Obviously a very deep and thought out post I might add.
Brighteyes and I had similar views but seems there's an influx in here lately of women with similar views to my own which has me sitting back and reading rather than participating. I was also wondering if Laura might be Brighteyes...who I actually will always remember as Brennan.
There are just so many things I disagree with in this book. (His needs her needs)
Its basic premise already doesnt resonate with me:
"We think the dynamics of a good mariage depend on some myserious blend of the 'right' people. Or if a marriage turns out badly, we call the two people 'wrong' for eachother. While its true that two inherently incompatible people might marry, it's unusual."
Really?
I don't think this is true. I think this is an frighteningly common scenario.
I don't think a lot of things in the book are true.
I just don't think its a good relationship book, from what I have read so far.
Is it okay if I think that or will it doom me as a partner/spouse?
Reading something you disagree with allows you to undertand others better that do at the least. It would be fascinating if you felt the anthithesis of ALL that Harley asserts.
I suggested based on the area where we define our needs. It is meant to be an exercise for a couple to use the framework to list out in order their emotional needs. Very often women have similar needs but the priorities are different. It facilitates communication. It allows you to state what your needs are. Many women learn just how important sex is to their men in a way they did not see before. Men realize in a way they did not realize how important affection and attention are to their wives. It seems common sense but so few people actually act like they get it.
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Rectitude--Courage--Benevolence--Respect--Honesty--Honor--Loyalty
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
"Why do we fall? So we might learn to pick ourselves up."
"It’s not who we are underneath, but what we do that defines us."
Obviously a very deep and thought out post I might add.
Brighteyes and I had similar views but seems there's an influx in here lately of women with similar views to my own which has me sitting back and reading rather than participating. I was also wondering if Laura might be Brighteyes...who I actually will always remember as Brennan.
__________________
Rectitude--Courage--Benevolence--Respect--Honesty--Honor--Loyalty
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
"Why do we fall? So we might learn to pick ourselves up."
"It’s not who we are underneath, but what we do that defines us."
I don't see any similarities between TRBE and Mavash.
No? She said she created a new username this year, and she is trying to be less harsh. She was disowned by her parents, and lives in the South. She is a homemaker, however, while TRBE was a CPA. Guess we'll have to see if she outs herself
No? She said she created a new username this year, and she is trying to be less harsh. She was disowned by her parents, and lives in the South. She is a homemaker, however, while TRBE was a CPA. Guess we'll have to see if she outs herself
Brighteyes' parents didn't disown her, she lived in TX but was raised in California and wasn't a CPA, she worked in a plastic surgery office didn't she?
She's a FB friend of mine but can't seem to get in touch with her. Last we spoke she was going to become a volunteer at a women's shelter. I for one hope she is doing fabulously but I honestly hope that for everyone.
Brighteyes' parents didn't disown her, she lived in TX but was raised in California and wasn't a CPA, she worked in a plastic surgery office didn't she?
She's a FB friend of mine but can't seem to get in touch with her. Last we spoke she was going to become a volunteer at a women's shelter. I for one hope she is doing fabulously but I honestly hope that for everyone.
In truth, it seems you asked men on these boards for their truth and only counted those who posted views that jive with some deeply held belief you have that all men cheat. I guess in fairness to you, you didn't say what you wanted the ugly truth for, but still...
In truth, it seems you asked men on these boards for their truth and only counted those who posted views that jive with some deeply held belief you have that all men cheat. I guess in fairness to you, you didn't say what you wanted the ugly truth for, but still...
I wanted one-liners, or little stories that seem like they are too ugly to say but have an underlying worth to them in that they explain a man's need.
And I responded to those who Ifound interesting or thought rang true. doesnt mean i discount anything else just because i dont respond to every post
Brighteyes' parents didn't disown her, she lived in TX but was raised in California and wasn't a CPA, she worked in a plastic surgery office didn't she?
She's a FB friend of mine but can't seem to get in touch with her. Last we spoke she was going to become a volunteer at a women's shelter. I for one hope she is doing fabulously but I honestly hope that for everyone.
No? She said she created a new username this year, and she is trying to be less harsh. She was disowned by her parents, and lives in the South. She is a homemaker, however, while TRBE was a CPA. Guess we'll have to see if she outs herself
Ok maybe we need a thread called TRBE.
She was from San Diego and lived in Austin with her Hubby. We had a lot of animated discussions but I felt she was a really good person. I still have the scars and the T-shirt.
And I swear we were just friends. ( marriage humor folks )
__________________
Rectitude--Courage--Benevolence--Respect--Honesty--Honor--Loyalty
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
"Why do we fall? So we might learn to pick ourselves up."
"It’s not who we are underneath, but what we do that defines us."
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