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Old 04-13-2012, 07:36 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I thought I had one that wouldn't. But guess what?

Anyhow, I am 44 and just divorced. I am still pretty shattered. But I'm wondering if it is even worth it to consider looking again.

Tell me how to know I can trust him. Cuz I suck at that, apparently.
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No, not all men cheat. Just like not all women cheat.

Some do, though, and it's devastating. I'm sorry you went through that and are still dealing with the after effects


I don't know how you can trust the next guy...I have trust issues so I know that something like that would ruin me. It would be difficult to trust again, that's for sure.

Are you in any kind of therapy for yourself?
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Old 04-13-2012, 07:50 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Not all men cheat. Not all women cheat. Only those who choose to cheat do so.
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Old 04-13-2012, 07:59 PM   #4 (permalink)
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No.
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Old 04-13-2012, 08:03 PM   #5 (permalink)
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NOooooo!!!
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Old 04-13-2012, 08:03 PM   #6 (permalink)
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No they don't. Some do but not all. Same with women.

Sorry you've been hurt.. but there are many many good man out there.
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Old 04-13-2012, 08:03 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Yeah. Therapy, anti depressants, group and individual, I'm one cracked individual since 2004 (DDay). Fiance before him cheated, but I didn't have kids so I left him. I think I've cried just about every day for the last 8 years.
Just wondering if life will get any better.
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Old 04-13-2012, 08:04 PM   #8 (permalink)
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No, not all men cheat but just about any man CAN cheat. women too.

Love is love and sex is sex. Even good men and good women can cheat. Nobody is without flaws. The search for someone who would never cheat can land you alone or with someone with worse flaws.
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Sorry your husband let you down, but no not all men cheat.

Been married ~15 years and have never come close to cheating.
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Old 04-13-2012, 08:13 PM   #10 (permalink)
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The only reason I think all men cheat is what I grew up seeing.

EVERY man in my family was proudly unfaithful.

I know it is irrational and unfair to paint every man with the same brush, however it is hard not to be cynical when you have only seen dishonest men. I trust my husband 90%, which is more faith than I have had in any guy. I cannot bring myself to trust any male completely. I just can't.
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Old 04-13-2012, 08:19 PM   #11 (permalink)
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My dad was unfaithful, but very honest about it. And he did quit of his own volition. My Grandma was unfaithful (and along came my dad..)

My ex's dad was unfaithful, and maybe I should have known. My son will probably follow his dad's example and play his relationships like a chess game. I don't want games. 180s, keeping tabs. I'd rather be alone.
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I never knew anyone who cheated (in my family) until my uncle's wife of 25 years left him for her badmitton partner. Biiiiiig drama. I was 23.
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Old 04-13-2012, 08:38 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Wonder if it runs in families. I have been straight as an arrow. But lonely as hell.
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I thought I had one that wouldn't. But guess what?

Anyhow, I am 44 and just divorced. I am still pretty shattered. But I'm wondering if it is even worth it to consider looking again.

Tell me how to know I can trust him. Cuz I suck at that, apparently.
No not all men cheat but i would say the vast majority of men in the world cheat. I am a family lawyer and yes do lots of divorce cases majority of the cases i have done or seen involve a woman filing for divorce 70% of the time they do. Typical reasons are (cheating, physical abuse, emotional abuse, lying, or a combo of all those things). When men file for divorce from what i have seen its like this half the time the man got cheated on by his wife so he is files for divorce or the other half of the time he is cheating on her with multiple women or he met another woman and wants to divorce his wife before she finds out he is cheating.

Btw rarely are people very very very rarely are people truly divorcing cause they are not "in love anymore" and in most of all the cases i dont think people were ever really in love the allot of times its really sad to see someone who thought they were loved and they were in love be hit with infidelity. All the stats that talk about how most people divorce cause of "economic" issues are BS people lie about why they divorce half the time.

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No not all men cheat but i would say the vast majority of men in the world cheat. I am a family lawyer and yes do lots of divorce cases majority of the cases i have done or seen involve a woman filing for divorce 70% of the time they do. Typical reasons are (cheating, physical abuse, emotional abuse, lying, or a combo of all those things). When men file for divorce from what i have seen its like this half the time the man got cheated on by his wife so he is files for divorce or the other half of the time he is cheating on her with multiple women or he met another woman and wants to divorce his wife before she finds out he is cheating.

Btw rarely are people very very very rarely are people truly divorcing cause they are not "in love anymore" and in most of all the cases i dont think people were ever really in love the allot of times its really sad to see someone who thought they were loved and they were in love be hit with infidelity. All the stats that talk about how most people divorce cause of "economic" issues are BS people lie about why they divorce half the time.
As a divorce lawyer your conclusion shouldn't be that "the vast majority" of men cheat, but that the vast majority of divorces are related to infidelity. Big difference.
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