working_together

I think this has been asked here before, but I'll ask again, as I feel it pertains to my current life situation.

I had the opprotunity to take my friendship with a male friend to the next level last night. I had to work until 11:30 pm, so I asked if he wanted to meet up after for a drink....we were supposed to meet earlier, but I was on call. So, I'm done work, I text him that I'll meet him in about 15 min. No answer. So I went home thinking ..."wow, what the hell was that about". So I get a text at 9:00am this morning "sorry, fell asleep watching tv". Are you serious????

I guess I'm just not sexy enough for him. Sleeping is more important???Ugh.

So what makes a woman sexy? I know confidence, intelligence, but what else???

and btw, not answering that text.

pidge70

I've had plans with friends before and fell asleep waiting on them. People fall asleep because they are tired. I don't think he meant to slight you.
Posted via Mobile Device

Browncoat

Great question OP, aside from intelligence, confidence and beauty there is more to sexiness. I've been trying to come up with an answer... it's something I recognize when I see it.

Overall though I'll answer that it's different for each man. It's like art, some like french impressionistic paintings, others sculpture, etc. For me what can be very sexy are eyes and eye contact, also a really delicate but passionate kiss.

I'm going to have to think some more though on this.

2nd_t!me iz_best

good for you.

personality and a good attitude are first in line for me.
if she is beautiful too, then thats a bonus.

Dollystanford

I tend to find that a push up bra, tight pencil skirt, stockings and high heels mean that you could have a face like the back of a bus and they wouldn't care

JOKE before I get jumped on (well, mostly)

2nd_t!me iz_best

thats a given.

Lon

I have a feeling you are looking too much into his text (and also not enough at the same time). Maybe what he meant is not "sorry, blah blah blah" but rather "damn I can't believe I was so stupid to think you weren't going to call me back, assumed you were rejecting me, and decided to just go to sleep alone, and then missed your message cause I was a sleeping idiot"

That quite often is what men mean when they say "sorry". The "are you serious???" part (as defined with the three question) probably means that "F'k yeah I am down with that" so don't be hard on yourself WT. If you still like him message him again if you want to resume where he left off.

Browncoat

I think a lot of what's sexy about a woman is what's going through the guy's mind (as they say: beauty is in the eye of the beholder).

Clothing can be sexy, but a woman can be wearing completely ordinary clothing and be sexy.

Jewelry can be sexy, but my wife rarely wears any and I find her sexy.

Perfume can be sexy, but isn't required.

Sexiness can be just in a look or in the way she moves (even if just for a moment and it wasn't intentionally sexy).

I think for the most part sexiness for a man comes from wanting something and not quite getting it (teasing in all it's forms). Whether it's something you want to see but can't yet (lingerie is built around this), some part of her you want to touch but can't just now (even if it's just that you want to kiss her lips but can't atm), something you want to do with her but just can't yet, etc...

2nd_t!me iz_best

good post

Batman64

Just a thought here, phones can be used to actually call a person and hear their voice. Texts will let sleepers sleep.

Batman64

As for answering the questions, a million things about a woman can be sexy but nothing is sexier than confidence.

working_together

lol, I`m not one for the phones, not really loving the texting either. Calling would have looked desperate....IDK

Jeff/BC

When I've seen this come up before, the general answer is "her mind"... even on kinky forums. I don't care what you dress a woman in, if her mind is in coldly calculating mode then she's not sexy. On the other hand, put a woman who is dripping with desire for me in a burlap sack and she'll be rocking my world.

You have made much of very little... reading a TON of stuff into the text rather than either believing the text as written or else asking for clarification. That pattern will serve you poorly in relationships. I would've gotten together and asked about it. If your feelings were still hurt, I'd bring that up too.

working_together

So hours later, I answered the text with a ok, nothing more. And that was about 4 hours ago, and no response. I think this guy is playing head games with me. I said ok to a text one time a few weeks ago when he said he was going away for the weekend, what did he want me to say...boohoo, I`ll miss you...don`t think so.

So back to my sexy question..

I`ve been called `cute` my whole life, I hated it. I don`t like it when someone says `your freckles are cute`, or when you speak french, youre so cute`. I guess at 44 I`m tired of being `cute`, and that`s part of the reason I asked the question.

Lon

Uh, I think you are the one that made this a head game, atleast until you talk to him face to face and find out exactly what he wants.

Also, I love cute... cute can be sexy, doesn't always have to be sexy. I get called cute too, would rather be called "handsome" or "hunky" or whatever, but I definitely don't take "cute" to be an insult.