First things first the back story. Me and husband had separated for six months, in this time frame I slept with someone else. He accused me of cheating(yes we were technically married) so we ended up getting back together. At this time we were living separately also. Three months after we separated that when we were getting back together. He took me out for my birthday and everything well needless to say a couple months of us dating he told me there was another girl that he was trying to sleep with cause it wasn't fair that I slept with someone else and he couldn't. So he tells me that he never did anything with her or vis versa. I confronted the girl and she won't talk and in my gut I feel as if he is lying to me. I just want the truth if he did or didn't, even when I asked him he would get defensive. So any help would be great, either good or bad, I just need closure to move forward.
I feel sorry for those with depression, mental illness, hangnails, bad hair, bad childhood memories, etc. I feel sorry for the visually impaired but that doesn't mean I want a blind person flying my airplane and my compassion won't make the flight any safer.
It totally depends on the nature of the separation. Was the intent to separate and get your **** together? Or was it a separation because the marriage was ending and one of you wasn’t quite ready to divorce (and if so, who’s the one who wasn’t ready)? Or, was this the required waiting period before the divorce decree could be finalized (as in the marriage was already recognized as dead and buried)?
It’s cheating in either of the first two cases. This I why I just don’t believe in separation. In or out; married or not married. Working on outside relationship is hardly a sign of “in”... You are both each other’s backup plan. Now there is even more damage that will stand in your way of reconciliation.