I am so glad I decided to write here~
You all are awesome :-)
We showered together about 2 months ago- it went very..ahem...well & he thanked me for inviting him in with me..
I thought it was interesting that he thanked me..that made an impression on me, so ever since I've wondered about what he thought of me initiating that.
I'm getting better at processing what he says to be honest, but it's taking practice to believe that he's meaning what he's saying.."you're sexy, hot, etc.."
I only partially believed him, but lately I've been just going with it & trusting. Again, not because he's been untrustworthy, just my personal issues that try to take over & tell me he can't possibly be serious! That sounds so bad!
It's been steadily improving though & being on here is REALLY helping as well!
(Not to mention the inner work I've been doing to gain a healthier perspective regarding myself.)
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We showered together about 2 months ago- it went very..ahem...well & he thanked me for inviting him in with me..
I thought it was interesting that he thanked me..that made an impression on me, so ever since I've wondered about what he thought of me initiating that.
he thanked you because he appreciated ityou wonder what he thought of it?
he did thank you for it. sounds like he enjoyed it. im sure he did.
he probably knows your false impression of you own body so hes not pushed for it again thinking maybe you were uncomfortable with the shower.
hes probably waiting for you and hoping you will do it again...like yesterday
You sound a lot like my wife. I'm sure my wife is older then you if you just had 3 kids. She is 43, petite, had a C section (bikini cut), and has the same insecurities about her body sometimes.
I just imagined myself when we are getting ready to make love. I let myself take the time to get in that actual state of mind, so I could truly have the sensations. I don't notice the things she worries about.
When I look at her I see her soft skin, her curves that flow right into her back side, her hard nipples, the soft texture of the bottom of her feet, her hair down her back, the sexy smirk out the side of her mouth, and a sparkle in her eye, which sends goose bumps up the middle of my back, and makes me throb, and I can imagine exactly what she is going to feel, taste, and smell like when she reaches me.
Honestly I closed my eyes and pictured it now. You need to know that us guy's are not just looking at one part of you. We see the complete you when we look at you in the moment.
I'm sure your husband feels the same things. It's the way us guy's are wired, when were in that trance of what is building, and what is to follow.
I was honest, and it took some serious focusing, but it worked. Now let your insecurities go and think of him in the monent as well, and you both should totaly be into each other. Complete bliss.
Enjoy!
My wife is self conscious about her body and will not show herself in the nude. She also thinks she is not attractive which is utter nonsense. She has a great figure, we have no kids. When we do have sex which is infrequent, its in the dark. Shes uncomfortable with daytime sex. This affects me quite negatively. After years of going through this, I dont want to have sex with her under her conditions. I give her hints i want to see her naked but she doesn't get it. Before marriage it wasnt this bad and she was trying to get over her insecurities but abandoned that post marriage.
My advice is to get over this because it is likely doing damage to your marriage. Like others have said, he wants to see you naked.
I didn't read any of the responses, but yes it is not only possible but probable.
My wife is so sexy but she has a horrible body image and always wants to cover up.
If your husband wants to see you naked, it's because he likes it.
This can be explained best by Tim Allen:
"Men go up to a mirror, find an angle that looks good, and walk out of the house. Women have 100 mirrors pointing at them from all different directions, analyze themselves from every view point, and have to look good from all directions before they can feel good about leaving the house."
Basically, if a guy thinks you look pretty, you'll turn him on, even if you have unflattering features. Your own body image makes you think that everything has to be perfect to be attractive. It's just not true.
Do your husband a favor and just start trusting him when he tells you you look good. That constant self-deprecation is annoying and way more unattractive than any stretch mark or scar.
Hi guys! I'm a new girl visiting~ I've been reading posts for a few months now & decided it's time I ask my question.
Btw- I respect & appreciate the level of intelligence & candor that is shared here by all (:
I understand that it is very important for a man to view his wife naked in all her glory..
From what I hear, it feeds a man emotionally as well as physically, etc..
I am married to a great guy & have great relationship, but my body-image is not so awesome..so it's essentially MY issue, not his.
FYI- I am petite, fit, healthy- sounds good except, my boobs are very small after nursing for a combined 4 years+ and after 3 kids, my stomach is a mess- add c-section scars & it isn't the most
attractive thing.
My question is, is it possible that he actually wants to see me naked anyway?
I'll grab a towel & cover up if he comes in the bathroom & he asks why..
I say, trust me you don't really WANT/ need to see~ yes, that is the body image issues talking & but no I have not been to counseling about it.
So, I'm genuinely asking- why would a man want to see even of it isn't good? Could you still be turned on?
Our sex life is great however because I do have the ability to let the insecurities go for a time, as long as too much isn't exposed, but if I could just quit worrying about it, it could be phenomenal.
He doesn't complain or make any negative comments because he knows it's a very touchy issue for me.
So that's it. I just don't want to disappoint him.
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You sound like a little hotty. Smile, it's okay to feel that you are.
Question time! ...how he has responded when you throw out those types of comments "trust me you don't really want to see"?
Your man gets to see all the different sides to you. Your insecurities and your bravery. I wonder if you would be brave enough to have a night focusing on your body... Candlelight, be naked, and have him kiss and caress your belly. It doesn't need to lead to sex, and dont be surprised if you cry, but I wonder if this might be something that could help you slowly become more comfortable with him. What do you think? Posted via Mobile Device
Absolutely! I know there are some women out there who share my concerns.
I love allowing light to be shed onto subjects that I sometimes feel too embarrassed to talk about.
So enlightening & helpful! Posted via Mobile Device
I think there are a lot of women out there who share your concerns (Wish I could be Dolly for a day; oh to have that kind of confidence!)
This thread is great - I'm committing it to memory
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