MEN...do you wish your wives LESS EMOTIONAL -how do you handle the roller coaster?
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Do you wish you had a LD husband?
Many women do not want the HD....thinking of the FLIP SIDE of this...
Do men wish their wives were LESS EMOTIONAL ... or is this something they cherish about the feminine? Possibly depending on the circumstances I suppose, if they are emotional FOR YOU because they love you... or get too emotional over what you deem "insignificant" little things.
I know men see this as a weakness in other men big time... but how do you feel about it ...in women... do you enjoy the role of comforting when she is teary eyed, feeling down or you want to push her off on a friend, call her sister .... or see it as an inconvenience you have to muddle through...wanting to immediately FIX?
As for my husband... he LOVES my emotional drippy side, I think he sees enough of the other (assertive , confident , bi***y)....this gives me some balance I suppose...I can tear up within a few lines of a Love Song...talking about us, often he'll say "get a grip!" with a big ... and get me Pms... could just be something I am thinking... I can feel the cloud hovering.
It seems with myself... no matter what the feeling is.... it tends to be rather intense...passionate even...but that goes for ANGER just the same as Love & Lust ....so it is not always a bowl of roses by any means. I know us women have our moments...at least I do!
But still - he has told me...he wouldn't take this away - will take the good along with the bad...heck I even balled when he told me that, his saying ....it wouldn't be "ME" otherwise. He knows how to sweet talk it I guess ! But true, my husband is a more emotional guy -being high on the beta scale...and well ... rather patient too....I need a man like that!
So what about you other men ...your thoughts on women's emotions...the good, the bad, the ugly... you cherish or you would change ??
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I know *I* wish I was less emotional sometimes - and better able to "pick my battles" - BUT my access to emotions is something my husband has said he cherishes about me. He is nowhere near the emotional or sentimental side of things, that may be why.
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Originally Posted by unbelievable
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This does not at all surprise me Unbelievable - as I almost used one of your quotes in this opening thread...your words on the "ugly truth about men " thread ... You said >>
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e. we don't hear 80% of what you say. Pretending to listen is our plan to get you in the sack.
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I don't have an issue with the emotions themselves.
The issue is when identical situations generate vastly different emotional reactions.
A joke one day is funny, the next day it is reason for anger, the next day it is a reason to pout. Then, the absence of the same joke gets turned into a lack of humor.
It's like playing a game where no one told me the rules, the rules are fluid according to her whims, and I am wearing a blindfold.
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I love it and i cherish it i guess its something i like about the female and the feminine side. My wife is not selfish she is not a liar and she is not irrational. At times i dislike when we argue and i prove her wrong and lets say the facts and evidence all point to her being wrong she often takes it personal and will be like "okay whatever" or "okay your right" but instead of it being calm its like often "uuuuuuuhh" that feeling she gives her body language at least.
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Originally Posted by Goldmember357
I love it and i cherish it i guess its something i like about the female and the feminine side. My wife is not selfish she is not a liar and she is not irrational. At times i dislike when we argue and i prove her wrong and lets say the facts and evidence all point to her being wrong she often takes it personal and will be like "okay whatever" or "okay your right" but instead of it being calm its like often "uuuuuuuhh" that feeling she gives her body language at least.
I enjoy a little conflict sometimes (we have bad days but generally our fights are so retarded that we end up laughing about them half way through the rediculousness)....... I never lie (sometimes I likely should suger coat, I can be rough with the truth!).... never been passive aggressive a day in my life (Could likely use some of that).... Don't think anyone would call me irrational....Reason is my GOD.... I can be very humble about my own faults....I strive to forgive as well as be forgiven, I refuse to blame shift, even if I look bad, I will take my lumps.
