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Old 04-08-2012, 04:50 PM   #61 (permalink)
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LOL

you might need to.

i didnt feel restrained by monogamy while my exw had several boyfriends throughout the last 14 years of our marriage. :/
that's awful, i am saorry to hear that. not the monogamy part, the cheating part
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Old 04-08-2012, 04:52 PM   #62 (permalink)
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It can also point to a cheating wife finally tiring of their deception.

In this modern world women are now cheating at roughly the same frequency as men do.

There is no moral superiority by gender.
i am looking at it from a womans perspective, so even if 99% of women cheated, i would still focus solely on what men do , simply because thats what affects me

and by the way, its statistically more likely tat i will get cheated on anyways. If i dont cheat, he must be cheating.
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Old 04-08-2012, 04:54 PM   #63 (permalink)
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According to Infidelity Facts, the percentage of women who admit being unfaithful is 54% (compared with 57% for men).


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Below are compiled statistics on infidelity and marriage:

Percentage of marriages that end in divorce in America: 53%

Percentage of "arranged marriages" (where parents pick their sons or daughters spouses) that end in divorce: 3%

Medical field(s) with the highest divorce rate: psychiatrists and marriage counselors

Percentage of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional: 41%

Percentage of men who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they've had: 57%

Percentage of women who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they've had: 54%


Percentage of men and women who admit to having an affair with a co-worker: 36%

Percentage of men and women who admit to infidelity on business trips: 36%

Percentage of men and women who admit to infidelity (emotional or physical) with a brother-in-law or sister-in-law: 17%

Average length of an affair: 2 years

Percentage of marriages that last after an affair has been admitted to or discovered: 31%

Percentage of men who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught: 74%

Percentage of women who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught: 68%

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Old 04-08-2012, 04:55 PM   #64 (permalink)
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According to Infidelity Facts, the percentage of women who admit being unfaithful is 54% (compared with 57% for men).
infidelity facts - says who?
Whats the study? and dont say peggy vaughan, she is not credible to me. Being a betrayed wife does not a researcher make.
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Old 04-08-2012, 04:59 PM   #65 (permalink)
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According to Infidelity Facts, the percentage of women who admit being unfaithful is 54% (compared with 57% for men).
Medical field(s) with the highest divorce rate: psychiatrists and marriage counselors


OMFG I almost killed myself laughing at this one
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Old 04-08-2012, 05:01 PM   #66 (permalink)
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Medical field(s) with the highest divorce rate: psychiatrists and marriage counselors


OMFG I almost killed myself laughing at this one
Does it hit close to home?
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Old 04-08-2012, 05:02 PM   #67 (permalink)
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Does it hit close to home?
seriously you dont get why i think its funny?

marriage counselors are on the top of the list for divorcing? what, they cant make use of what theyre selling us??
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seriously you dont get why i think its funny?

marriage counselors are on the top of the list for divorcing? what, they cant make use of what theyre selling??
That doesn't come as a great surprise to me considering that marriage counselors do not have such a great track record of saving marriages.
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Old 04-08-2012, 05:06 PM   #69 (permalink)
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That doesn't come as a great surprise to me considering that marriage counselors do not have such a great track record of saving marriages.
Yeah, it doesnt surprise me either i just thought it was poetic justice
I dont belileve in marital counseling, but since its huge on TAm i shall shut my mouth now
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Old 04-08-2012, 06:06 PM   #70 (permalink)
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I would be careful about quoting infidelity statistics, I think they are at best a good guess, I would say that no really knows.

Fact of the matter is that the majority of infidelity goes undetected.
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Old 04-08-2012, 06:09 PM   #71 (permalink)
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I would be careful about quoting infidelity statistics, I think they are at best a good guess, I would say that no really knows.

Fact of the matter is that the majority of infidelity goes undetected.
That, pretty much to a tee. The huge difference in numbers quotes depending onthe source is al-telling.
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Old 04-08-2012, 07:37 PM   #72 (permalink)
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Old 04-08-2012, 08:14 PM   #73 (permalink)
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That you were honest.

That you want to have sex with a man that you are otherwise mad or upset with. We know this to be true. Not many admit it. But are you saying that you only have this urgency with these type of men?

So this is why some husbands cannot understand the wife showing interest in some low life guy while he is doing everything to love her. I am not talking about Noce Guy syndrome. Some women fall for the guy that literally mistreats them. The sleaze. You are probably not talking about this, but maybe you are.
Angry sex is hot (when it's consensual).

Passion is the thing that most people want. Anger, debauchery, lasciviousness, devotion, adoration, desperation, sorrow, gratitude, obsession, and any number of intense emotions contain passion -- even violence, to some extent. It's not that women like the sleazy men for their sleaze, but that the sleazy men are going all out on what they want and there's no timidness there. Certainty and transgression can be thrilling, at times, in a way that politesse and pandering are not. Neither lust nor desire is tame and even tender and loving sex needs to have intensity or else it's boring. Ratchet up the emotions and you'll definitely find passion....sometimes, you also find dysfunction and instability, though. :/
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Old 04-08-2012, 08:24 PM   #74 (permalink)
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laughable how? you do notice and fatasize about other women, whats so crazy about that
It's incredibly reductive. Many people are driven by their lusts, but that does not mean all people are slaves to them.

We (humans) all have thoughts. We do not act on all the thoughts we have.
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I can eaisly understand the first part of that sentence, but I have a hard time understanding the second part. I'm not saying it's wrong or bad, I'm just saying its hard for me to wrap my brain around it; it's just so foreign to the way I think.
As a husband, my wife wanting to have sex with me made me feel loved and like she wanted me. Having a wife that rarely wanted sex made me feel unwanted and wondering what was wrong. On the other hand, getting in the mood to have sex was not as an emotional experience for me as it apparently was for my wife. I guess us guys are more visual. The fact that i was married to a woman I loved and she was attractive was enough for me to get in the mood. I often joke that it seemed like all the planets had to be in line for her to want sex. On the other hand, she could put me down all day and call me a no-good, low-down, good-for-nothing for 12 hours and then step out in lingerie and ask if I was ready for some action. My response would have been, yeeeeeees!
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