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Old 04-17-2012, 07:10 PM   #16 (permalink)
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My ex told me I couldn't have a motorcycle.

Nothing better than riding out in the country and getting a blow job in the woods.

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Old 04-18-2012, 02:25 AM   #17 (permalink)
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If he wants a Harley with an 18 year old in a halter top on back, it's a midlife crisis. If he just wants to ride with you, it means he's a guy. I ride. Lots of my friends ride. My wife loves to ride with me. It's great way to enjoy the outdoors and have something to talk about with your friends. I used to ride a lot when I was young but then I became husband and dad and was too responsible to ride for over 20 years. Now that kids are grown, why not?
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Old 04-18-2012, 05:41 AM   #18 (permalink)
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What it really means is He wants a motorcycle! don't over think it.
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Old 04-18-2012, 08:06 AM   #19 (permalink)
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I just turned 50...got my motorcycle last September after taking the class and I love it. He wants to take you with him? If this is something he really wants why not? It's something you can do together, it's exciting and if you are thinking of being economical...just think of all the gas he'll save on the bike. Mine gets almost 70 miles to a gallon.
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My ex told me I couldn't have a motorcycle.

Nothing better than riding out in the country and getting a blow job in the woods.

Get the leather - wear the leather.
That should be on a T-shirt... kind of like "leave the gun, take the Canoles"

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If he wants a Harley with an 18 year old in a halter top on back, it's a midlife crisis. If he just wants to ride with you, it means he's a guy. I ride. Lots of my friends ride. My wife loves to ride with me. It's great way to enjoy the outdoors and have something to talk about with your friends. I used to ride a lot when I was young but then I became husband and dad and was too responsible to ride for over 20 years. Now that kids are grown, why not?
I'm pretty sure that info wouldn't be shared with me even if it were part of the reason But as a woman, it's hard not to default to the stereotypical scenario of a midlife crisis that includes the 18 year old.

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What it really means is He wants a motorcycle! don't over think it.

That's not easy for me, I'm very analytical... we've recently had some issues with transparency that we're working through (and I have to say he's been very open to talking/working through it after I expressed my concerns) so it's hard to not over think it in the context of the last year

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I just turned 50...got my motorcycle last September after taking the class and I love it. He wants to take you with him? If this is something he really wants why not? It's something you can do together, it's exciting and if you are thinking of being economical...just think of all the gas he'll save on the bike. Mine gets almost 70 miles to a gallon.
I'm definitely into the mpg part of it and the fun we'd have, but with less than $1000 in savings and some debt, I'd rather be a little more financially secure, that's the "planner" in me.
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Old 04-18-2012, 08:53 AM   #21 (permalink)
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Why does everyone call it a "crisis"???? I hate that. Hell, I had a BLAST! Motorcycle, tattoo....fun stuff. I sold the bike over a year ago but will get another one. And I still want one more tattoo.

Go for it. You two will have a great time traveling around. As they say, only motorcycle owners truly know why dogs like to stick their heads out of the car windows!!!

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Old 04-18-2012, 09:09 AM   #22 (permalink)
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Its probably something he has thought about for years and just put off. They are alot of fun. My wife wont get near mine and it has often bothered me. Enjoy it as a couple!
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It becomes a crisis when you canít turn the mid-life dreams, visions of the future you have into reality.

Getting a motorcycle should be easy, a no brainer. Right? Well it obviously isnít in this particular case as the guyís being somewhat thwarted by his wife. Maybe for very good financial reasons, but he still canít turn that particular dream into a reality.

Unless he just goes out and does it. Which of course will just create displeasure and resentment in his wife. Obviously thatís not good.


Itís far better for them both to sit down and talk of their individual dreams and goals for the second half of their lives. Then see if thereís commonality in their dreams such as they can both work on them as a team to make their dreams a reality.

