or something?
I'm asking in general out of curiosity. So many men look at naked women that are not their wives, but yet it's okay because they are a man and thats what men do.
What if the tables were turned and us women looked at naked men?
What matters to me is fidelity.
I guess there's two ways of looking at this:
1) She's looking at other men because she's no longer interested in me. This means we probably aren't doing the dirty often anyway.
2) She's looking at other men because she's got a high sex drive. This means she's probably going to want to do the dirty with me often anyway.
In either case, the problem or benefit isn't going to be with the looking at pictures. Either way, it's symptomatic of something else; something good or bad. And, unless I'm a dunce, I'll know if she's into me or not.
I wasn't "jealous" of Reggie Bush when the ex's gaze stayed a little bit longer on him. It just meant she was a very visual, sexual person. That was great for me!
If she would be all over me for sex after, I would leave pictures all over the place!!!
Seriously though, when we were younger and very sexually active it would not have bothered me. Now, 20 yrs later, I think it would bother me immensely. I look at our sexual relationship differently now. It's more about the emotional component than the physical. FWIW my wife has nothing against me using porn and I almost wish she did sometimes. Is that weird?
I'm asking in general out of curiosity. So many men look at naked women that are not their wives, but yet it's okay because they are a man and thats what men do.
What if the tables were turned and us women looked at naked men?
What,is Playgirl out of circulation now? If not,someone's buying them.
I'm asking in general out of curiosity. So many men look at naked women that are not their wives, but yet it's okay because they are a man and thats what men do.
What if the tables were turned and us women looked at naked men?
I'm all for it. She can look at pictures, videos, whatever she likes. But we're having sex as often as I like ( 5 to 7 times a week), so it's not impacting our intimacy in a negative manner. If she was getting her rocks off and it was impacting us, then there would be some discussions. I would expect the same from her.
I don't see it any different then men looking at naked women that are not their wives.
OK, I've thought about this and now I see where you are going. To answer the question I think you're asking... "Yes, what's good for the goose is good for the gander."
That being said, I do think they are different scenarios. I might be wrong but I think a lot of men would love it if their wives looked at porn. So it's not an apples and apples comparison. You'd have to paint a female version that represented a similar threat level to the male. How about this one?
Men, how good would you be with your wife commenting on how well to do and muscular the guy in the old spice commercial is.?
That, I suspect, would strike a bit closer to home for men. My answer remains the same. I'm fine with that. The reason both Carol and I can be fine with such things is because we both assess our positions as entirely invulnerable. There is no threat so there is nothing to respond to.
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