Re: Wife has no feelings for me.... what now?
Thanks for your replies.
Just to give you a little more info, since we had the big discussion about our relationship, I'm been trying hard to be a better husband. I've been taking better care of myself, losing weight, doing more around the house, spending more time with the kids, etc, and she has said that this is helping. I think this is the right thing to do.
I haven't actually talked much about her relationship with the other male, as every time I do she says they are just friends and I'm over-reacting. I know I need to tell her that she can't have it both ways, but I don't want it blowing up into a big argument. I will try to approach it delicately, and see how it goes.
We have already discussed separating, but in the end she said that she just needs time and to not push her. We remained together and in a way I think the only reason we did was because of the kids, and that she didn't want to be alone. I didn't want it to happen either.
As for counseling, well I certainly did suggest this but don't think she was interested. I am willing to go, especially if it's going to help, but think she said she just wanted to try and sort things out on her own.
I haven't actually spoken to my/her male friend about the whole situation, and still wonder if it's the right thing to do. I think that if I did, he would tell my wife and she would be extremely upset about me stepping in. On the other hand, if I do and he backs off, then it might fix the situation. I'm in two minds about it at this stage.
Thanks again for your input and I would appreciate any other comments, as I really need help with this.