Because as sure as eggs are eggs if they donít have commonality in their dreams, goals and objectives they may well both end up having a mid-life-crisis that could very well last for years until they wrench apart from one another.
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Old 04-18-2012, 09:18 AM   #24 (permalink)
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There's a much better chance she shows up with the 18 y/o on the back if she says no.
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Old 04-18-2012, 12:40 PM   #25 (permalink)
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Hubby and I are avid riders...take cross country trips, etc...I ride my own (have for 15 years) and he has is own....

I had my own personal mid life crisis last year...BOUGHT A BRAND NEW ONE! Now hubby has more time to ride...he doesn't have to keep my old one running.

SO MUCH FUN! GO FOR IT!
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It becomes a crisis when you canít turn the mid-life dreams, visions of the future you have into reality.

Getting a motorcycle should be easy, a no brainer. Right? Well it obviously isnít in this particular case as the guyís being somewhat thwarted by his wife. Maybe for very good financial reasons, but he still canít turn that particular dream into a reality.

I've never said no, I just think finances should be stable. No retirement, less than $1000 in savings and 20K in debt isn't where you want to start.

Unless he just goes out and does it. Which of course will just create displeasure and resentment in his wife. Obviously thatís not good.


Itís far better for them both to sit down and talk of their individual dreams and goals for the second half of their lives. Then see if thereís commonality in their dreams such as they can both work on them as a team to make their dreams a reality.

And we do talk about it, and he knows there will be more talks to get to where we both feel that our dreams/goals are being realized together.

Because as sure as eggs are eggs if they donít have commonality in their dreams, goals and objectives they may well both end up having a mid-life-crisis that could very well last for years until they wrench apart from one another.
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There's a much better chance she shows up with the 18 y/o on the back if she says no.


I'm sure it's not the intention, but this reminds me of some people that want to fulfill their dreams regardless of their spouses goals/dreams. They want what they want now, and if you don't go along, it's your fault that they made choices that were solely in their best interest. Sometimes this includes stepping outside the marriage. "See, look what your questions made me do".
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Hubby and I are avid riders...take cross country trips, etc...I ride my own (have for 15 years) and he has is own....

I had my own personal mid life crisis last year...BOUGHT A BRAND NEW ONE! Now hubby has more time to ride...he doesn't have to keep my old one running.

SO MUCH FUN! GO FOR IT!
I would LOVE to be in a position to say "Hell, yeah! Let's go at lunch and drive one off the lot, head out today for a road trip!" I am absolutely thrilled that this dream of his includes me on the back of the bike!
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I would LOVE to be in a position to say "Hell, yeah! Let's go at lunch and drive one off the lot, head out today for a road trip!" I am absolutely thrilled that this dream of his includes me on the back of the bike!
Then make it work.

Show him how thrilled you are by doing something about it rather than giving him the "yes, but"
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I would LOVE to be in a position to say "Hell, yeah! Let's go at lunch and drive one off the lot, head out today for a road trip!" I am absolutely thrilled that this dream of his includes me on the back of the bike!
Don't think in absolutes.

Instead say " I'll go with you and look, if you promise me that we won't buy until we have discussed it at home."

Ask what model he is looking at, then learn about it and the difference between it and other brands.

Discuss what a "Trip" is. Are you going to be multi-week, mega mile road warriors (I am) or are you going to be weekend in the country riders or are you going to do short hops on sunny Saturdays? Answering those questions will narrow your bike needs down and give you a better idea of cost.

You don't necessarily need to become the Biker Babe from Hell overnight (but I do wish you well) to make his dreams valid. You just need to let his enthusiasm sweep you up a little. Just by showing a true interest in what he is thinking goes a long, long way. I am a man who likes big loud toys. I love when my wife "gets it" even if she doesn't always agree. Her gift at the beginning of the year was a guys racing weekend in some ultra expensive cars-What a gal.

P.S. Find some random question to hit him with that lets him know you are looking..."Hey, what kind of performance gains would we get if you installed a Mikuni 42mm Smoothbore on that?"
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Better to beg forgiveness,

than ask for permission.....LOL
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