05-24-2012, 10:49 AM
Join Date: May 2012
| | Cold Feet...?? Need a man's advice
My fiance and I have been together for 2 years and engaged for 1. Our wedding is in November. Lately, he's been bringing up some things that make me wonder if he's really in this.
Last night, for instance, he asked what I thought about trial separations and seeing other people. Then he started saying if I wanted to see other guys he might be a little jealous if I went on a romantic date, but otherwise he'd be ok with it. And if I wanted to see my ex he'd be ok with that. I said it sounded like he was just asking and saying this in the hopes that I'll be ok with it and he can go out with other girls. He kept saying he doesn't think he wants to go out with other girls and I feel like that's something he should know and not just think.
I don't know - shouldn't he feel jealous or something of the thought of me seeing other guys? And why does he want to hang out with other chicks - and obviously without me around. I just feel like he doesn't love me and I tried to discuss it with him and he kept saying, I love you and want to be with you. I just get along with girls better but I guess I can see why it doesn't make sense to hang out with them. (Especially when he goes for girls he can flirt with and who have tried to break up his relationships ie. his previous relationship ended bcuz of that and ours almost did. He gave her up, but he just asked if he could hang out with her "just once").
What's up with this? Is he just getting nervous or is he just not in love but feeling trapped because he's already proposed and all?