Thanks for the replies. My self esteem has taken quite a hit lately. THe last time I had to attract a new man was 22 yrs ago when I was 22. Naked at 22 and 44 looks very different. I just feel very self conscious when I think about being naked in front of a man other than my stbx. It's a scarey thought. I'm no where near dating but sometimes I try to envision it in the future.
one thing, you should not have to TRY to ATTRACT a man.
you should just be you and that should be enough to attract a man that wants you for you.
22 and 44 are different, and any man that is with you should have the sense to realize that.
being 44 is not a bad thing.
it does not make you less desirable. or less sexy.
How important are they really? I have been dealing with infidelity and divorce for a while and I have lost a lot of weight. I didn't have much to begin with and now they are almost non-existant. Less than an A really. Is this going to be a problem when I am ready to date again? I normally wear padded bras for clothing to look better but when dating is this deceptive?
I realize this may sound like a bizarre thing to worry about but this is the crazy stuff that goes through my mind.
Seriously? Small, medium or large ARE ALL attractive in their own way. Really, if a guy just had to have large ones ONLY, then I guess he would be missing out on a lot of great women who are small and medium. Any guy who judges you solely for that is an (unless that is his ONE thing he is attracted by) idiot who doesn't deserve to be with you anyway.
Padded bras that help clothes fit better, shouldn't be a problem when you start dating again. Good luck!
How important are they really? I have been dealing with infidelity and divorce for a while and I have lost a lot of weight. I didn't have much to begin with and now they are almost non-existant. Less than an A really. Is this going to be a problem when I am ready to date again? I normally wear padded bras for clothing to look better but when dating is this deceptive?
I realize this may sound like a bizarre thing to worry about but this is the crazy stuff that goes through my mind.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Personally, I never understood the guys who went after big boobs. I would any day take a "flat chested" a cup over a set of d's. In a perfect world, perky b's or small c's are ideal for me. Get much over that, and it begins to be a bit of a turn off for me?
Now, having said that, my W is a large D cup. And I LOVE her boobs. Not because they're my ideal boob, but because they are hers. If I was surfing porn, and came across a beautiful woman with boobs like that, I'd quickly go on to the next woman with smaller boobs. But, in this instance, I love them. I could not imagine her with, and would not want her to have smaller boobs.
My ex was an a cup. I thought they were just fine...but yes, I regardless of how I felt about her boobs "between the sheets" (I again thought they were far better than a d cup), she did use padded bras to look good in clothing. Did I feel "cheated"? Uhm, no. And I'd be wary of a guy who did. Boobs are great, and they are fun. But they are not YOU. The woman makes the boobs....not the other way around. Find a guy who realizes that.
My GF is very fit - pretty close to a fitness model. She works hard at it, and has an amazing body.
Even still, wen we met, she was terrified with the thought of anyone seeing her naked. She nursed, and she's <B / >C. She always wears bras that hide this.
The truth, however, was that I had my own body issues, too. Don't we all?
Of course I noticed. However, it didn't/doesn't matter at all. In fact, it's kind of cool that I have a choice. =D Today I don't even notice unless I think about it. She has a beautiful body, and I tell her this all the time.
Like everyone else has said, be happy in your own skin. There are PLENTY of men who look beyond cup size - and the few that don't aren't worth having.
All other things being equal, given a choice between a chubby girl w big boobs and a slim girl with little boobs, I'd take the slim girl every time. Just my personal preference but I hope it helps your confidence.
I have very small boobs and am a small woman so not enough fat for boobies, and men seem to like me just fine. All my fat is in my butt (giggle)
I became divorced after 25 years with the same man and dating was scary.
I agree that they are just as scared of you as you are of them and to just be yourself.
Who wants to wake up next to someone after 6 months anyway and find out they aren't who they made them selves out to be.
I try to be natural from the start. the ones who like me the way I am stay, the ones who don't, well, good riddance! Saves everyone a lot of time.
I am engaged now BTW, so men can love women with small boobs!
Don't buy into society's stereotypes of what women should look like. The best thing about being 44 is that you know you are sufficient. Self-confidence and a sense of humor are very attractive in both men and women. Think of people you know with physical flaws who are still attractive because they are comfortable with themselves.
I don't really care about breast size. As said before, it's all in the attitude. There's nothing sexier than a woman grabbing my hand or or mouth and lustily guiding it to a breast (of whatever size).
I can't understand women apologizing for their breast size, or fathom why anyone would want to maintain an unhealthy weight to have firmer breasts, or undergo surgery to satisfy a perceived ideal.
No matter what size of breasts you have-you can be insecure
My mom was an a cup,I've always been a d cup-the difference is that when she started dating again,she didn't have to worry about creepy men wanting to date her ONLY for her breasts
She had the same insecurities-and my advice was as it's always been to anyone-sexy isn't a boob size-it's how much confidence you exude!
Sexy is all shapes and sized-but what matters is that you have the brains to give your over all persona flair
I've rocked a thin,average and large body. Don't try to take notes from t.v or magazines of what guys want As you know most celebs get their breasts,faces and bodies altered with photoshop to be what most AREN'T.
There are a lot of guys who like a slim, less curvy body. For those guys the small breasts are part of what they like.
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How important are they really? I have been dealing with infidelity and divorce for a while and I have lost a lot of weight. I didn't have much to begin with and now they are almost non-existant. Less than an A really. Is this going to be a problem when I am ready to date again? I normally wear padded bras for clothing to look better but when dating is this deceptive?
I realize this may sound like a bizarre thing to worry about but this is the crazy stuff that goes through my mind.
Umm...if a man is going to date you based on your boob size, then you are better off with him NOT interested from the start...
You say you have lost a lot of weight...you should be happier with your new body, not worried about that minor detail. Be secure with what you have!! Us men will love that MORE than your boob size anyhow...
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Re: Question about boobs? 
As you know most celebs get their breasts,faces and bodies altered with photoshop to be what most AREN'T.
