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post #16 of 262 (permalink) Old 04-30-2012, 02:42 PM
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Re: Does he really want to see me naked?

I'll give you the other side of the equation. Most everybody agrees that he wants to see you "as is" and they are correct.

By thinking in your mind that he doesn't want to see you, you will project on him your insecurities. That can make a man feel lower than dirt.

My wife has her body issues. I don't see it that way.

One of the biggest issues we have in our relationship is that I feel guilty asking her to be open like that. Not because I have an issue with her being naked. But because asking her causes all her anxieties to surface.

No explanation or assurance from me will ever convince her that, yes, I do want to see you naked.....and other things.

The first question should always be, "If it's that bad, why are you still there?

OK, you screwed up, it happens. Now apologize. But apologize just once. Make it loud, clear, short, to the point, and directly to those you trespassed against. Then move on.
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What you don't understand is that he can't see any flaws, he just sees you the woman he wants.
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Join him in the shower soon He won't object. Promise.


Real women don't want flowers and chocolate.
They want vodka and Taco Bell.
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I love this line of thinking- that a perceived flaw could be sexy because of the way it reminds you of the life you've made together, (& what she went through to bring your children into the world.)
As for c-sections? Oh do I know what she went through! You are all so encouraging & give me excellent reminders of why I need to chill out!
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Re: Does he really want to see me naked?

my wife breast feed both out children and is somewhat saggy as she says but I actually find them sexier now than before.

and yes men(at least me) want to see everything.

when you bend over naked we want to see it Hell we want to see everything all the time!!!!!!!!!!! not only see we want to touch ,taste and enjoy!
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Re: Does he really want to see me naked?

Sext him a picture.

Wait ten (or less) seconds.

Read his responce.

Case closed.

The first question should always be, "If it's that bad, why are you still there?

OK, you screwed up, it happens. Now apologize. But apologize just once. Make it loud, clear, short, to the point, and directly to those you trespassed against. Then move on.
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..& I never imagined it would project onto him & make him feel like dirt or bad in any way! On the contrary, I assumed, (yep, I'm learning it's bad to assume,)
I was protecting him from me. I always believed that if I don't want to see me in the mirror, he won't either..I need to grow some & drop the damn towel, per LadyFrog's suggestion...
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Hahaha...I already love you guys..
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my wife breast feed both out children and is somewhat saggy as she says but I actually find them sexier now than before.

and yes men(at least me) want to see everything.

when you bend over naked we want to see it Hell we want to see everything all the time!!!!!!!!!!! not only see we want to touch ,taste and enjoy!
OMG! MY husband said the same thing. I breast fed both of my children so my breasts aren't perky. HOWEVER, hubs tells me all the time how much he loves them because they are big and squishy and soft

Imperfections don't need to be thought of as flaws.


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Hahaha...I already love you guys..
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Be careful - some of us are real pervs!!!
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..then I'm in good company!
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..I like that idea..imperfections do not need to be thought of as flaws, thank you!
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Uh-oh..ha! no qualms..I can easily admit when I'm wrong
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sexy is an attitude. act sexy and you will be sexy.

be warned sometimes you might do something sexy and he will scratch his head and say really and then you can both laugh at it and try something else.


fun and platfull that were its at.if you can't let your guard down with your husband or wife then thats a shame.
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It is so refreshing & almost unbelievable that I could be hiding out for no reason.
if he loves you, then i promise you that you are.
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