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Old 05-01-2012, 06:57 PM   #91 (permalink)
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Dude there will be a time your wife will figure you out
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Old 05-02-2012, 03:22 AM   #92 (permalink)
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i REALLY DO HAVE SOME OF THE HAPPIEST KIDS YOU COULD EVER MEET. THAT IS SO TRUE. I CAN'T HELP IT IF MOST OF 'YOU' PEOPLE HAVE GONE THRU THE MISERY OF BEING STEPPED ON AND LEFT IN THE DUSK. All I'm getting is loser talk!!!
You’ve massively betrayed your wife and your children for a very long time in the most heinous of ways.

When they discover your betrayal the immediate emotional effect on them will be massive distress, they may even be severely traumatised and experience nervous breakdowns. Through their distress they will know for certain that you have caused them immense amounts of pain and that pain will generate huge amounts of anger inside of them for you.

And when they’ve finally come to terms with their distress, pain and anger they will feel repulsed by the person who caused it. And that’s you, their husband and father.

And then they’ll seek some form of justice and punishment of you, the person who is the cause of their trauma, pain, anger and repulsion. The way they punish you could well last to the end of your lifetime.


It will take them years to process your betrayal.
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Old 05-02-2012, 03:58 AM   #93 (permalink)
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BTW the other woman has her MBA while my wife has two degrees.
Why settle down when you can move up? just for the record LOL
Spoken like the true narcissist you are. Those words are the expression of a person with NPD.


You must consider yourself such an academic failure. But no. As a narcissist it will be the systems fault, not yours.
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Old 05-05-2012, 10:32 AM   #94 (permalink)
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i REALLY DO HAVE SOME OF THE HAPPIEST KIDS YOU COULD EVER MEET. THAT IS SO TRUE. I CAN'T HELP IT IF MOST OF 'YOU' PEOPLE HAVE GONE THRU THE MISERY OF BEING STEPPED ON AND LEFT IN THE DUSK. All I'm getting is loser talk!!!
It will be interesting to see what your kids think about your fathering when they find out how you betrayed your family. And they will.

And loser talk? OK, those of us with integrity and honor are all losers. Showing no character makes you the winner. There. Does that feed your personality disordered ego sufficiently now? LOL
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Old 05-05-2012, 10:51 AM   #95 (permalink)
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BTW the other woman has her MBA while my wife has two degrees.
Why settle down when you can move up? just for the record LOL
Clearly you don't see these women as human beings.... just objects... i feel sorry for the both of them.
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Old 05-05-2012, 11:22 AM   #96 (permalink)
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i REALLY DO HAVE SOME OF THE HAPPIEST KIDS YOU COULD EVER MEET. THAT IS SO TRUE. I CAN'T HELP IT IF MOST OF 'YOU' PEOPLE HAVE GONE THRU THE MISERY OF BEING STEPPED ON AND LEFT IN THE DUSK. All I'm getting is loser talk!!!
Nope, I haven`t been "stepped on or left in the dust" and I think you`re a narcissistic ass.

Actually I really think you`re just a troll because I find it hard to believe such an extreme narcissistic ass could exist.
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Old 05-07-2012, 05:13 PM   #97 (permalink)
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Is there a "Please don't feed the troll" sign anywhere in the Smilies?
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Old 05-07-2012, 08:47 PM   #98 (permalink)
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The sad thing is that this guy is probably not a troll. Now I am well down the track of recovering from a narcissistic relationship this looks painfully familiar.

His wife knows about the affair in her heart. She knows that he is disconnected but she is hoping beyond hope that that funny, charming man she fell in love with will return. Of course he won't. He will feed her just enough emotional breadcrumbs to keep her on the hook. He will convince all around him that he is a great Dad and friend to his wife. I feel sorry for the OW in this case. He is brilliant at holding people with his charm and wit in normal situations. She is being abused just as much as his wife and is in for a terrible and crushing blow to her sense of self.

The end to this?
His wife will at some point flick out of denial I really hope somebody tells her. She will find out though and she will leave him. I hope she doesn't choose an affair as a way out. Sadly I suspect she will and suffer for that too.

This man is only half as clever as he thinks he is. Maybe not even that.

Whichever way she chooses to go she is in for an incredibly painful period of turmoil and torment followed by another set of emotions about the waste of her life.

The OW will see him for what he is, but perhaps too late to save herself and family.

This man may get away with it. So many do, and then just move on to the next trusting soul who falls for his big smile and charm. You can't fool all of the people all of the time though and this will catch up with him.

The "I love my wife" is particularly telling. In his mind he does. He can genuinely not see that his actions are the very antithesis of love. He can not see that his children will never forgive him for this as they turn to adults and they see the world through those adult eyes. He can't see because he has no empathy. I am sure he is very sympathetic to peoples problems, but that is not the same thing is it.

This is so sad because he sees people who live by the golden Rule as sad losers. Throughout human history and across religions and philosophies this is the only common thread to a good life for yourself.

A life where you can live with yourself and others. If you break it and keep breaking it you go to hell. That is hell on earth. Your own very private and torturous hell. Society will not tolerate it. It simple can't afford to

I pity this man.
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I hope your wife finds out about your cheating ways, divorces your ass and takes you for all you have.

And from a child of a parent who cheated...I still get angry when I think of what my dad put my mom thru all those years he cheated on her. I hope your children are disgusted with you when they find out about your nasty cheating ways.
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Old 05-15-2012, 05:51 PM   #101 (permalink)
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Ok wow didn't think of that..maybe his poor wife knows but "doesn't wanna know" so sad
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I swear I saw a "Don't Feed the Trolls" sign laying around here somewhere......
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I swear I saw a "Don't Feed the Trolls" sign laying around here somewhere......
Agreed. The guy's user name says it all really...
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I swear I saw a "Don't Feed the Trolls" sign laying around here somewhere......
Hes perfectly normal for a Narcissist.
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Old 05-18-2012, 12:31 PM   #105 (permalink)
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*singing*

Trollin'....on a Friday afternoon.
Ahhh ahhh ahhhhhh
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