Can I be a little selfish sometimes .... yeah ......but if he listens to me... hears me out, if we reason together... once I feel heard & understood, this greatly calms me...and Peace floods me once again. Some of that selfishness just melts away....of course If I want his body, he is not going to win! Ha ha
I have never "needed" to call a friend, he was always there.... the 1st one I run too. Most of my hurt over the years has been external forces outside of our family... rarely from my husband's hand.
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Originally Posted by chillymorn
I would think just like sex drive some women are more emotional than others and I wish my wifes emotions were less and her sex drive was more! LOL.
I agree with this ....and much is related to inborn temperments as well. A Phlegmatic temperment is likely going to be less outright emotional than a Melancholy temperment. I got a dose of (2) of what they term the "hard" temperments ... the raging choleric and the sensitive Melancholy.
This would explain my assertive aggressive take charge side... then the drippy sappy sensitive side as well. (the Choleric is LESS emotional whereas the Melancholy IS EMOTIONAL - so this evens me out some, so I am not totally over the top. I can always control my emotions, but when they are loving & with my husband, I would rather give in to them. I don't think I have ever cried at a funeral , for instance.
If you happen to marry a Sanguine /Melancholy, you will have a DOUBLE emotional woman. If you happen to marry a Choleric /Plegmatic woman, you will have a MINUS in the emotonal - as these are the (2) unemotional temperments.
Scroll down to the middle of this page... can compare all of these things ...also self esteem , quick & slow reactions, which is naturally Pessimistic vs Optimistic as well.
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I don't mind the emotional roller coaster as long as its not every day AND appropriate for the situation. There are times when we have to be adults and deal with the situation and cry about it later.
One example I vividly remember was when our son was 2 and he stepped on an ant hill at the park. The ants started to bite him, and my exw just lost it and started crying and froze up. I ran over, took off his clothes in five seconds and hosed him off with water almost naked (poor guy) while she is still hyperventilating.
After about what seemed like an eternity she came over and comforted him while I got a blanket and took him home. After things calmed down I asked her what happened at the park to her and she said she was "overwhelmed with anxiety" and froze up. She got angry at me for even asking about it.
Emotions are healthy but they need to be under control. There is nothing more sexy and attractive than a woman that is feminine and knows how to handle herself when it matters.
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Actually, both of us are emotional. We both are passionate, feel very deeply, and are very sentimental (maybe because we both have artistic temperaments). I love that about her, she loves that about me. I guess I am not a typical guy in this way. I love chick flicks and I can get teary eyed at commercials! Hey, it has worked for us for almost 40 years. I guess you could say we are riding on the same roller coaster!
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No, I do not. I'm comfortable with my emotions and, in general, the emotional landscape around me. Much more concerning though is how this would squelch Carol. I do make changes to Carol on occasion but this... this would be making her less Carol-esque... an automatically bad thing.
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Originally Posted by romantic_guy
Actually, both of us are emotional. We both are passionate, feel very deeply, and are very sentimental (maybe because we both have artistic temperaments). I love that about her, she loves that about me. I guess I am not a typical guy in this way. I love chick flicks and I can get teary eyed at commercials! Hey, it has worked for us for almost 40 years. I guess you could say we are riding on the same roller coaster!
I LOVE this Romantic_Guy....this doesn't surprise me at all coming from you......I picked you out early on, could tell by every word in your posts- you were a Hopeless Romantic ..... and yeah... my husband is the same... though he's never gotten teary eyed at commercials.... that is just me....especially those darn Hallmark card ones!
I think he has over movies though (Geeze I am not sure! ) ....and yeah... bring those Chick Flicks on...he enjoys them right along side me.
I deeply deeply love these things about him too... We are riding the same roller coaster as well !
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MEN...do you wish your wives LESS EMOTIONAL -how do you handle the roller coaster? 
... or is this something they cherish about the feminine? Possibly depending on the circumstances I suppose, if they are emotional FOR YOU because they love you... or get too emotional over what you deem "insignificant" little things. 
... and get me 
Pms... could just be something I am thinking... I can feel the cloud hovering. 
