i have suggested, demanded, requested, and vitrually begged her to go. i think she might have a severe sinus infection or maybe even pneumonia, but she is too stubborn to go. i have thought about duct taping her hands together and one across the mouth and dragging her but thats not going to happen. i hate it that she thinks it ok to lay on her butt sick for two weeks while i do everything. its not that i dont support her when she is sick but this is ridiculous. now im out of town and my daughter texted me that she is wiped out on the couch again while my 3 kids are basically parentless. frustrating
I had a similar situation with my wife back in the fall.
I finally told her that her behvior was unacceptable and that if she did not get a doctors appointment immediately we had a very serious problem and I was just flat not going to put up with it.
She went, and was put on anti-biotics. Turns out she was pretty sick. Go figure.
And .... Idunno.
This was one of lifes mysteries but one of those Captain and the First Mate things. I rarely invoke it but clearly I did.
It is really irresponsible especially if you have children. Well you could always call 911 and tell them your daughter called and your wife is passed out on the couch.
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Last edited by Entropy3000; 04-12-2012 at 06:33 PM.
LOL, make an appointment for her around lunch time. Then tell her you have a surprise planned for her, and drive her to the doctors. To not seem like a jerk though I'd bring a little something she likes to snack on and take her out for real after.
That sounds like me. Either she will get well or she won't. What's the reason she gives you? Perhaps her mother or other close relative could help persuade her.
I'm not expert, but my wife is, and tells me the rare horror stories where these sinus infections, untreated, can get into some really dangerous areas and be fatal. Rare, but she has seen it - I'm medically illiterate, so I just understand well enough to go to the doctor if it doesn't go away in a few days.
That sounds like me. Either she will get well or she won't. What's the reason she gives you? Perhaps her mother or other close relative could help persuade her.
Excellent idea. Think on who is the most influential person with your wife and ask for their help.
A stitch in time really does save nine wrt health. My wife never would get her coil checked … resulted in a hysterectomy because her womb became infected. Used to drive me mad trying to get her to go to the docs for the internal. And looking back probably all I needed to do was ask her dad for help in getting her to go.
I did what your wife is doing. I put off going to a doctor for a sinus infection, which turned into an ear infection and now I have permanent hearing problems. I hate myself for doing that. I have to live with it for the rest of my stupid life. I wish my husband had forced me to go.
could he have forced you to go? how do you force a 48 yo person to do anything?
trust me when i tell you im not a meek person, i am alpha in most ways, she grew up in an alpha led household. maybe thats why she is stubborn
That would be like laying down the gauntlet to me, asking how I could make my wife go to the doctor, that is ....
When my wife had a suspicious lump, I developed a well-rehearsed statement, and told her that she would hear it, word for word, every single time I looked at her until she made the appointment. It became comical, and she got really frustrated, so she made the appointment. They caught it before it became cancerous. I always remind her that I'm not alpha enough to MAKE her do anythng, but I can quickly become the biggest pain in the a$$ she has ever seen, if necessary, to make her see a doctor.
could he have forced you to go? how do you force a 48 yo person to do anything?
trust me when i tell you im not a meek person, i am alpha in most ways, she grew up in an alpha led household. maybe thats why she is stubborn
Of course he could have forced me. He could have put me in the car and driven me to the hospital. Which, of course, is exactly what he did - but by the time he did, I had irreversible damage.
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Wife sick for 2 weeks, wont go to doctor 
Either she will get well or she won't. What's the reason she gives you? Perhaps her mother or other close relative could help persuade her.
