Husband's & Their Personas

Bottled Up · 04-16-2012, 01:28 PM

Wanting to slit throats??? You sound really angry... You should calm down a bit.

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Originally Posted by IAMCIV

I am me...

It's all I can be and don't give a rat's butt what anyone thinks of me.

I personally cannnot stand being around guys. most are way too fake, acting like this or that when certain people are around. it's bs. Most "alpha" males are pansey as* b**ches who act that way because they're insecure little puppies. Classic freudian behavior.

I love my wife, if she calls me I answer the same way alone or in a group of people. I tell her I love her and miss her when I hang up, the exact same way too because I do. And if people have someting to say, f*ck'em, I don't care.

I see other people degrad their wives or g/f because it's not cool to be whipped and all the guys will laugh. Well f*ck all the other guys. I'd slit all their throats for my wife, so why do i care what they think?

Since early childhood I've seen people act this way or that way to win approval. I'm me. I don't care what anyone else says, does or thinks.

Now acting professional in a certain setting is different altogether, you use a funeral voice at a funeral; but too many people try to be something they're not. I guess they really don't like how or who they are.

anchorwatch · 04-16-2012, 01:32 PM

I thought I was the always the same, where ever I was. Then my wife told me I had no rank at home. Go figure?

IAMCIV · 04-16-2012, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Bottled Up

Wanting to slit throats??? You sound really angry... You should calm down a bit.

I'm not angry, nor do I want to slit anyones anything. I'm simply saying that in a life or death situation, I'd do whatever I have to, to whoever I have to, to make sure my wife is ok. So if I'd do what I have to to someone, why would I worry about what they thought regarding my realationship with my wife or anything else.

Lets say there is some kind of natural disaster, pandamoniom breaks out, mass chaos, who do I protect? I meant that as in the most extreme case.

I'm a very peaceful, giving and loving person and want the best for everyone. But when the nitty hits the gritty, I'm protecting my family at all cost.

I hope to live peacefully my whole life but am prepared to take action when neccessary.

AFEH · 04-16-2012, 04:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IAMCIV

I am me...

It's all I can be and don't give a rat's butt what anyone thinks of me.

I personally cannnot stand being around guys. most are way too fake, acting like this or that when certain people are around. it's bs. Most "alpha" males are pansey as* b**ches who act that way because they're insecure little puppies. Classic freudian behavior.

I love my wife, if she calls me I answer the same way alone or in a group of people. I tell her I love her and miss her when I hang up, the exact same way too because I do. And if people have someting to say, f*ck'em, I don't care.

I see other people degrad their wives or g/f because it's not cool to be whipped and all the guys will laugh. Well f*ck all the other guys. I'd slit all their throats for my wife, so why do i care what they think?

Since early childhood I've seen people act this way or that way to win approval. I'm me. I don't care what anyone else says, does or thinks.

Now acting professional in a certain setting is different altogether, you use a funeral voice at a funeral; but too many people try to be something they're not. I guess they really don't like how or who they are.

Fabulously ironic, well done. And use of anger to prove just how much you do care while saying you don’t

IAMCIV · 04-16-2012, 04:37 PM

Again, I am not angry. Just tried to state something that wasn't properly communicated.

I am a very happy person. I am very friendly and concerned with the well being of just about everyone.

I understand we are all social creatures, we've surrived as by starting communities and having relationships. We are interdependent. I don't want to come across as a jerk, or cold. I care about being understood and what people care about me to a degree, we all do. That's natural and obvious. What I was talking about was changing who we are to gain approval. Some guys are all lovey dovey with their wives in private but then act like they could care less about their partner when other guys are around. That's different.

I was simply trying to say, when push came to shove and my families life was on the line I'd do whatever I had to to mr. so and so around the water cooler if it means protecting my wife and children. So obviously their input on my life cannot mean too much, can it?

Everyone cares to a degree about how others see them. I was talking about people who change depending on who's looking.

And once again I'm not angry at all.
I just re read my first post and can see why people are saying its angry. I didn't mean it to sound that way. I wrote it in a rush and it came out the way it did. I was responding to the types of post like where the husband answered the phone like what's up dude... like in that vein, in regards to how I talk to my wife, I couldn't care less what people thought. I'm not some sociopathic over aggressive person. I'm simply me.

PooDoo · 04-18-2012, 03:51 PM

Kind of reminds me of the old tv show - "To tell the truth" - "Will the real OP's husband please stand up?" [(Applause)]

IAMCIV - spot on! I get it - hyperbole.

Nigel · 04-19-2012, 02:57 PM

Ha ha this is a good one!

In work I'm demanding, professional, totally focused and don't suffer fools or their excuses. I'm reliable and get things done.
However once I get home I transform into "a useless git." My wife's words not mine!
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