Hi guys! I'm a new girl visiting~ I've been reading posts for a few months now & decided it's time I ask my question.
Btw- I respect & appreciate the level of intelligence & candor that is shared here by all (:
I understand that it is very important for a man to view his wife naked in all her glory..
From what I hear, it feeds a man emotionally as well as physically, etc..
I am married to a great guy & have great relationship, but my body-image is not so awesome..so it's essentially MY issue, not his.
FYI- I am petite, fit, healthy- sounds good except, my boobs are very small after nursing for a combined 4 years+ and after 3 kids, my stomach is a mess- add c-section scars & it isn't the most
My question is, is it possible that he actually wants to see me naked anyway?
I'll grab a towel & cover up if he comes in the bathroom & he asks why..
I say, trust me you don't really WANT/ need to see~ yes, that is the body image issues talking & but no I have not been to counseling about it.
So, I'm genuinely asking- why would a man want to see even of it isn't good? Could you still be turned on?
Our sex life is great however because I do have the ability to let the insecurities go for a time, as long as too much isn't exposed, but if I could just quit worrying about it, it could be phenomenal.
He doesn't complain or make any negative comments because he knows it's a very touchy issue for me.
So that's it. I just don't want to disappoint him.
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My wife has had 4 children, all of them naturally... her stomach isn't the same flat tummy it was when I married her. It has it's wrinkles and little ripples and bumps. You know what though, I still kiss it and caress it all the time (and enjoy every second of that). I still find her whole body sexy.
If she acted self conscience about her stomach it would turn me off. I like the fact that she's comfortable with her body (flaws and all). If she was nervous/worried, I would be nervous/worried about hurting her feelings... it would just make a big issue where there didn't need to be one at all.
I bet he wants you just as you are. Just relax and enjoy your husband, because I bet he's enjoying every part of you.
U guys brought tears to my eyes, seriously.
Wow. It is so refreshing & almost unbelievable that I could be hiding out for no reason.
I definitely see the part about, if I am uncomfortable, he would be. I can tell he doesn't want to make me more self-conscious, so he tries to be careful.
If I just say f*** it, & walk around nude as could be, you think he'd actually like that? That is something I'll need to pound into my brain!
Confidence is very sexy~ I could see how if I put off a better vibe, it would make a difference..
In myself first, then him..
ahhh, thank you!!! (: Posted via Mobile Device
Absolutely! I know there are some women out there who share my concerns.
I love allowing light to be shed onto subjects that I sometimes feel too embarrassed to talk about.
So enlightening & helpful! Posted via Mobile Device
I like the Jeff Foxworthy line where he says men are thinking "I want a beer and I want to see something naked". And that something for the majority of men is their wives.
I used to have a bad body image until I started to look around. I began to think I look pretty darn good for a middle aged hag. LOL So what you might want to do is focus on what you like about your body instead of your flaws. Every woman has flaws and every woman has assets. Focus on the later and the other won't matter.
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
"Why do we fall? So we might learn to pick ourselves up."
"Itís not who we are underneath, but what we do that defines us."
Hearing how men really feel, is tremendously encouraging!
In response to Nice777..the filters we sometimes see ourselves through are often so debilitating, they hold us back, if we let them.
Media, porn, etc...makes us feel like if we aren't at that level, somehow we are sub-par, physically at least.
The fact that men check out other women, watch porn, things like that- I think those things make it hard for a girl like me to feel I measure up.
My hubby has done all this, although not in excess or in a way that was deliberately hurtful. It's just happens.
But, it also makes me less likely to want to be sexual with him.. because a self-conscious girl doesn't feel all that sexy~however I realize it's not up to him to make me confident- that's an inside job.
BUT- knowing that most of what holds me back is ME, makes it so much easier to feel comfortable just being myself & not stressing about what he's going to think. Posted via Mobile Device
If I get up close to the painting I may see some flaws. Perhaps a brush stroke here and there that wasn't done right. Perhaps some places the paint is laid on too thick. But the beauty of that painting isn't the slightest bit diminished by any perceived imperfections. I hardly even notice the perceived imperfections. It is beautiful, just as it is.
It's the same way with me when I look at my wife's body, as I'm sure it's the same for your husband. She is beautiful, just as she is.
My wife went through three C-sections to have our kids. Her stomach is nothing like it was or what she wants it to be. And yet it is so very sexy to me. It is a constant reminder of her gift to me of our children - what she went through so that we could have our three wonderful kids. It is a part of her and our life together, and makes her that much more attractive to me.