Not everyone is a giver. I mean how many women hate giving BJs?
I for one, LOVE giving my hubby BJs. I love hearing his breath, his moans, his exquisite pleasure - there is nothing hotter - except maybe when its my turn.
He makes me feel good about doing it, he tells me how awesome I am at it, and he reciprocates in kind - with passion and intensity.
I wish the women who hated giving BJs could feel the way that women like myself do - that it's a positive, loving act. Why wouldn't you want to give pleasure to someone you love? Posted via Mobile Device
there was only one girl who I didn't like going down on and she had a strong smell. she went to the dr and got ck out they said somewomen smell stronger than others.
now even though I didn't enjoy the smell I still gave willing.
So my wife saw the gynecologist this morning... and they recommended coconut oil as a lubricant. Apparently depending on what you get it can have a nice smell/taste:
I love going down but for me its all about making her cvm.
This can be problematic. All but two women I've gone down on have gotten off every time, but my wife could NEVER get off from oral. It was hugely frustrating. She would say she still wanted it, but only because she liked the attention/effort. She would say it feels nice but she never escalates. Meanwhile I had no interest in doing it because as far as I was concerned it was useless... not doing anything... not going anywhere... and I'd end up frustrated every time that this great thing that I KNOW works, doesn't work for her. I'd spend a ridiculous amount of time... 45 mins to an hour almost exclusively oral. I tried different ways of getting there, I tried having her watch porn while I'm down on her... she just can't get off from it. I've read almost every book on the subject - I should have a degree in cunnilingus. Eventually I stopped entirely.
Oddly enough, she had orgasms from intercourse most of the time.
One girlfriend I had warned me up front that she has never had an orgasm so I shouldn't be disappointed.
Yes, and no.
Yes, if she's going to enjoy my talents and get turned on. Better if I can make her cum.
No, if she's going to complain, wiggle, laugh like I'm tickling her and refuse to kiss me when I'm done .
The biggest turn off is when she says I'm hurting her....IT'S A TOUNGE!!! I'm not going to bite her!! I have a bad habbit of going down there and spending too much time....like an hr and a half!! But it's what I like to do and I don't expect her to return the favor unless she wants to.
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Personal Ratio in our Marriage is at least 10:1 (I go down on her ten times for every one she goes down on me). Used to frustrate me, but I like it.
Some things that are a turn off:
Smell: Lots of natural rinses, oils, lubes etc that can help with it. Wifey has more odor right before "happy time"
Hair: Too much hair CAN be a turnoff (but some guys prefer it), I like no hair at all, wifey was a competitive swimmer and thinks it's gross anyways.
Lack of Feedback: Girls if you feel at all comfortable, give your man some moans when he starts doing it right.
Girls who Expect an O: This is bad, my wifey compares recieving head to the most initmate massage ever. If she gets off then great, but it's only maybe 5% of the time.
Taste: Maybe less common, but some women have a slight metallic taste to them, strawberry lube fixes it.
On a weird personal note though, my wife was abused as a kid and has trouble with physical touch and gets anxiety. I sometimes put a blindfold on her and tell her to enjoy and not worry about feedback at all. I think she enjoys this the most of all, because then neither of us has ANY expectations. I happy to enjoy the giving all the time, and she enjoys the receiving.
Girls who Expect an O: This is bad, my wifey compares recieving head to the most initmate massage ever. If she gets off then great, but it's only maybe 5% of the time.
On a weird personal note though, my wife was abused as a kid and has trouble with physical touch and gets anxiety. I sometimes put a blindfold on her and tell her to enjoy and not worry about feedback at all. I think she enjoys this the most of all, because then neither of us has ANY expectations. I happy to enjoy the giving all the time, and she enjoys the receiving.
My wife used to get anxious about it. She was O'ing about 60-75% of the time. But she would get so wrapped up in the O that she would get really frustrated if anything "broke her concentration". Like if I would move my tongue at all when she was building she would get frustrated and we could be at it for over an hour sometimes and get nothing.
So I told her one night, "I'm gonna do this my way, just sit back and relax, and don't tell me what to do." And I just did it my way, took my time, spent a lot more time licking around her clit and inside of her (which she normally tells me she doesn't like). I made sure I didn't rush, just did it comfortably. It was very relaxing FOR ME, and I did it in a way that I could have gone for hours, not worrying about sticking on one spot so she could have her O, or going fast enough for her to get off (which is really tiring on my tongue).
After a really solid warmup, I started to pick up the pace a little, and she squirted me like a fountain for a solid 30 seconds and was shivering and orgasming for what seemed like a few minutes.
Now I do that every time, and she hasn't not orgasmed since. The odd side effects are that it's much more enjoyable for me (my tongue rarely gets tired), and she seems to come much more quickly. Because I'm not licking as hard or fast, she can also have me stay down there for another round sometimes.
When I did it her way, I would basically play with her for a few minutes, and then she wanted me to start licking right on her clit hard and fast. This is the woman who hates foreplay....
Hmmm. I remember dating a girl before I was married. I really liked going down on her. Not so my wife. I don't like the smell she has. Almost makes me want to puke. Well, my wife was previously married and the guy was a sex god, lots of different things they did. I'm a little boring. But in any case this has caused her to think I don't like her, don't find her attractive, etc. However to me it is very simple, I like a nicely groomed kitty that smells fresh. I guess a person can't really fix some things about themselves. So this is one big problem between us. We're still together but it adds to the drama that could spell the end eventually.
Any of you guys NOT like to preform oral sex on your wife? Posted via Mobile Device
I have a cousin who when we were much younger and just started to be sexually active would tell me he didn't really like giving oral nor receiving it. He thought it was dirty and demeaning. But that was awhile ago - maybe his attitude has changed.
My wife actually doesn't mind giving, as long as I'm freshly showered, but isn't crazy about receiving it........ go figure.
I for one, LOVE giving my hubby BJs. I love hearing his breath, his moans, his exquisite pleasure - there is nothing hotter - except maybe when its my turn.
He makes me feel good about doing it, he tells me how awesome I am at it, and he reciprocates in kind - with passion and intensity.
I wish the women who hated giving BJs could feel the way that women like myself do - that it's a positive, loving act. Why wouldn't you want to give pleasure to someone you love? Posted via Mobile Device
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