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post #136 of 262 (permalink) Old 05-02-2012, 02:57 PM Thread Starter
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..meaning we learn to objectify ourselves? Because that makes sense to me.
If 'they' (society, others) think we're pretty we must be, or the reverse...we see it as others do.
If so, then, why can't we see ourselves through our husband's eyes? Has the damage already been done?
Will all the positive things they say about us EVER seem true?
I want to KNOW how to reach that point.
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Template, your words make me feel for you.

I can't describe it. I can't rationalize it. I don't understand how it works. I just know that to us, our women are sexy. The feel of my wife's skin. The look of her body when she's getting dressed and doesn't know I'm watching. The way she feels when we're making love.

The last thing on my mind is, "ugh, she could really tighten those thighs."

A prettier girl may come along, but I'd pick my wife over her any day. Your husband feels the same.

It would be my wildest dream come true if I walked into the house and she was standing there naked. The sexiest thing you can do for a man is let him know that your desire to make love to him and give yourself to any and all pleasure that you may want to experience trumps any self-concious thoughts you hold.

Like the other night, I was pleasing my wife, and I know she is completely grossed out by her own juices, but she sucked my tongue after I did it and it was the sexiest thing she has ever done in 8 years. Like the raw passion completely surpassed any of her pre-conceived notions or hangups.

Why women waste the best years of their life worrying about how their husband SHOULD think about them is a mystery to me. I say, if your husband thinks your hot, who cares what anyone else thinks? Give him the goods!
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YES, YES, YES, a thousand times YES!

I love to see my wife naked! She's had three kids and has a number of the same issues you raised but she knows I love her for who she is and not what she looks like.
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Does anyone remember the episode of "Everybody loves Raymond" where Ray thinks Debra got a boob job while he was out of town, but she didn't. She was mad when he got excited thinking of bigger boobies (she had socks in her bra).

He tells her he loves her either way, and she tells him the same, even with his flaws and he is surprised to hear she thinks he has flaws. HEHE

She tells him it doesn't matter because she sees him as a husband, father and loves him, finds him sexy, wouldnt change him etcc....

And he thinks about it for a minute and tells her " Thanks hun but screw that I wanna be a hottie!"

Thats kinda how I feel, I am SOOO GLAD my husband accepts me for who I am and I him (we are no longer shy about nakedness). But, sometimes, you just want to be a hottie, not to get attention, but just so other people can say "Wow she looks great for her age" (male or female people mind you) or think "That 'hubs' is a lucky man" You know as a fellow perfectionist you feel like you are no longer the "best version" of yourself and sometimes that is just a hard pill to swallow.

I was once like you but I have moved past it. I am doing well it and I work out and eat well. (wear a size 10 so its not like I am obese but was a size 6 BK -before kids)

Karma - you can believe your husband without him even saying a word. Try this, when he gets out of shower join him in the bathroom with only a nightie on and when he is looking, just slip it off so he has a full frontal view, then approach him and give him a long kiss. Just a kiss. I will guarantee you that another part of his body will tell you immediately how he feels about you naked!
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Has the damage already been done?
Will all the positive things they say about us EVER seem true?
unfortunately, the media starts the damage from the t!me you are very little girls.
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unfortunately, the media starts the damage from the t!me you are very little girls.
yeah, my average sized 10 yr. old daughter talks about how her thighs look fat in her shorts. Sad.
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yeah, my average sized 10 yr. old daughter talks about how her thighs look fat in her shorts. Sad.
it is very sad.
it good for them to be aware enough to be healthy but all this cr@p the media jams down your throat is sickening.
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It's horrible- I have 2 daughters & I'm trying my very, very best to impress upon them of their worthiness, apart from physicalities.
I don't talk negative about myself ever in front of them- or if something comes to light, I just point out how I love myself anyway & that I am really strong & capable regardless of what I look like.
(I should internalize these things myself!)
I am a size 4, so my issue is feeling too skinny, although, I eat healthy, workout an average amount, etc..
I WISH I had some extra weight!!
Reset- being a perfectionist messes everything up! I loved your comment, thank you!! (:
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Maybe a playful game of strip poker. It'll be really obvious how much he wants to see you naked when he's trying his hardest to win and get your clothes off as fast as possible
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Haha...sounds like a blast! We are poker pros too, we could have some fun with that!
But the more I think about it, the more I need to figure out how to GET HIM to be okay with it- what I mean is, he's spent so long trying to avoid my 'sensitive areas'
that I need to figure out how to convince him that I am okay, so he can be okay too!
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Haha...sounds like a blast! We are poker pros too, we could have some fun with that!
But the more I think about it, the more I need to figure out how to GET HIM to be okay with it- what I mean is, he's spent so long trying to avoid my 'sensitive areas'
that I need to figure out how to convince him that I am okay, so he can be okay too!
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i think if you do it and show enthusiasm and eagerness and ACT like it does not bother you, it will show him youre ok with it.
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I was thinking about which way I should do it- come out & ask how he feels about seeing me totally naked, haha..sounds so funny..
Or, just do it..as if I'm not worried about it. I am leaning toward the latter because it will appear to be more natural, less planned.
I want it to be as non-awkward as possible!!! (:
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I took my daughter to the doctor so HE could tell her that she was proportioned, healthy and of good weight. She didn't believe me. lol. Said, "You have to say I'm pretty-- you're my mom"

Then she was told again by her PE teacher this year that her BMI and weight is in the healthy range. She felt better.

I'm just a stupid mom. I don't know anything. lolll.


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They want vodka and Taco Bell.
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I was thinking about which way I should do it- come out & ask how he feels about seeing me totally naked, haha..sounds so funny..
Or, just do it..as if I'm not worried about it. I am leaning toward the latter because it will appear to be more natural, less planned.
I want it to be as non-awkward as possible!!! (:
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Just walk out naked through the livingroom into the kitchen to get some water. LOL!


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