Originally Posted by Stonewall
Its not normal for me. I actively avoid that kind of stuff. We are attached at the hip and I feel completely unfullfilled when she is gone. Then again I'm a little wierd as guys go. Even in high school when all the guys would hang out together in one area and the girls in another; you could always find me hanging out with the girls. I have no idea why. I just always got along with the girls better than the guys. Go figure.
I know why.... NICE GUY NICE GUY NICE GUY
written all over you....might as well stamp it on your forehead! I mean in the genuine loving sense
.. not the hiding/faking NMMNG persona. Ha ha
My husband is too. The guys at his work joke with him about me... how I wear the pants & he has to get permission if he wants to go out...they'll call me directly and ask if he can go to the Bar...which is always a JOKE....he tells me they enjoy razzing me...and him obviously.
My husband told me once ....if he had a cave, he would want me in it. Loved that.
Sarah1003.... I really think some men get so used to a lifestyle that they have entertained before they marry...... they enjoy it...they might not want to give it up after the vows even, it has become a part of their existence --which can really hurt a marriage...if it is excessive.
Men can be all over the map in this..... as you can see in thise replies....these things can generally be seen while dating... was he like this then also??? ....had to have his "so many hours of buddy time" every week or he would get antsy, you could feel him wanting to run off, almost like withdrawl somehow?
My neighbors marriage is one I would call healthy.... both of them enjoy "doing their own thing" separately - many nights a week he has his guys friends over, they hang in the garage, basement, laughing it up, watching sports, car talk.....while she is hanging with her 2 kids..many times she'll be shopping with her Mom or sister. It doesn't bother her at all....they DIG some separateness (though I get the feeling he gets on her nerves sometimes ha ha)... but they are a good match for each other. Obviously not a "TIME" at the top of their love languages for each other. But her husband is not out every night away from the home either.... Which I think is healthy.
I feel you need to talk to him about how you are feeling.... come more to the center in this...for the betterment of your marriage to limit his time out & about with friends.
Are you aware of the Love languages -- what do you feel yours are .... and his? The 5 Love Languages Assesment Test
If you both can learn what each other is... and strive to please the other, this will help you both feel more loved.