Dr. Rockstar

I will echo a lot of the advice on this thread about not taking it too seriously and to expect mistakes (my first time was also my wedding day, and it include breaking a soap dish in the hotel room shower). Have fun, take your time, and don't make it a goal to achieve.

I will add one more suggestion, though, and you may take it or leave it as you like. You may want to look through a sex manual to see the things you would both want to try to have a little something extra to look forward to, because if it's the first time for both of you, you may be coming to the table with different expectations. (And you should find most of these books at your closest big box bookstore.)

Complexity

Build up, Build up, Build up!

Spend as long as possible literally worshiping her body to get her aroused, from there take things very slowly and always communicate with her to see if everything is OK.

GoodToBeMarried

First of all, congratulations to your coming wedding!

Well, my wife and I were virgins until our wedding lunch reception. (Yes, we don't have wedding dinner, but just a simple lunch reception with friends and relatives. So by 2:30pm, we were alone in our Honeymoon suite )

I made the mistake of penetrating her after just a few kisses. Years later when we recollected that moment, she told me about the pain, though she did enjoy that "first time" (probably just to comfort me).

As we had the advantage of time, we went for a meal, then walked by the beach, then headed back to the room to ... you know what..., she started to enjoy our "round 2".

Then we opened our gifts and then showered together and "round 3" before going for dinner. Finally, after enjoying the night scene together, we had our "final round" before retiring.

That day was memorable to us even until today.
The conclusion of my story is, enjoy. Yes, first few intercourse could be painful to the ladies. The "blood testimony" on our bed sheet silently told of the pain my wife endured.

But the other moments like sharing romantic meals together, enjoying beautiful sunset together, showering together, etc had allowed her to relax, which contributed to easing much pain.

Year later, today, oral and manual fingering had become a must before intercourse. I don't know how you view, but willingness to go down for your wife gave her much assurance about your love. You may like to include this and manual fingering in your foreplay.

Well, so much I typed and hope it benefits you.

happylovingwife

It definitely hurt for me but it was bearable. Nothing excruciating or anything. I thought for sure it wasn't going to hurt because he had used his fingers there multiple times but alas the penis is much bigger. I did have some blood but not a ton.

I would definitely work on the angle of penetration. Do put a pillow under the hips if in missionary. I have a somewhat tipped uterus and sex hurts me still (after 2 babies) if the angle is off. He hits my cervix so I just adjust my hips until the angle works better. That's highly dependent on the physiology of the two people involved though.

xena74

I agree with all the above post, slow and lots of lube!

If her hymen is in tact, bring a towel from home to the hotel. While some women may not bleed that much...I thought I was gonna dye from blood loss, not pain. Pain was bearable, but the sight of the blood when the lights came back on made the guy sick!

**guess I should have told him I was a virgin first!***

heartsdelight

I was so worried about having sex I bought vaginal dilators off amazon. They're made for people who have vaginismus (basically they can't have sex because they "lock up") and start the size of a small tampon and work up to a pretty decent sized insert. If you have some money for that, I think it was very helpful for me to take it very slowly with a tad pit of discomfort over several weeks rather than a big burst of pain (although I'm a bit of weenie). Has she ever had a gyno exam? I had to get those starting at age 15 due to health reasons and they ALWAYS hurt, so I think that's part of where my fear came from (because obviously my husband's penis is the same thing as a metal speculum *shudder*).

Like everyone said, start slow. Don't even assume you're going to have sex right after the wedding. Give your wife some room for things. Plan activities that you can enjoy that don't depend on sex- a bubble bath/shower to get to know each other's bodies if you haven't really gone that far can be really relaxing. Massages are my personal favorite and always get me in the mood (or sleepy...be careful with that one lol). Get yourself excited about lots of foreplay and discovering what gets your soon to be going and you'll probably get to the point where she's begging to give sex a shot.

And be very liberal with the lube. Better safe than sorry, and it works wonders.

anonymouskitty

My wife was a virgin too, don't worry mate all you need to do is calm her nerves down and make her feel as comfortable as possible, try keeping the mood as light as possible, joke around a bit and act like a clown, the more she's comfortable with you the better it will be.

Follow this up with a long foreplay session, don't try to get her off or anything. It usually takes a few times before you can bring her off. And Don't have high expectations . Since its your first time too it won't probably last long but thats alright.

Keep a water based lubricant and prop her up on a pillow(beneath her butt), your first stroke should be hard. After that just stop and give her time to adjust, soothe her down a little and then start pumping into her slowly and increase the tempo as you go.

Keep reassuring her with your words and little kisses here and there,
and above all try and control your own nerves, your goal is not to give her an orgasm but shared fulfillment meaning enjoy it as much as possible, if you are nervous enough that little weenie boy won't get up crack a joke out of it......psst I was damn nervous the first time I had sex with my future wife too and actually couldn't get it up, breathe deep and try and delay your own orgasm ( again don't have high expectations here)

Have fun and all the best

Warning : There Will Be Blood

Caribbean Man

My wife was a virgin too at marriage.
The first time was impossible,I was tired but she was excited & nervous.
After that everything went smoothly.