The sad thing is that this guy is probably not a troll. Now I am well down the track of recovering from a narcissistic relationship this looks painfully familiar.
His wife knows about the affair in her heart. She knows that he is disconnected but she is hoping beyond hope that that funny, charming man she fell in love with will return. Of course he won't. He will feed her just enough emotional breadcrumbs to keep her on the hook. He will convince all around him that he is a great Dad and friend to his wife. I feel sorry for the OW in this case. He is brilliant at holding people with his charm and wit in normal situations. She is being abused just as much as his wife and is in for a terrible and crushing blow to her sense of self.
The end to this?
His wife will at some point flick out of denial I really hope somebody tells her. She will find out though and she will leave him. I hope she doesn't choose an affair as a way out. Sadly I suspect she will and suffer for that too.
This man is only half as clever as he thinks he is. Maybe not even that.
Whichever way she chooses to go she is in for an incredibly painful period of turmoil and torment followed by another set of emotions about the waste of her life.
The OW will see him for what he is, but perhaps too late to save herself and family.
This man may get away with it. So many do, and then just move on to the next trusting soul who falls for his big smile and charm. You can't fool all of the people all of the time though and this will catch up with him.
The "I love my wife" is particularly telling. In his mind he does. He can genuinely not see that his actions are the very antithesis of love. He can not see that his children will never forgive him for this as they turn to adults and they see the world through those adult eyes. He can't see because he has no empathy. I am sure he is very sympathetic to peoples problems, but that is not the same thing is it.
This is so sad because he sees people who live by the golden Rule
as sad losers. Throughout human history and across religions and philosophies this is the only common thread to a good life for yourself.
A life where you can live with yourself and others. If you break it and keep breaking it you go to hell. That is hell on earth. Your own very private and torturous hell. Society will not tolerate it. It simple can't afford to
I pity this man.